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People Using my drive

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quicklybeendrivenmad · 19/08/2023 16:34

It's our village fete today, never go because we work Saturday's, I started work first left in my car, DH about 30 mins later in his, leaving one on the drive, got home first to find 3 cars on my drive, one of them I know belongs to a friend, other two do not recognise.

Rang friend to ask if she knew who the others belonged to (as a bit annoyed she had not even asked if she could use my drive for her's ) to be told yes they belong to school mum friends of hers and she knew we would be at work so did not see a problem telling them to park there.

Pointed out I only just managed to get on my own drive and DH will be home shortly and will need to park on the drive as the whole village is rammed with cars, to be told they will be gone by 6pm as just about to have food and a drink, asked for at least one to be moved to park on our own drive, to be told I am unreasonable and ruining it for them.

Very tempted to block one in and refuse to move until the morning because I am shattered, had a stupuidly busy day and just want to chill in my PJ's with food and a glass off wine

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Flipflipmania · 21/08/2023 08:06

Oh what I’d give to know what actually happened!

LookItsMeAgain · 21/08/2023 08:16

quicklybeendrivenmad · 20/08/2023 17:40

Totally sorry am guilty of being the person who does not posts updates (and I hate that) girls got in with pizza had a fab day, I cooked food and we located to the back room to watch tv, constant knocking at the door about an hour later finally answered it, my ex friend telling me I was childish and tbf my reply was not very adult told her they had one car free and use that slammed door. Next thing we have husband of one of her friends banging door down demanding we let his wife's car out, asked how we would do that, cos we have both had a drink, he would move it no way am I letting some randon bloke move my car, argument got quite colurful and I pointed out would ring the police cos looking at my ex friend and state of her mates would not be letting them drive especially with a children on board, all went quiet until I got a rant text message off her at 2.30am saying I have made her look bad and made a fool off her, so have had very little sleep told her to do one, been working again today just got in and my drive is clear xx

I would think that it was your 'friend' who made herself look bad - I mean who offers someone the use of something that they have no knowledge whether they actually have permission to use it because it belongs to a third party.

You gave her permission to park on your driveway once last year and she thinks that it is perpetual permission and she never has to ask again? If she makes contact with you again (which is probably unlikely but you never know), I'd be quick to point that out. She didn't have your permission any more to park on your driveway. She must ask. Every. Single. Time.
She has no idea if you had even offered the driveway parking to another person for the Village Fete but she assumed she had permission to commandeer your driveway for her and her friends vehicles.

She made herself look bad, all on her own. This is not on you. You returned home to find strangers vehicles in your driveway. You would have been within your rights to contact the police, to request that they try to track the owners to get them removed, but you didn't.

Hold your head high!

Jillybloop393 · 21/08/2023 08:39

SinnerBoy · 20/08/2023 02:14

OP, if yo have a black permanent marker, change all the letters and numbers on their reg plates, where possible. They probably won't notice until the Police pull them over.

Ooooh, I love this!!

GlomOfNit · 21/08/2023 08:51

I never get these 'block them in!' threads. Why would you WANT to block in some stranger's car on your property merely to 'teach them a lesson' when in fact what you've done is trap someone who could, potentially, turn very nasty, and leave them no way of getting the hell away from you?

I can understand being pissed off, I'd be leaving PA notes under wipers, pissed off text to the person you knew and making it clear it shouldn't happen again - but what is the sense in blocking them in?? It just prolongs the issue and your husband STILL can't get onto the driveway!

Blondebitch · 21/08/2023 08:54

Some people take for granted the good nature of others, you have very kindly allowed your friend to park on your drive in the past and now she thinks she can bring her friends to do the same. Ok so it is village fete day but if she had asked you you could ha e told her you and your husband would be back. I would make them wait to get off your drive, then say you were in the bath or garden and didnt hear them.

RH13 · 21/08/2023 09:01

If this happens again, you can ask the DVLA for information about the registered keeper of the vehicle in these situations.

Request information about a vehicle or its registered keeper from DVLA - GOV.UK (www.gov.uk)

You can then send them an invoice (though unlikely to be paid or enforceable, but you can write a scary-looking letter anyway) or just troll them.

Request information about a vehicle or its registered keeper from DVLA

Request details about a vehicle's registered keeper: bulk data, anonymised data, mileage data requests, other information requests

https://www.gov.uk/request-information-from-dvla

Cucucucu · 21/08/2023 09:11

I would park it blocking at lest 2 of them in and then not answer until a few hours after . That’s amazingly self entitled!!!

NatM70 · 21/08/2023 09:35

Sasha19052 · 21/08/2023 06:42

You're welcome

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GonnaGetGoingReturns · 21/08/2023 09:44

quicklybeendrivenmad · 20/08/2023 17:40

Totally sorry am guilty of being the person who does not posts updates (and I hate that) girls got in with pizza had a fab day, I cooked food and we located to the back room to watch tv, constant knocking at the door about an hour later finally answered it, my ex friend telling me I was childish and tbf my reply was not very adult told her they had one car free and use that slammed door. Next thing we have husband of one of her friends banging door down demanding we let his wife's car out, asked how we would do that, cos we have both had a drink, he would move it no way am I letting some randon bloke move my car, argument got quite colurful and I pointed out would ring the police cos looking at my ex friend and state of her mates would not be letting them drive especially with a children on board, all went quiet until I got a rant text message off her at 2.30am saying I have made her look bad and made a fool off her, so have had very little sleep told her to do one, been working again today just got in and my drive is clear xx

Good for you! Glad you stood up for yourself.

Momof3000 · 21/08/2023 10:18

What happened lol 😂

ihadamarveloustime · 21/08/2023 10:30

WanderinStar · 21/08/2023 07:14

I think it's all a bit mean. It's once a year. A village fete. Parking probably impossible.

