to think that men are just fucking noisy and I am not "sensitive" to noise?

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2 (ex) husbands. 2 Sons. 4 Daughters.

Every single man I have shared a house with has been so sodding noisy! Why simply open a door when you can wrench it open and slam it shut?! Why walk when you can stomp?!

My BIL, my father, my partner (we dont live together by choice), all noisy. My DD's, my sister, my mother, me....we just dont galump around like rhino's on acid.

And no, its not weight or size. Some of the women are larger/heavier than some of the men and yet still seem to manage to navigate their way through the world without sounding like they are invading a nation.

Sick to bloody death of youngest DS (17) wrenching his bedroom door off the hinges, stomping into the bathroom, slamming the doors, stomping down the stairs..... Got cross tonight and he said "yeah, dad said you are oversensitive to noise". FFS, I am a metal fan! Loud noise does not bother me, but unneccessary loud noise does! DS's dad is 2 inches shorter than me, and when we were married, weighed less than me but still managed to make more noise than the audience at a Taylor Swift gig...ok exaggerating but you get the point.

Sympathies OP. My brother is exactly like this and my DP to a lesser extent.

Are the lads in your family also flat footed?

Not sure about the flat footed thing but I dont think so, DS2 is happy to leave wet footprints around the house when he has been in the shower and I havent noticed!

I didnt realise that it would turn into a political battle of the sexes. No man hating here I can assure you!

Of course you didn’t realise. 🤔 You must be very proud that your thread has given you so much attention. Well done. ⭐️

WTF is your problem?

Why exactly do you think I posted this? Please be specific.

My husband is the noisiest person I've ever met... to the point that it makes me want to leave him. Seriously.

Stomping around the house.
Slamming the fridge/freezer door.
Sneezing louder than I ever thought possible.
Chronic throat-clearing (this is the worst one... it's hundreds of times a day and the noise goes right through me).
Exceptionally loud telephone voice.
Never shuts up talking.
Loud chomping and lip-smacking.
Sniffing/snorting all the time.
Snoring.

I've literally sat and timed him to see how long he can go in a day without making a noise. He got to a maximum of about 15 seconds. It does my head in.

Oh God! The bloody unnecessary loud sneezing with added drama. I hate it!

It’s so weird – there must be a million MN threads about men being noisy/dressing gown of doom/messy/whatever and they’re usually lighthearted with a side of “need a new patio”. I’ve never seen one like this, with so much anger and so many posters determined to have a fight. I wonder if it was linked somewhere else.

With so many “galumpers” in your life it’s a you problem!

Why have you not brought your son up to be able to move around your quietly? Why have you’ve allowed this issue to continue?

You certainly sound like you hate men!

Leave him, honestly let him live his life.

Oh but that’s not the women’s fault, neither us then raising loud men!

Women do that too, I had a work colleague who did ridiculously loud sneezes.
But it is probably true that men do more "performative" sneezing.

My late wife would keep threatening to buy me a cat collar and bell as I am too quiet around the house.

Growing up in a house where people do shift work really does teach quietness.

2pence · Yesterday 15:46
Men are empowered to take up more space and make more noise in a patriarchal society. It starts from infancy.

Look at any primary school playground. Football takes up the middle of the playground, makes the most noise. The girls play their imagination or skipping games on the edge, often making very little noise, but always staying out of the way of the football, knowing their place.

Yes, I agree.

Most pps aren't misandrists! My husband is absolutely lovely (always has been) and so are all our male friends. And that's because neither of us would put up with the sort of men being complained about here.

There is a category of men who just are inconsiderate, domineering, loud, entitled and brash. Maybe some women are like this too (haven't met too many who are domineering). It's got to be a societal problem - they are brought up with a particular model of manhood and to be any other way in that culture would be interpreted as weakness and lay them open to victimisation by their peers.

Come on - people complaining about misandry must have been caught in a tuve carriage with a load of drunk football supporters, or been knocked into the gutter by a horde of drunk men roaring and swaggering? Or just been deafened and intimidated by numbers of these men in the pub making so much racket that you basically can't hear yourself think?

It's horrible (often group) behaviour and while women might occasionally be loud and inconsiderate it really is more a male thing in my long experience.

Badbadbunny · Yesterday 10:35

Totally my experience too - sorry if that offends some people.

And the way they look at you (as a woman) when you speak to them - it's just like being in the primary school playground sometimes - they really, really don't want to have to engage with a woman and you just get grunts.

We've gradually got to know a small handful of superb tradesmen who are quiet, professional, civilised, courteous and considerate and guess what - they are snowed under with work. Wish they were all like that.

Am cringeing at the amateur etymologists thinking they are being clever in their desperation to point out that all words are ‘made up’. It was pretty clear that poster was talking about misandry being an invented concept rather than talking about the actual letters making up the word itself.

In any case, they don’t seem to understand the point the person was making, and are nitpicking rather than debating the important part of the comment.

Why do you think it’s a made up concept? You actually believe it doesn’t exist?

The important part of many of the comments is that they show misandry is alive and kicking!

I was once in a mixed hospital ward that happened to have all women in it. Quiet, peaceful, everyone getting on with reading boos or whatever.

Then a man arrived and we were subjected to his loud huffing and puffing, lying on his bed topless (ok so that wasn't noisy but it did make me think of what David Attenborough would make of his "display" 😆) and having music blasting out of his laptop instead of using earphones like everyone else.

It was quite striking that his presence needed to be announced so obviously.

Also you can always hear male joggers coming! Is running and breathings simultaneously just easier for women ?

Never heard a male tennis player grunt as loud as Maria Sharapova though.

That's true! 😝