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to not want my 4mo to wear a football kit?

245 replies

youaintmymother · 04/08/2023 08:35

Lighthearted-ish. Bickering this morning... DH has dressed baby in an England babygrow. It was a present from his best friend when they were newborn. It was given with a chuckle, so I see it as something to wear in the house when football is on, for a cute photo, but not to be seen in out of the house.

Today DH has dressed 4mo and I will be out all day. I want to change him but DH thinks I'm being a massive snob.

YABU - you are being a snob. It's just a baby.
YANBU - I am cringing in solidarity and feel your pain. Get him changed now!

to not want my 4mo to wear a football kit?
OP posts:
AppleTurnover1000Degrees · 04/08/2023 15:47

I'd love to see David Beckham's barbeque.

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youaintmymother · 04/08/2023 15:47

DramaticBananas · 04/08/2023 15:25

Yes, you're a football snob. I was too but after a few years and attending countless under 10s football matches and training sessions, I can see the good side. I now search out the next season's kit for an easy Xmas present. Would it bother you so much if it were a rugby onsie?

We do have a big rugby club fairly locally. I'd be the same about any sportswear, I think. I also don't put him or my 5yo in anything with writing on it. 😅 Eek - I think I AM a snob. 🫥

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AppleTurnover1000Degrees · 04/08/2023 15:49

All these awful babygrows on MN this week 😂.

Mikimoto · 04/08/2023 15:50

It's particularly appalling.
When the child is older, will they buy them white trainers, jeans and a white polo that buttons up to the top?

EpicChaos · 04/08/2023 15:51

YANBU.
Not because it's to do with football but because it's an eyesore! What an awful looking baby - gro imo.

Nottogetapenny · 04/08/2023 15:52

I absolutely hate, babies wearing football tops, baby grows etc! I also think men women and children should only wear football shirts at home or when going to matches. There is nothing smart about them! Very chavvy!

GCSister · 04/08/2023 15:53

What exactly are you concerned about OP?
Why is it an issue to have baby/child in a football kit?

pleasehelpwi3 · 04/08/2023 15:53

Both.
You are being a snob but I'd also cringe with embarrassment too!

GCSister · 04/08/2023 15:56

Nottogetapenny · 04/08/2023 15:52

I absolutely hate, babies wearing football tops, baby grows etc! I also think men women and children should only wear football shirts at home or when going to matches. There is nothing smart about them! Very chavvy!

Do you dress smartly 100% of the time?
And as for chavvy......well I must tell the kids in my very middle class village that they are all chavs at tonight's brass band practice as I guarantee nearly all of them will have a football top on.

tennesseewhiskey1 · 04/08/2023 15:58

I mean, yes of course you are being snob - what is wrong with a football onesie?! My son - now 6 only uses football kits!

StrawBeretMoose · 04/08/2023 15:59

There is no way I would have dressed 4 month old baby in that or any football kit. Luckily DH is as snobby as I am so it was never a worry. No football kits, jeans, denim jackets or similar for young babies here.

AngeloMysterioso · 04/08/2023 16:03

With a bit of luck he’ll have a big old milk barf all over it and you’ll have no choice but to change him Grin

FluffyFlannery · 04/08/2023 16:06

No way I’d allow my baby to wear that. Ick!

Mikimoto · 04/08/2023 16:10

GCSister · 04/08/2023 15:56

Do you dress smartly 100% of the time?
And as for chavvy......well I must tell the kids in my very middle class village that they are all chavs at tonight's brass band practice as I guarantee nearly all of them will have a football top on.

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If there's a "brass band practice", I think your village is less middle-class than you think...

JohnnyYenSetHimselfOnFireAgain · 04/08/2023 16:11

skippy67 · 04/08/2023 15:13

I first started going to watch my team in the 80s. My first experience of racism was of standing on the terraces and hearing the fans around me refer to a black player on the opposite team as a black bastard. Someone nudged the main offender and gestured towards me, a black female. Main shouty bloke then said, "oh sorry love, I don't mean you". I could give you plenty more examples, but you'd probably say I was making them up...

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No, I wouldn't say you were making them up. I was giving my own experiences of what I have and haven't witnessed.

AppleTurnover1000Degrees · 04/08/2023 16:12

Mikimoto · 04/08/2023 15:50

It's particularly appalling.
When the child is older, will they buy them white trainers, jeans and a white polo that buttons up to the top?

Why is that outfit offensive? I'm missing something.

FlibbedyFlobbedyFloo · 04/08/2023 16:13

Your DH is just as entitled to make decisions about your baby as you are.

Also, the more you exclude him from things, the more you will have to do yourself. Don't make a rod for your own back later down the line

Soupsetscared · 04/08/2023 16:16

@AnkleWidget what's wrong with a 'football' person.
They are not aliens, they breathe like everyone else.

skippy67 · 04/08/2023 16:16

JohnnyYenSetHimselfOnFireAgain · 04/08/2023 16:11

No, I wouldn't say you were making them up. I was giving my own experiences of what I have and haven't witnessed.

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So if it hasn't happened to you, or you if you haven't personally witnessed racism, it doesn't exist in football? "Zilch".

Okie dokes.

JohnnyYenSetHimselfOnFireAgain · 04/08/2023 16:18

skippy67 · 04/08/2023 16:16

So if it hasn't happened to you, or you if you haven't personally witnessed racism, it doesn't exist in football? "Zilch".

Okie dokes.

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Show me where I've said it doesn't exist in football. I'll wait.

diamondpony80 · 04/08/2023 16:19

I have a football husband as well and our kids had kits from newborn. They were really only worn for photos and not actually out anywhere. If DH was looking after our child for the day though and I was out all day it wouldn't matter to me how he chose to dress them. He's their dad after all.

MintJulia · 04/08/2023 16:20

My ex bought our newborn ds a Man Utd strip. I took the required photo and then'misplaced it' in the recycling the following day.

Turns out I was right. DS, now 15, loathes football. 😀

GCSister · 04/08/2023 16:20

If there's a "brass band practice", I think your village is less middle-class than you think...

I am aware of the origins of many brass bands and the links to mining and working class villages but as I'm sure you are aware that places and activities develop and evolve over time. So yes, this would have been considered a working class village generations ago but I can confirm that it is no longer the case. I wont start a discussion about whether that is a good or a bad thing but the children attending our local brass band ( and those in surrounding villages) are most certainly from very middle class families. A high proportion of them attend independent schools and all are from families where parents work in professional roles.
Interestingly, those children who live locally who would be considered from working class families are the ones least likely to join the village band. I know this because it's been identified as an issue that the band is trying to address.

CaptainJackSparrow85 · 04/08/2023 16:23

YABU, but I would BU too. I’m just not a fan of dressing a baby in order to make a statement about an adult.

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