Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Would this put you off?

130 replies

Isleofw · 04/08/2023 11:38

I’ve been seeing a guy for a while, I’m a single parent. My DC was supposed to be staying over at my parents house at the weekend and me and him planned a date and then I would be stopping over at his house

I had to cancel as my DC was no longer able to stop at my parents house. He said I could just bring her round to his house and he’d put the tv on for her whilst we ‘get busy’think he was just thinking of one thing. He has not met her before

Would this out put you off? I said it wouldn’t really be possible as it would be her bed time and at first he said he understood but I haven’t heard from him hardly since then

OP posts:
Original poster
Isleofw · 04/08/2023 11:41

I feel as though he’s being a bit funny with me ever since

OP posts:
Wendysfriend · 04/08/2023 11:45

😂😂

Paq · 04/08/2023 11:46

You have to ask? Really??

CobraKaiNeverLoses · 04/08/2023 11:47

Jesus Christ.

LIZS · 04/08/2023 11:47

Sounds immature and not ready, or willing, to see you as a package. In the bin with him!

Original poster
Isleofw · 04/08/2023 11:48

I’m just making the post because it’s making me feel as though he is just using me and doesn’t have respect for me

OP posts:
Gnomegnomegnome · 04/08/2023 11:49

Good bye

DimplesToadfoot · 04/08/2023 11:51

You're right, he doesn't have respect for you, or your daughter, throw this one back, he's rotten.

DimplesToadfoot · 04/08/2023 11:52

DimplesToadfoot · 04/08/2023 11:51

You're right, he doesn't have respect for you, or your daughter, throw this one back, he's rotten.

Don't know why I put daughter, I mean DC

Cazzovuoi · 04/08/2023 11:53

Isleofw · 04/08/2023 11:48

I’m just making the post because it’s making me feel as though he is just using me and doesn’t have respect for me

You are correct.

Flittingcandlewick · 04/08/2023 11:53

Isleofw · 04/08/2023 11:48

I’m just making the post because it’s making me feel as though he is just using me and doesn’t have respect for me

You are right

Planetegg · 04/08/2023 11:54

Red flagging all over the place.
He had a plan for a sex, your child has ruined his plan, he will make other plans…
Sorry to be harsh but he’s shown his true colours, don’t ignore them.

theemmadilemma · 04/08/2023 11:55

Yuk. Sulking because you won't pop your DD in front of the TV so he can get his end away as planned.

🚩

MrsImFedUpOfTheWeather · 04/08/2023 11:55

If it walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then it's probably...

Next!

thaisweetchill · 04/08/2023 11:56

🚩🚶🏼‍♀️

Comedycook · 04/08/2023 11:57

Grim

Theimpossiblegirl · 04/08/2023 11:58

Isleofw · 04/08/2023 11:48

I’m just making the post because it’s making me feel as though he is just using me and doesn’t have respect for me

Trust your judgement. You are sadly spot on. Throw this one back.

shelbaby · 04/08/2023 11:58

It wouldn't put me off if he acted normally after m. If he doesn't have kids he probably doesn't understand u can't just plonk them infront a telly and expect not to see them again all evening.

His behaviour after wld def put me off and assume he's only after one thing.

MK19590 · 04/08/2023 11:59

Wtf block him and run that's disgusting

OhComeOnFFS · 04/08/2023 12:02

If this is real, you need to dump him. Of course he's using you. He's very disrespectful to you and your child.

If it's not real, go and get another hobby.

Original poster
Isleofw · 04/08/2023 12:04

Thanks I just expected him to be happy to rearrange but then after that he also stopped replying so I wondered if he messaged somebody else to go round to his house

OP posts:
ManateeFair · 04/08/2023 12:08

He's been using you for sex and now he's not interested any more.

Emmamoo89 · 04/08/2023 12:15

Bin him

Original poster
Isleofw · 04/08/2023 12:15

He has messaged just now asking if I want to come tonight but he said he will be round at a mates drinking and that I can meet him after at his

OP posts:
Original poster
Isleofw · 04/08/2023 12:18

He says I can either come to his if I ‘pull up’ after he’s been at his mates or that I can take him for a drive somewhere

OP posts: