Partner out while I'm stuck in the hotel room

[BlueMediterranean]

I could really use your perspective on this. Currently on a short coastal break with my partner and our toddler.

Our little one's bedtime is set at 8 pm, and my partner wants to head out for dinner and drinks afterward, leaving me with our child.

He's willing to bring back food, but I can't shake the feeling that this is a bit selfish.

Am I overreacting, or should I address this? Would love to hear your thoughts.

Thanks!

Who chose where to go on this short break? Was it him? I have been cheated on so am highly suspicious. I would be thinking there was someone nearby he wanted to meet with.

Does he usually go off on his own at home to drink and watch sport?

He sounds very selfish. We would put the child in the pushchair, ready for bed, to drop off when they're tired and all go out together

They need space. And other blokes. Being in a toddler centred room with toddler-driven early dinner time and bed time may be making him restless.

He wants to watch sport - is he very sporty too? As in uses a lot of energy and gets hungry easily? Then gets hangry? Does he love sport and maybe you don't so much?

I doubt you'd be keen on the equal time out suggestions - going out alone in a strange town at night may not be quite so attractive to you as it is to him.

Accepting that space need while you're focussing on your toddler could be the best thing, so you're together when child's asleep and he's back.

State your requirements too - whether that's a sandwich, some chocolates, a drink … he brings it back, or else.

Have fun with them tomorrow.

You mentioned you were getting ready for bed at 8ish - did that include you and him too?

Have you insisted that your child has to go to bed at 8 pm? If you are on a weekend away it won’t hurt to break your bedtime rule and have family time together otherwise what’s the point of a weekend away ?

Odd behaviour. Eat together in the room and have drinks on the veranda . He’s selfish

@Fluffmum

come off it, would you wanna go to bed at eight pm on holiday?!

This exactly this. This holiday sounds miserable. If OP can't change the ridgidness of bed time as some have said the child may absolutely need it or want to go the the work of trying to change it, why go on holiday? This is no holiday.

He sounds like a selfish a.hole. Tell him you’ll do alternate nights. Don’t ask him, tell him. Good grief some men are unbelievably selfish.

Eat earlier or keep child up later. If he’s unwilling to adjust the routine tell him you’ll settle child and then leave him to watch over him/her while you go out and get food and you’ll bring him back a goody bag!