to think that men are just fucking noisy and I am not "sensitive" to noise?

[PyongyangKipperbang]

2 (ex) husbands. 2 Sons. 4 Daughters.

Every single man I have shared a house with has been so sodding noisy! Why simply open a door when you can wrench it open and slam it shut?! Why walk when you can stomp?!

My BIL, my father, my partner (we dont live together by choice), all noisy. My DD's, my sister, my mother, me....we just dont galump around like rhino's on acid.

And no, its not weight or size. Some of the women are larger/heavier than some of the men and yet still seem to manage to navigate their way through the world without sounding like they are invading a nation.

Sick to bloody death of youngest DS (17) wrenching his bedroom door off the hinges, stomping into the bathroom, slamming the doors, stomping down the stairs..... Got cross tonight and he said "yeah, dad said you are oversensitive to noise". FFS, I am a metal fan! Loud noise does not bother me, but unneccessary loud noise does! DS's dad is 2 inches shorter than me, and when we were married, weighed less than me but still managed to make more noise than the audience at a Taylor Swift gig...ok exaggerating but you get the point.

Take their bedroom doors off their hinges. They can have them back when they promise to stop slamming doors.

Yeah , sometimes I miss being in a relationship. But reading this thread has confirmed my decision to remain single since I broke up with my ex. Still love her and the kids and we get on great. I think we singletons get spoilt though. I like a quiet life and this thread is one noisy mess. Give my head some peace ✌

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perhaps they are in the main decent men, perhaps they are unnecessarily noisy decent men -
I recall David Attenborough’s wife in interview in response to a question, of how clumsy he was in the house, breaking things, flailing his arms, excited, lumbering, how worse it was when he came home from an expedition as he was used to the space be that jungle or tundra, then confined, their large house wasn’t big enough
to contain his exuberance.
This was not misandry but exasperated adoration, as many posters here describe.

And lots are just plain nasty about men.

All words were made up to start with. Misandry is made up as is misogyny.
Even common words were new at some time .

Sometimes I wish he'd make more noise. I forget he's in somedays. When the girls were here it was different the two of them arguing, on the phone, music etc. Miss all that now they're off living their own lives. House is quiet. As for breaking things, he's the sort that will undo knots rather than cut them, ease of sellotape so as not to rip the paper.

Oh god I am with you!! Even down to getting a pack of crisps out the bag!! My head inside goes crazy, how much noise just getting a packet out of a packet or making cereal lol I have my partner and 3 boys 2 of which are just unnecessary noisy. I keep my mouth shut but my head inside goes crazy

Read this as "with gratuitous snot" 😂 which is exactly what my husband does. All over the floor. He NEVER catches his sneezes 😡😡 he also suffers with hay fever and I have to watch a plume of bodily fluids eject from his face holes on a daily basis.

Misogyny is also a made up word, made up by women who don’t like being called out on their shit.

Erm no it isn't and anyone who experiences it will tell you your attitude is bollocks.

According to the Oxford English Dictionary the English word "misogyny" was coined in the middle of the 17th century from the Greek misos 'hatred' + gunē 'woman'. The word was rarely used until it was popularised by second-wave feminism in the 1970s.

So it was a made up word earlier than the 1970s?

@BlastedIce

Do you find all text difficult to read, or just that I've posted?

And I’m sure that anyone that experiences misandry would tell you that your attitude was bollocks as well.

i think you mean to say do I find it difficult to comprehend? 🙄

@BlastedIce

No I mean read.

Yes I can read.

@BlastedIce

Congratulations, perhaps you could read and educate yourself to stop making ignorant comments?

What an offensive thread.

I genuinely can’t remember the last time I woke in my own time. My husband gets up at around 6am and the noise starts. It could be blowing his nose (unbelievably loud) just outside the bedroom door, or a sudden need to find a utensil in the kitchen drawer (our bedroom is directly above the kitchen), but instead of using his eyes, he just shoves everything around until it is found. I once had to leap out of bed to stop him setting up his workbench and power tools in the garden at the crack of dawn. Doors have to be slammed, the whole house shakes when he closes the bathroom window and his sneezes and coughs must register on the Richter Scale. Only this morning, I asked him what the hell he was doing in the kitchen to create such a racket. He said, ‘Just living my life.’

