Name changed owing to the risk of being outed. Dh is bi (as am I). We have been swingers in the past - and mostly enjoyed it. Sadly I was not supportive of DH exploring his sexuality with men (on reflection motivated by the misplaced and judgemental idea he would be less of a man if he has sex with a man - I feel ashamed for thinking this now). This morning we had a big conversation about his desires. In a nutshell -
- He wants me to explore my sexuality with other couples (again) and come home and tell him (he would find this arousing).
- He wants to have a hook up with a man and asked for my blessing.
Part of me wants to support his sexual exploration the other part of me is scared that I'm opening a Pandora's box that I will never be able to close again. I'm also worried about his safety, that's he's entering a world he knows nothing about (never been with a man).
Wtf do I do? I can't talk to anyone in real life about this, so interested in hopefully a spectrum of ideas.