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Would this put you off?

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Isleofw · 04/08/2023 11:38

I’ve been seeing a guy for a while, I’m a single parent. My DC was supposed to be staying over at my parents house at the weekend and me and him planned a date and then I would be stopping over at his house

I had to cancel as my DC was no longer able to stop at my parents house. He said I could just bring her round to his house and he’d put the tv on for her whilst we ‘get busy’think he was just thinking of one thing. He has not met her before

Would this out put you off? I said it wouldn’t really be possible as it would be her bed time and at first he said he understood but I haven’t heard from him hardly since then

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GoldDuster · 04/08/2023 14:53

Block his number and spend some time getting your priorities in order.

Someone who wants to order you in like a takeaway and stick your child in front of the TV so they can take you upstairs for sex should not be within a hundred metres of your child, nor you.

babygirl88 · 04/08/2023 14:56

Thats disgusting.

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Isleofw · 04/08/2023 14:59

@Megifer we are same age, 26. I’ve known him for ages so thought he might be a bit different by now

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Isleofw · 04/08/2023 15:01

@LetMeEnfoldYou I think he means he wants me to drop her of with my parents for the night so I can spend the night at his house but I won’t be doing

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DoesNotPlayWellWithIdiots · 04/08/2023 15:02

Too right it'd put me off! He'd have been blocked as soon as he'd suggested plonking my child in front of the telly so he could have a quick shag!
Are you desperate, naive or just a bit dim?
Do not allow you or your child to be treated with so little respect.

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Isleofw · 04/08/2023 15:03

I won’t be going but I’m just a bit sad because I did actually like him but he’s shown me what he’s really like

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Wishimaywishimight · 04/08/2023 15:03

Why do you think knowing him "for ages" means he might magically have changed personality? He clearly sees you as useful for sex (provided your child can be parked elsewhere) and possibly taking him for a drive, that's about it.

Wishimaywishimight · 04/08/2023 15:05

Seriously OP, there is nothing to be sad about! Would you really want to hook up with such a disrespectful git? It's actually a good thing that he has shown his true colours so early on. It means you won't waste another moment thinking about him (other than feeling happy you had a lucky escape).

LetMeEnfoldYou · 04/08/2023 15:07

Isleofw · 04/08/2023 15:03

I won’t be going but I’m just a bit sad because I did actually like him but he’s shown me what he’s really like

Well thank god he did, and thank god you see it.

Onwards and upwards!

Humidititties · 04/08/2023 15:11

How long have you seeing him?

QuacketyQuack · 04/08/2023 15:11

OP will continue to see him, I'll bet money on it

caringcarer · 04/08/2023 15:12

Isleofw · 04/08/2023 12:15

He has messaged just now asking if I want to come tonight but he said he will be round at a mates drinking and that I can meet him after at his

Say no to the booty call.

Screamingabdabz · 04/08/2023 15:16

QuacketyQuack · 04/08/2023 15:11

OP will continue to see him, I'll bet money on it

Yep. And will continue to post about how he treats her like shit. It’s the kids I feel for in those situations…

CouldIHaveThatInEnglishPlease · 04/08/2023 15:17

Just reply "sorry I don't think this is working out. Wish you all the best, x" and then block and delete

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Isleofw · 04/08/2023 15:17

@Humidititties about 4 months but at first he would take me out for food and drinks but that’s stopped now he just wants me to come round or pick him up

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eatdrinkandbemerry · 04/08/2023 15:19

My god are you really that desperate that you need to ask us lot!

Chocbuttonsandredwine · 04/08/2023 15:21

He sounds vile.

you are worth so much more than this, as is your child.

don’t be someone’s booty call

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Isleofw · 04/08/2023 15:21

just a bit lonely and was enjoying his company but oh well

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ManateeFair · 04/08/2023 15:26

@Isleofw You deserve someone much better than this arsehole - you will find someone lovely, I'm sure.

CatchYouOnTheFlippetyFlop · 04/08/2023 15:28

I know this will fall on deaf ears OP, as your self esteem seems to be in the toilet, but please do not be a wank sock for this man.

You are his chauffer too!!!

BIN HIM!!!!

You wouldn't want your kid dating a man like this would you! So have the same standards for yourself x

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Isleofw · 04/08/2023 17:32

Thanks everyone, I just feel unworthy, feel really low about myself now

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GoodChat · 04/08/2023 17:39

Isleofw · 04/08/2023 17:32

Thanks everyone, I just feel unworthy, feel really low about myself now

You'll feel better when you realise you were being used. You deserve better than that.

LadyKenya · 04/08/2023 17:49

This man will do nothing to raise your self esteem from the sounds of it OP. In fact you will probably end up feeling worse, for being used. It is not worth it for the fleeting attention that he will ration out.

SamW98 · 04/08/2023 18:02

Isleofw · 04/08/2023 17:32

Thanks everyone, I just feel unworthy, feel really low about myself now

Walk away with your head held high. Yes you will hurt at first but as time goes on you’ll see so clearly it’s best thing you’ve ever done.

LetMeEnfoldYou · 04/08/2023 18:13

Isleofw · 04/08/2023 17:32

Thanks everyone, I just feel unworthy, feel really low about myself now

No no no!!

You should feel fucking great about walking away!