to think that men are just fucking noisy and I am not "sensitive" to noise?

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2 (ex) husbands. 2 Sons. 4 Daughters.

Every single man I have shared a house with has been so sodding noisy! Why simply open a door when you can wrench it open and slam it shut?! Why walk when you can stomp?!

My BIL, my father, my partner (we dont live together by choice), all noisy. My DD's, my sister, my mother, me....we just dont galump around like rhino's on acid.

And no, its not weight or size. Some of the women are larger/heavier than some of the men and yet still seem to manage to navigate their way through the world without sounding like they are invading a nation.

Sick to bloody death of youngest DS (17) wrenching his bedroom door off the hinges, stomping into the bathroom, slamming the doors, stomping down the stairs..... Got cross tonight and he said "yeah, dad said you are oversensitive to noise". FFS, I am a metal fan! Loud noise does not bother me, but unneccessary loud noise does! DS's dad is 2 inches shorter than me, and when we were married, weighed less than me but still managed to make more noise than the audience at a Taylor Swift gig...ok exaggerating but you get the point.

He does keep saying it but they just don't seem to get it, there's only so much he can do without seeming rude. They're not doing anything shocking, they just seem to have really loud voices and move about really loudly. Sometimes he takes them outside to tinker in the shed if they're getting really loud. It's not that often tbf!

Isn’t it!

Misandry is alive and kicking on MN!

He does keep saying it but they just don't seem to get it, there's only so much he can do without seeming rude. They're not doing anything shocking, they just seem to have really loud voices and move about really loudly. Sometimes he takes them outside to tinker in the shed if they're getting really loud. It's not that often tbf!

Often enough for you to want to join in on a thread saying men are noisy though.... but then when it’s pointed out that your partner sounds shit, it’s suddenly not that bad. 🙄

What an awful thread!

We've now stopped to the new low of diagnosing "workmen" as having ADHD, them being thick and as incapable academically.

Can you just imagine reversing the sexes and applying this to hairdressers, beauticians, or whatever trade many women choose?

Appalling.

But it’s ok, because they are only menz!

I agree, it’s awful!

I suspect it's to do with women being expected to be quiet and dainty and careful: to be noticed as little and to take up as little space as possible. As much as we (specifically I) want to rebel against this, a lot of it is ingrained from birth.

Often enough for you to want to join in on a thread saying men are noisy though.... but then when it’s pointed out that your partner sounds shit, it’s suddenly not that bad.

I'm not really seeing the need for the antagonism here. I was just agreeing with OP that yes, a lot of men seem to be really loud. Yes my DP could be harder on them for being loud, he could be quieter himself while he's at it! Why does this need to be an argument?

I'm not really seeing the need for the antagonism here. I was just agreeing with OP that yes, a lot of men seem to be really loud. Yes my DP could be harder on them for being loud, he could be quieter himself while he's at it! Why does this need to be an argument?

Because you want to be ‘in’ with all the women slagging off men on this thread, but oh no, not your Nigel, he’s different. Maybe he is, that’s because being noisy isn’t a man thing. And I say that as a woman who stands for no shit from men and see how problematic many men are in our society. Making ‘noise’ be a ‘man thing‘ is pathetic and actually undermines what are the real problems with men that need talking about.

Because you want to be ‘in’ with all the women slagging off men on this thread, but oh no, not your Nigel, he’s different. Maybe he is, that’s because being noisy isn’t a man thing. And I say that as a woman who stands for no shit from men and see how problematic many men are in our society. Making ‘noise’ be a ‘man thing‘ is pathetic and actually undermines what are the real problems with men that need talking about.

.... I think you're looking at this a lot more deeply than I am. I have observed that a lot of men seem to be really loud when they go about their daily lives. Yes including my DP, though he isn't as bad as all of his peers which is probably down to having been a parent for ten years and learning that when you've just got your kid to sleep, you don't want to be making loads of noise. I'm not "slagging them off", it's just a simple observation. I don't agree that that's pathetic, and I also don't think it's surprising that men are generally louder as A) they are physically larger and have deeper voices and B) they are often not expected to be as considerate of others from a young age and are often encouraged to be physical and hyper more so than young girls are.

You have far more of a bee in your bonnet about this than I do. To me it's just a simple observation. A lot of men seem to be really loud.

Yes, but not your Nigel @aSofaNearYou. 🤣

What is your problem? I've said multiple times, including my DP. How much do you require me to castigate him specifically?

Me too - especially the clumping around - my ex MIL was tiny but she used to thump about the house like an elephant.

Like a family shouting match on some awful midge plagued beach just as the rain sets in.

Grimly fascinating though?

The worst thing is the laughing though. Why, when men are having a good time, is it necessary for them to rattle the walls with their raucous laughter. Just calm down

Seriously? Women shriek at the tops of their voices once they've got a couple of glasses of prosecco inside them.

I have no either why people of either sex can't have a good time without trying to make sure the whole street/restaurant/town centre can hear.

Yes that's true - though I was mainly talking about sober men on just a normal day. Personally, I haven't known nearly as many women make a notable amount of noise just going about their business.

Men are empowered to take up more space and make more noise in a patriarchal society. It starts from infancy.

Look at any primary school playground. Football takes up the middle of the playground, makes the most noise. The girls play their imagination or skipping games on the edge, often making very little noise, but always staying out of the way of the football, knowing their place.

It happens all the time in MN , PPs egg each other on !

I suspect it's to do with a lot of women on here despising anything they don't like, particularly if that thing happens to have a penis.

Oh 💯

Respond to him as though he's speaking to you, at the same volume. Surprising how many people shut up when random strangers join the conversation.

Agreed

Yes! Most men in the kitchen cooking or washing up are noisy as hell! Sounds like blasting a cannon ball through B&Q

BlastedIce · Today 12:48
SofiaSoFar · Today 12:46

What an awful thread!

We've now stopped to the new low of diagnosing "workmen" as having ADHD, them being thick and as incapable academically.

Can you just imagine reversing the sexes and applying this to hairdressers, beauticians, or whatever trade many women choose?

Appalling.
But it’s ok, because they are only menz!

I agree, it’s awful!”

Yes, it is. Wonder what the replies would be if someone had asked why are women all so stupid that they choose to marry loud men?

Yes, it is. Wonder what the replies would be if someone had asked why are women all so stupid that they choose to marry loud men?

I don't think that's equivalent, though. Stupid is only ever going to be meant as a hurtful insult, whereas loud could be meant in an exasperated but affectionate manner. It's not as inherently insulting a term.

And to think I started this in reaction to DS crashing out of his bedroom, in and out of the bathroom, down the stairs and back up to his bedroom, and I was exasperated. I realised that all the noisy galumpers in my life have been men, my father, my sons, my ex.....

Yes yes I should have put a pages long list of disclaimers starting with NAMALT but it was just a comment, an observation from my own POV and wondering if others had found the same. I didnt realise that it would turn into a political battle of the sexes. No man hating here I can assure you!