Topless abroad . Yes or no

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Just after everyone's opinions. I'm on an all inclusive holiday . Nothing flash . European destination. Hot sunny . 3*. Would you feel offended if a female sunbathes topless at the pool? Just for context I have done , but put bikini top on to go in pool and her drinks . It's literally just going topless when laying on sunbed . More context age range is babies up to 70+ . Lots of different shapes and weights of people . Lots of bellies make and female and lots of big boobs on men. Like I say this is just for context . Just interested in people's opinions. I'm with my husband on holiday .

I've sunbathed and swum naked and topless in various places around the world for 30+ years, including skinny dipping regularly here in the UK. But I've always been sensitive to the social rules of those places, always been discreet and have kept my togs on if there was a chance of causing others discomfort. I wouldn't take my top off when sunbathing around a hotel pool at the busiest time of year with loads of children likely to be around and people from all sorts of cultures, some of which wouldn't welcome the sight of my breasts, no matter how beautiful they were.

Why? Because my desire for a seamless tan doesn't override the right of others to enjoy their holiday experience. As others have said, going topless is something that people usually do on the beach. Go to the beach, OP, where it's more widely accepted.

Sounds like the same mindset that believes women wearing short skirts are "asking for it"

Why do you want to?

Many years spent in the Canaries - by the pool no (although common in the 90s). Haven't seen anyone topless by the pool in the last 5 years.
Many topless women on the beach though, and that's fine.
In France on the beach very often. Small secluded bays, and often the women were local and in a secluded spot in between rocks. Unfortunately for them, this meant kids, rock pools and fishing nets 🤣

Absolutely agree

At the beach absolutely crack on. At the hotel pool, I'd be a bit more

My job requires me to visit a lot of hotels in European destinations and it's become less and less common to see people sunbathing topless around the pool, I've literally just come back from a Spanish island and didn't see anyone topless by the pool. Some hotels go so far as to state that bikini tops are required.

Breasts are also secondary sexual organs, so yes men will always want a look, take pics (hello brother 51 🙄) let them, but do you really want that?

I would and have gone topless loads. It’s pretty normal in a lot of Europe and many people don’t bat an eye. Like you, I always wore a top in the pool and would never walk to the bar or whatever topless.

Plenty of Speedos here. Not my husband's choice of swimwear but I'm not judging those that do wear them.

I am from southern Europe and it is normal to see topless women at the beach but I have never seen any by the pool (unsure if it is allowed).

Normal at the beach

Wouldn't particularly like it at the pool

I do it and would not judge others who did. Also wouldn't really care if I was judged tbh. It's a holiday and I am unlikely to see any of those people again so do whatever I am most comfortable with. They are just breasts at the end of the day.

I think it's a bit 'look at me' if you're on a public beach or at a public pool. Are tan lines that bad? If I was on holiday with my mates and one of them whipped off the bikini top, I would think wtf. It's very attention-seeking if hardly anyone else is doing it. If you're on a nudist beach in Germany or something, obviously it's fine.

I wouldn’t even sunbathe topless in my own garden because I don’t like the thought of anyone looking out their window at me, but I absolutely do not have a problem with other women doing it.

Plenty of Speedos here. Not my husband's choice of swimwear but I'm not judging those that do wear them.

Would you be judging if they got their knobs out to avoid tan lines?

I wouldn't, because I never sunbathe and I would hate to have a tan anyway. I wouldn't ever judge another woman for doing so.

However, the 'it's only boobs' and 'men do it all the time' lines that are trotted out all the time are truly the very thin end of the wedge. Women's bodies have been/are sexualised to an appalling degree, and so unfortunately, the playing field here is far from level.

The way men and women's topless bodies are perceived are not equal. I don't think we achieve equality here by doing the same as men. It's like a false veneer of being 'equal' while we know it's not actually the case at all.

I think context is everything. At a private villa, the beach, an adult-only resort fine, but not really when it's at a pool with families around.

If you did go top less how would you have a good tan for where your bikini bottoms are?

If you were sat next to my children by a pool top less I wouldn't be impressed

It’s really common on the beach in Greece, much less so at the pool in Spanish resorts (ime).
Personally I wouldn’t, maybe undo the straps while lying on my front to avoid tan lines, but that’s my limit. Not particularly offended by anyone else though.

I just dont think its very fashionable these days as we are so much more aware of sun damage. Tan lines dont bother me in the slightest.

We have been going to the Algarve for a few years and I have never seen a topless woman by the pool. I would go as far as saying that at the hotel we go to it is not allowed.

I wouldn't but it wouldn't bother me one not if anyone else did

it's interesting how many people seem to feel that British standards should be adhered to in Europe. Like we are right about these things and they are wrong.

Of course there is nothing wrong with you doing it if it is the cultural norm wherever you are.

As long as it is legal and culturally appropriate, then it is your choice.

Personally I would see it as attention seeking as there is really no benefit in life to having tanned nipples but if you want an excess of sun exposure and to make sure everyone sees your tits - then go for it.

And men and women's breasts are seen differently socioculturally which is why it is sexual assault to touch a woman's breasts but not to touch a man's breast.

I used to sunbathe topless loads in my 20's but wouldn't now mostly due to the fact that my boobs are not what they were.

But, I think it is way less common now - I haven't seen anyone sunbathing topless at any hotel in Europe I have been too in the last few years. As you mentioned types of hotel - these are five star in Spain and Italy.

I think other posters are right and people just don't do it so much now since they don't want to end up on someone's camera roll.

I wouldn't judge you but would think it a little odd as so outside the norm nowadays.

With regards to tan lines - a strapless bikini would suffice surely?