Are you serious? You'd be happy to show up at home after a long day at work to find your drive stuffed with strangers' cars who were refusing to move them, and then showed up late and pissed saying you were the unreasonable one?

Don't be daft.

Mary28 · 21/08/2023 11:09

If this is a one day a year think I think I'd just suck it up. I'd be pissed with your friend as it seems she orchestrated it and next year I'd be blocking my drive off.

indyocean · 21/08/2023 11:36

This is incredibly rude and unacceptable behaviour. These are not the actions of a good friend.

However, you got home at 4:30pm and by 6pm you were inebriated beyond being able to drive a car out of a driveway? So they had to leave their cars with you all night?

Thats petty behaviour. You stooped to their level

I guess the friendship is over though so you have nothing to lose

JauntyJinty · 21/08/2023 12:02

I've read all OPS comments but not the whole thread so I'm not sure if this has already been said but:

At first I had sympathy for the friends of the friend - If a friend of mine told me it was ok to park on someone they knews drive I would assume they had OKd it and go ahead and park there. But when the full situation came to light I'd be coming back shame faced with a gift, explination and applogy - not rants and demands! Add that to the fact it seemed that they were going to drink drive and the sympathy seems to have fucked right off!

Grrrrdarling · 21/08/2023 12:03

quicklybeendrivenmad · 20/08/2023 17:40

Totally sorry am guilty of being the person who does not posts updates (and I hate that) girls got in with pizza had a fab day, I cooked food and we located to the back room to watch tv, constant knocking at the door about an hour later finally answered it, my ex friend telling me I was childish and tbf my reply was not very adult told her they had one car free and use that slammed door. Next thing we have husband of one of her friends banging door down demanding we let his wife's car out, asked how we would do that, cos we have both had a drink, he would move it no way am I letting some randon bloke move my car, argument got quite colurful and I pointed out would ring the police cos looking at my ex friend and state of her mates would not be letting them drive especially with a children on board, all went quiet until I got a rant text message off her at 2.30am saying I have made her look bad and made a fool off her, so have had very little sleep told her to do one, been working again today just got in and my drive is clear xx

Last message you your so called friend informs them that they are a cheeky fluffer for assuming that you telling them ONCE they could park on YOUR DRIVE constituted a verbal contract for them to allow themselves & anyone else to use YOUR DRIVE whenever they pleased 356 days a year!
Remind her that a simple text to ask before she assumed her friends could PARK ON YOUR DRIVE would have taken her 1 minute so the whole issue has occurred because of her cheeky fluffer assumption that she has free, 24/7, 365day access to use YOUR DRIVE.

I’d have apologised to those you had to park behind & point them in the direction of the cheeky fluffer friend who had assumed instead of asking if their friends could park on YOUR DRIVE & in not doing that had made an ass out of herself & her friends.

Hopefully she will learn to ask instead of just assuming rights over other peoples property from one allowed situation.
They are lucky you weren’t blocked from leaving your drive to get to work or I believe you’d have had the right to have the vehicles towed, at their expense, in that case!

whatausername · 21/08/2023 12:07

Bravo bravo! Just read your update. Delighted you stood your ground :-D

MinnieGirl · 21/08/2023 12:29

Please come back and update if you hear anymore from CF friend. Although you could hardly call her a friend…. I would keep my distance from that one..

Jeschara · 21/08/2023 12:41

Well done you, take no notice of people who would suck it up, they are idiots.
People like your so called friend only learn the hard way.
I hope she feels very sorry and ashamed of herself. I also hope she reads the thread and reflects on her behaviour and disrespect in the future.

TragicMuse · 21/08/2023 12:43

WanderinStar · 21/08/2023 07:14

I think it's all a bit mean. It's once a year. A village fete. Parking probably impossible.

So what if it's mean?

Nobody has an obligation to be nice or generous with their property or possessions. It's apparently a social convention, sure, but there's no requirement that we make our own things available to others just because it's nice. Let alone to someone who didn't even ask first.

I am generous if I want to be, with people I know and love and by my own choice. I do not take kindly to people assuming I'll share or that I don't mind and making free with my stuff without asking. Ask first FFS, and be prepared for a refusal. And if it's mine and I really don't want to share, nothing is going to compel me to do so. I don't care who you are.

Scotslass171 · 21/08/2023 12:54

Either block them in or get in touch with vehicle removal company and get them to take them away then get "friends" to pay for the privilege!!!!!!

Sasha19052 · 21/08/2023 13:17

@WanderinStar when you go on holiday can I come and use your house - for free? You aren't using it, so if you say No then you are a right ol' meanie!

Sasha19052 · 21/08/2023 13:18

Scotslass171 · 21/08/2023 12:54

Either block them in or get in touch with vehicle removal company and get them to take them away then get "friends" to pay for the privilege!!!!!!

Yes OP. get in your time machine and go back to before you sorted it hours ago, and do this!

Flipflipmania · 21/08/2023 14:19

Quiet day for you @Sasha19052 presumably

pr perhaps every day is a quiet day for you

Katyfromsooside · 21/08/2023 16:26

I think this so called friend..is such a user..and had no right to enable two others to help themselves to YOUR driveway...its downright cheek. They've taken you for a mug...
Good for you for what your intending..I.d block them all in as well..and if they take umbridge...then you'll then know the strength of your friendship..good luck...
Plenty ppl on here siding with you ..

SinnerBoy · 21/08/2023 16:44

I don't see the point of leaving notes on the windscreen, (A.K
A. litter on your own drive) especially when they've essentially ignored the texts to move them.

Evo Stik them - that would be more appropriate.