I have to say that other than workmen who like to play loud music over their loud tools and then shout to each other over both, I find women just as noisy as men.

Go to a restaurant or listen to a garden party and the women will be just as, if not more, noisy.

I don't know about slamming doors etc, maybe I am lucky and my DH and DS don't :) Same goes for slamming car doors.

Of course, I doubt there's a woman in the history of the world who has screamed up and down the road in a souped up car with a loud exhaust.

The constant noise making (humming, clicking, slurping, performance sneezing) is audio manspreading, intended to make the noise maker the biggest person in the room. If you ignore it, it gets worse. If you object to it, you risk attack. It's never, "Oh, that makes you uncomfortable, I'll try not to make you uncomfortable from now on". Because how you feel doesn't matter. All that matters is that the noise maker is seen.

Not 'seen' for what they are, though; this doesn't seem to hit the mark.

On a bus abroad with teen DD, a man sat opposite us, turned his whole body towards the aisle/us, opened his legs as wide as they'd go, and summoned up the most ridiculously loud, theatrical and dusgusting yelp like cough that resounded around the whole bus.

DD was sitting opposite me and subtly raised an eyebrow. I knew what she meant, and gave her a tiny nod back. It was barely perceptible. However, the guy saw it because, of course, his wasn't a cough, but a performance, and he was looking to see its effect.

Apparently, it didn't land the way he would've liked, which enraged him, and he shouted angrily at us about it for the next 5 minutes. I didn't catch most of his tirade, but he threw in enough English for me to make out, "Fucking Americans" and "pieces of shit".

We're not American, but he wouldn't have known that, because we were completely silent the entire time, funnily enough.

Yeah I do find that with men. I feel it particularly keenly with a baby in the house. My DP has various friends over in the evening sometimes and we'll always say something like "oh we're just being quiet as we've just got DD down", and they'll nod like they understand what you are saying, and then proceed to be SO FUCKING LOUD.

It's loads of little things like opening a new, fizzy bottle right next to her head when she's just finally settled, or slamming the stair gate and bathroom door (upstairs by her bedroom), it makes me realise how accustomed we've become to paying attention to not doing things like that. The worst thing is the laughing though. Why, when men are having a good time, is it necessary for them to rattle the walls with their raucous laughter. Just calm down!

@aSofaNearYou sounds like your partner is the issue too though. His friends so he ensures they be quiet. He’s shit for allowing them to stay if they’re too noisy. Why is he just CB letting them continue?

I chose a "quiet" husband so don't have problems with him at all and because we live in a quiet house, our son has been brought up to be quiet too! Absolute bliss!

What I have problems with are tradesmen, delivery drivers, etc. Most are incapable of doing anything quietly or tidily. They're mostly incapable of being quiet when working, always having to shout to each other, not about work, but about inane rubbish - basically just talking for the sake of it. And yes, to singing, sighing, burping, farting, clomping, knocking things off and breaking them, etc. We once had an incompetent plumber for 3 days fitting a couple of radiators and a new boiler - he sang the theme tune of mission impossible consistently for the entire three days, and he sang it loudly at full voice. We refused to have him back to fix the mistakes he made and insisted that the company send someone else as we not only didn't trust him, but couldn't do with the noise again. Same with how they love their loud power tools, revving them unnecessarily just because they like the sound!

The exception is a joiner we found - he's a lovely man (nearing retirement age), very quiet, exceptionally good at his job. He comes in, a quick hello, and then he gets on with the work. He manages to use power tools without the revving, screeching and waking the entire neighbourhood, same with hand tools, even hammering, it's barely more than a modest "tap" whereas other workers have swung their hammer fun the fun of it!

I'm convinced it's ADHD or similar. Workmen are typically not "academic" and likely to have low qualification levels, so couldn't concentrate at school, and I think that manifests itself in the workplace, always having to be talking or shouting, always needing loud music playing, always needing the "banter" with their workmates, especially scaffolders and roofers, very few of whom seem capable of working quietly (and I'm not talking about noise of scaffolding poles), it's the noise of their loud music, constant shouting to eachother about football, women, joking etc. Yet when they're sat in the cab during their breaks, they're silent - it's so strange!