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Would this put you off?

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Isleofw · 04/08/2023 11:38

I’ve been seeing a guy for a while, I’m a single parent. My DC was supposed to be staying over at my parents house at the weekend and me and him planned a date and then I would be stopping over at his house

I had to cancel as my DC was no longer able to stop at my parents house. He said I could just bring her round to his house and he’d put the tv on for her whilst we ‘get busy’think he was just thinking of one thing. He has not met her before

Would this out put you off? I said it wouldn’t really be possible as it would be her bed time and at first he said he understood but I haven’t heard from him hardly since then

OP posts:
LittleMissUnreasonable · 04/08/2023 14:04

Your DC does not deserve to be plonked in front of a random TV at a strange man's house at goodness knows what time, whilst their mum has sex with a pissed up bloke in the room nextdoor.

You don't deserve to be summoned upon by this prince among men to be a drunken booty call.

Amispringy · 04/08/2023 14:04

Oh please get rid of him

You're worth much more

whatthebejesus · 04/08/2023 14:05

Urgh yea as everyone else has said op.
Bin him off. He's using you for a quick shag on his own terms. That's fine if you're also looking for the same but doesn't sound like you are. Find someone better

OriginalBliss · 04/08/2023 14:08

LittleMissUnreasonable · 04/08/2023 14:04

Your DC does not deserve to be plonked in front of a random TV at a strange man's house at goodness knows what time, whilst their mum has sex with a pissed up bloke in the room nextdoor.

You don't deserve to be summoned upon by this prince among men to be a drunken booty call.

This, absolutely.

And, not what you asked, OP, but if someone referred to having sex as 'getting busy', my vagina would shut up shop and emigrate. Ugh.

You can do better.

LookItsMeAgain · 04/08/2023 14:12

For the love of all that is good and holy and the wee donkey - whatever about him, would you please have a little respect for yourself there????

He is grim.

Grim.

Grim

Grim

Grim

Grim

Grim!

Dump him and block his details. Everywhere.

BibbleandSqwauk · 04/08/2023 14:13

I had a brief thing years ago with a guy who behaved very similarly to this. Difference was I also only wanted a brief thing, no strings attached and was not hoping it expecting more. It was as much on my terms as his. Unless that's you OP, please sack this one off.

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 04/08/2023 14:14

🤢

If my partner, the father of my children, suggested this I'd be icked right out, let alone some guy I'd not long been seeing.

Forget him

Seryse · 04/08/2023 14:17

He sounds like an absolute twat. Run, as fast as you can. What a seriously horrible shit he is for suggesting that, complete disregard for both you and your daughter. You deserve better chickie. Respect yourself and get shot of this deadbeat wanker.

Screamingabdabz · 04/08/2023 14:19

I’m amazed that you have to ask these questions. Can you not tell that he’s just a scummy arse who wants to see you for sex after he’s got drunk with his mates? He’s a low life dick. Please work on your self esteem and boundaries so that your dd grows up with that role model rather than the desperate pick-me you appear to be now.

OhComeOnFFS · 04/08/2023 14:20

If you can't see that he's using you, there's absolutely no hope for you, OP.

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Isleofw · 04/08/2023 14:28

He is saying that I will be able to come up and he will leave the party whenever and then says I can stay at his house

OP posts:
CobraKaiNeverLoses · 04/08/2023 14:31

Why are you still engaging with this man?!

CitizenofMoronia · 04/08/2023 14:32

CobraKaiNeverLoses · 04/08/2023 14:31

Why are you still engaging with this man?!

WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU???
block him!

Nodramabanana · 04/08/2023 14:32

Isleofw · 04/08/2023 14:28

He is saying that I will be able to come up and he will leave the party whenever and then says I can stay at his house

Ok, so classic booty call.

I am a little concerned that you are not more oncerned about the kid/ tv/ sex suggestion.

LIZS · 04/08/2023 14:34

Just block him. If you are this conditioned to do his bidding now, despite doubts, it will be awful later on. Every time you respond or jump at his request he gets a kick at his control. Are you vulnerable or lonely?

CobraKaiNeverLoses · 04/08/2023 14:34

CitizenofMoronia · 04/08/2023 14:32

WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU???
block him!

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I assume that was intended for OP, not me. And I totally agree!

SamW98 · 04/08/2023 14:40

Wow how is this absolute peach of a man single?
I mean you can go round his for a shag after he’s been on piss with his mates all evening and if you’re really lucky you can get a bonus shag while your child is stuck in front of telly.

Run as far from this loser as us humanly possible and don’t look back

Megifer · 04/08/2023 14:43

After the "shove the kid in front of the TV while we shag" comment im amazed you're still thinking about this. As for expecting you to pick him up for a booty call......😂😂😂😂

Throw him back and consider yourself as having a very lucky escape!

LardoBurrows · 04/08/2023 14:44

Isleofw · 04/08/2023 14:28

He is saying that I will be able to come up and he will leave the party whenever and then says I can stay at his house

Is he. You just crack on then dear, I'm out.

Screamingabdabz · 04/08/2023 14:45

Isleofw · 04/08/2023 14:28

He is saying that I will be able to come up and he will leave the party whenever and then says I can stay at his house

It doesn’t matter what he says op. He has shown you what his priorities are.

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Megifer · 04/08/2023 14:47

How old is this absolute dreamboat?

GoodChat · 04/08/2023 14:48

Tell him you're not interested. Jesus Christ.

LetMeEnfoldYou · 04/08/2023 14:49

Isleofw · 04/08/2023 14:28

He is saying that I will be able to come up and he will leave the party whenever and then says I can stay at his house

Fuck sake love.

If you don't respect yourself, at least don't bring your child into a neglectful situation. Nobody would think well of a woman who dumps her child in the room of a strange flat while she fucks a pissed random.

Poppysmom22 · 04/08/2023 14:50

Urgh gross there's no way I could get busy with this man bleurgh