People Using my drive

[quicklybeendrivenmad]

It's our village fete today, never go because we work Saturday's, I started work first left in my car, DH about 30 mins later in his, leaving one on the drive, got home first to find 3 cars on my drive, one of them I know belongs to a friend, other two do not recognise.

Rang friend to ask if she knew who the others belonged to (as a bit annoyed she had not even asked if she could use my drive for her's ) to be told yes they belong to school mum friends of hers and she knew we would be at work so did not see a problem telling them to park there.

Pointed out I only just managed to get on my own drive and DH will be home shortly and will need to park on the drive as the whole village is rammed with cars, to be told they will be gone by 6pm as just about to have food and a drink, asked for at least one to be moved to park on our own drive, to be told I am unreasonable and ruining it for them.

Very tempted to block one in and refuse to move until the morning because I am shattered, had a stupuidly busy day and just want to chill in my PJ's with food and a glass off wine

And some people want to make their voice heard on a situation that was resolved days ago because their words are so, so important and original that they couldn't possibly waste their precious time in reading the fucking thread.

Or they treat mumsnet as an anonymous chat forum that you perhaps check out over a coffee break or whilst your waiting for your kids - rather than view mumsnet as something you dedicate yourself to and pour yourself in to day in and day out!

Can someone please explain what CF, DH etc means? I’m baffled my the acronyms!

CF= Cheeky Fucker DH= Dear/Darling Husband. There’s a list of the commonly used acronyms here

Are you feeling quite well? What a weird comment

Or alternatively, they bother to spend 5 minutes of their "coffee break" 🙄by pressing "see all" of the OP's posts, so they don't waste people's time giving amazing solutions that the OP has spent her time explaining have already been done.

But you do you, with your oh-so busy life (that has time to read and respond to MY posts, but not time to read the OP's 😂)

Excellent update

waste people’s time

😂

I don’t know about you - but when I’m in mumsnet I do sort of regard it as a waste of my time! Do you see it as a productive use of time?!

I did read all the OP’s posts

I was explaining why others who incurred your wrath for not doing so - might not fancy ploughing through it all!

My "wrath"

Priceless 😂😂

Yep, got me there! Storming about my house, throwing things, screaming "HOW DARE THEY NOT READ THE OP'S POSTS" 😡Absolutely incandescent with utter RAGE!! It's like you are a fly on my wall

Or not

No Momof3000 because temu is a dodgy as fuck website where lots of people have been scammed.

Reported your post as link to their website.

I had this bit there is a link on the second thread to the first which works.

One large glass of wine would put her over the limit so it’s hardly unreasonable in 90 minutes

A coffee. That’s what you need. Maybe… decaf?

@Sasha19052 you're very welcome to use my drive when I'm away.

The issue with "so what if its mean" is that this individualistic culture (" look after me and my own and no one else") has failed utterly. People feel lonely. There is no sense of community. People, rightfully, feel alienated in a world where human decency is undervalued. Then when marriage break up, this sense of isolation is quadrupled. Things like a village fete tries to counter this but people like the op ruin the vibe.

It’s the OPs drive that she didn’t give permission for anyone else to park on. It’s the CF’s who have such a sense of entitlement that they believe they can trespass on other peoples property because they want to who ruined their own vibe.

No one stopped them going to the fete - they just need to park somewhere that isn’t private property. Surely that’s not a difficult concept to grasp?

Your point is not a difficult point to grasp. You believe that it's not a good idea to help people for no reason other than community spirit. I don't agree. I think people in communities thrive when they value the importance of community spirit.

It’s community spirit of the OP offered her drive or was asked and said yes. Not the use of her drive stolen. If they had stolen clothes/food would that have been okay as community minded?

Like not using other people’s property without checking it’s ok first? Yes that would be so much more community spirited.

But hey if being mugged off and walked over is your idea of thriving then crack on

I don't agree @AlwaysJumping . I'm currently away on holiday and I know my neighbours will continue to use my outside water tap. I don't care. He doesn't need to ask. (we don't have water charges where i come from). I know he and other neighbours will accept any of my deliveries for me.
Many communities operate on the understanding that you don't need to ask, past general warmth and helpfulness allows us to assume. I'm glad I live somewhere that if I have a problem I can first turn to the community and only get the professionals when necessary. I feel sorry for the people who don't live in this way.
I also know problems arise when people (CFs) take advantage of this. And we then have to work it out between us. But I happen to think the op is cold and unhelpful and certainly not a good friend. I often think this on MN in general and I think it reflects very badly on the UK and I would never live there as a result.

@WanderinStar

can you give more examples where you have made a sacrifice, however small, for the “community” for no other than reason than “community spirit”

@WanderinStar but that’s a completely different situation? You already have the rules laid out that they can do this and you are fine and they do something for you. You are not don g something just because you can get away with it. My neighbour uses my spare space when she has more visitors, but she always asks and I always say yes and they help out too!

I'm sure OP isn't like you describe Wandering

It was very presumptuous of cf and her cohort to park there without checking first. It's a common courtesy

I park on dms drive sometimes but I would always check first