Aibu to feel snubbed, family left when toddler went to bed

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Family coming round for dinner, pre planned event suggested by them on a weekend night (saturday just gone)

Dh is currently away with work for 3 weeks so I was glad of the company and looking forward to it, I prepped and cooked a meal I knew everyone liked and bought decent wine.

Everyone arrived about 5, meal was great, lovely atmosphere and complimented on the food.
The plan had been to have a few drinks after and chat and catch up. dd (2) goes to bed at 7. My mum confirmed during the meal that Dd would go to bed at 7, she was doing great and On top form but loves her routine and is a great sleeper so I said yep then we can all sit down with the rest of the wine and some chocolates and enjoy grown up time.

Suddenly lots of talk about getting off and how there was 'no point' staying after Dd was in bed

To add insult to injury they 'helpfully' offered to take the wine and chocolates wtih them so I wasn't overloaded.

They left 6:45. dd went to bed 7 like a dream as always and I spent the night alone and a bit gutted, feel like I'm good enough to serve food and nice wine but no one was interested in my company.

I KNOW I'm being U to still be salty days later but I'm juggling all the childcare and a full time job and Saturday night was supposed to be my one bit of social time

AIBU to be a bit grumpy

Sounds like miscommunication to me, did you ask your mum why they left so quickly, they may have misinterpreted something without you realising it, (could someone have been feeling unwell and tried to hide it so as to not spoil your dinner party?, thus leaving early?). Does sound like they stayed for the meal and to see the baby and then left you to it though, a hand with the dishes and a good after dinner chat seems exactly what you needed and am surprised they didn't see that. I think you need a calm discussion with your mum to put your mind at rest. (taking the chocs and wine is a bit odd though?). Hope it all turns out fine though. X

They probably saw it as a lunch out and just want to get home, are they local? This sounds like every Christmas Day over the years when we used to host when my DC’s were small… I would say Family meals at the pub for special occasions can be even more stressful and disappointing though! 😂

No, YANBU. You already said they could stay after your child went to bed, they should stay for a chat and a drink for at least a while. It's actually quite rude to leave right after the meal. And never heard anyone taking their wine and chocolate back after having a meal at someone else's house? 🙄