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to not want my 4mo to wear a football kit?

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youaintmymother · 04/08/2023 08:35

Lighthearted-ish. Bickering this morning... DH has dressed baby in an England babygrow. It was a present from his best friend when they were newborn. It was given with a chuckle, so I see it as something to wear in the house when football is on, for a cute photo, but not to be seen in out of the house.

Today DH has dressed 4mo and I will be out all day. I want to change him but DH thinks I'm being a massive snob.

YABU - you are being a snob. It's just a baby.
YANBU - I am cringing in solidarity and feel your pain. Get him changed now!

to not want my 4mo to wear a football kit?
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Original poster
youaintmymother · 04/08/2023 08:51

I have shared this with DH so he knows that I now know how unreasonable I am being. 🤣 Okay. I've got 10 minutes before I head out. At the moment it's staying on!

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arethereanyleftatall · 04/08/2023 08:52

Yabu.

The World Cup is on.

I'm just really pleased so many blokes are giving this World Cup the attention it deserves.

Princessintherosecastle · 04/08/2023 08:53

We’ve got the same one, it was a gift from his auntie. I only put it on my baby if we are in the house , he’s never worn it outside 🤣

OnionBhajis · 04/08/2023 08:56

70% you are being unreasonable so far!

its fun and if anyone in particular asks you about football than you can say your husband dressed him if youree not into football chat.

Angryappendix · 04/08/2023 08:57

At least it’s not Man United!!!

CwmYoy · 04/08/2023 08:58

It's awful, OP. So glad none of our friends did anything like that.

ActDottie · 04/08/2023 08:58

Seriously you’re being ridiculous particularly as he is taking baby out today and not you!

Rocknrollstar · 04/08/2023 08:59

What is the problem? I wouldn’t even recognise it as an England baby gro and those people who do will just smile. I knitted my babies jumpers to imitate Arsenal shirts.

MBailey99 · 04/08/2023 09:00

I'd be proud he thought to show support for our women's team during their world Cup. The baby grow is fine. People are being weird. Why doesn't he get a say anyway? Or is he only allowed to dress baby I'm clothes you like?

oviraptor21 · 04/08/2023 09:02

If it's you taking baby out then you get to choose. It wouldn't be my choice either.

BumpyaDaisyevna · 04/08/2023 09:04

I think if you want your and Dh relationship to develop so that he is properly an equal parent with you, so that in years to come the mental load and thinking about the children does not ALL fall on you, these early months are key.

If it is always taken as read that your views about the baby's clothes and care prevail, then you will end up with all the authority - but also all the responsibility - later.

I would say that this is the bigger thing in the picture here, than whether your baby wears A or B babygro.

In the interests of treating my DH like my equal fellow parent - I would not overrule his choices of babygro even if I didn't not much like it myself. Unless for some reason it was unsuitable (eg too small, dirty) and would impact on baby's comfort.

I don't like the babygro myself but your DH clearly thinks its fine, I wouldn't undermine his decisions.

reabies · 04/08/2023 09:04

I'm with you OP, hate mine in football stuff. PILs insist on buying it (of DH's team, even though DH also does not want him in football stuff) and I've ended up sending it in the spares bag to nursery. Then I wince when he comes out wearing it after a messy day 😅

If I were you I'd change him, don't care how snobby or petty it is.

BumpyaDaisyevna · 04/08/2023 09:05

In short, I think that your DH changed and dressed the baby, so it is his choice.

Mumontherunn · 04/08/2023 09:06

I’m with you! Hate babies in football kits. I think they’re a bit chavvy. DH has just bought one for our toddler… fine for home but no way will I go out with him on it 😂

Diddykong · 04/08/2023 09:07

As an allergy mum, if it wasn't splattered with poonami then anything goes.

Ifailed · 04/08/2023 09:08

I agree with @BumpyaDaisyevna. He's taking an interest in caring for the baby, as he should. If you become the sole carer in one sphere, you'll soon become the sole carer in all.

lemonyellows · 04/08/2023 09:11

It's just the same as any outfit that a relative buys for the baby. Let them see the child in it and a photo maybe. Then "lose" it 😉

Peony654 · 04/08/2023 09:12

YABU. Honestly, you need to pick your battles.

TheFlis12345 · 04/08/2023 09:14

MBailey99 · 04/08/2023 09:00

I'd be proud he thought to show support for our women's team during their world Cup. The baby grow is fine. People are being weird. Why doesn't he get a say anyway? Or is he only allowed to dress baby I'm clothes you like?

Exactly this! Great he is showing respect to the women’s sport. It’s been a long time coming.

DappledThings · 04/08/2023 09:15

Bit of both. I'd hate it too but would recognise I was just being snobby so I'd get over it.

DS had an England cricket one which I absolutely loved mind you. Looked like a full set of whites.

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youaintmymother · 04/08/2023 09:18

Excellent feedback! We are leaving the house... Baby is in the football kit! Will let you know how football chat with strangers goes during the day. 😅

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pictoosh · 04/08/2023 09:19

I mean it is just a babygro so of course it shouldn't matter BUT I know, it does.
I'd just change him and face dh's protest and/or annoyance. Football crap is not my scene.

greenteaandmarshmallows · 04/08/2023 09:20

He'll do a poonami soon enough then you can change him

ClinkyWotsit · 04/08/2023 09:24

Could be worse, DD had a small Tour de France kit as a baby.

pictoosh · 04/08/2023 09:24

EtA: My dh isn't into football at all so it's not something I ever dealt with. Maybe I'm talking out of a hole in my head.

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