To think a friendship between a 20 year old and 27 year old is odd

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And the gap. Is massive

One of my best male friends is 42 and I'm 32

Nope. It's fine. Are you odd?

Not at all. As soon as you enter the working world you mix with all different types of people of different ages.

Context needed.

Known each other since younger was a kid, older one takes advantage, pushing for more than friends.

Met at work, on similar level, similar interests.

Very different

Have you considered that the oddness lies with you OP? Your view of this is both extreme and absurd.

I'm sitting next to my friend who is 11 years older than me.

Do I need to scarper immediately?!

Also, most people in the 18 and 25 thread said that wasn't a problem either! So if this thread is an attempt to prove some kind of double standard, it doesn't even do that.

My friend and colleague is almost twice my age. Bearing in mind I'm 36....

Lots of friendship groups can have wide age ranges!

I don't think it's weird, but there's usually a difference in maturity and stages of life between 20 and 27 even though there's not that many years in between. 20 is just out of teens and 27 is more near 30. But I remember when I started working at 16, I got to know people of a while range of ages and was friendly with some older women. I wouldn't really have counted them as close friends though, more workmates.

Not at all. I've been friends with lots of work colleagues with various ages. I also was a mature student at 28 and so was friends with people on my course who were 20/21

Nope. If you are talking any kind of romantic or sexual relationship then the ‘half your age plus 7’ rule works well.

I met my husband who was 49 when I was 29! We are happily married with two children and he is my near friend .
I have several friends who are 5/10/15 years older !

No at all. When I was around 20 I had friends who were much older - its really, really healthy to have older friends as long as there is no power imbalance or emotional/hero worship/ manipulation going on. I learnt so much from those friendships, some are still friends today and I'm in my 50s. And I have many friends who are much younger & older than me still.

Hmm well I think at those ages it’s just getting to be OK. Eg a 20 year old hanging out with a 13 year old (same gap) would be very odd indeed.

When I was 20 I had friends right the way up into their 40s - the circles I ran in was a very broad demographic.

Er, no. One of my best friends when I was 18 was a work colleague who was 35. We're still friends 26 years later. One of my closest friends now is 23 years older than me. They're both female, but I also have a good male friend who is 17 years older than me and at least 2 others with a 10 year age gap.

I have no idea why you would think this.

Really this is very odd. Do you think adults should only be able to socialise with people exactly their own age? Or would 1-3 years difference be acceptable?

I would really miss a lot of my friends if that were the case.

One of my best friends
is 16 years younger that me. Never even crossed my mind anyone would think it was weird.

I'm sensing jealousy.

Nope that's fine

A friend is a friend is a friend though 🤷‍♀️

That you think this is odd is in fact what is odd.

Jeez why weird! I have friends of much bigger age gaps!

No, it's perfectly normal and the 20 year old may be the one that is more mature. This is the gap between my siblings. The younger shared friends with the elder and was the more adult one when they were younger than that, 18 and 25.

What? 😂😂😂

I'm in my mid 30s and my best pal is a 70 year old man. With friendships, age is only a number.