Can I just say that life as an ugly woman is horrible.

[SundayMorningTeaForOne]

I’m going to get very personal, so I’ve name changed for this one.

I hope we can be grown-up about this topic and no one’s going to hit me with the ”everyone’s beautiful in their own way” or claim that I have self-esteem issues.

Anyway, when I was younger boys really wanted to let me know how ugly they found me, so often made comments when I walked by.

When older I was loading some stuff in the car and men walked by and made those truck in reverse beeb-beeb-beeb sounds, you know letting me know I’m fat.

When out, men don’t talk to me, I’m not saying they have to be interested in me - this isin’t even what I mean, they complitely ignore me, talk to everyone else around us/ table, I’m air apperently.

I’m turning 40 next year. Never been on a date, never even been asked out on a date. So if anyone here want to argue my ugliness must be in my head, what more proof do you need.

Getting older has woken me up to the fact that I’m not going to have kids, I don’t have enough money and only family members I have I my prent and the way that they are, they are not going to support me with a child, so I can’t have a child on my own.
I don’t have enough resourses.

I can’t ger over the fact that I’ve went through life and never been loved.
No one’s ever cared about me, no one saw me as someone they’d (at least try) want to share and build a life with.
Always doing everything on my own, how tired I have become, I didn’t even notice it until I felt totally broken.
My cat died almost two years ago, she was the only one I’ve ever said good morning and good night to, now I just say to an empty room.
How sad is that?!

I honestly don’t know what keeps me here, why did I stay here for all these years. To still be alone.
Everyday I get up and go for a walk, no matter the weather, and feel like an idiot for doing that.

And in case someone wants to jump and say I must have depression, I just want to remaind that this is my life, had been always.
I’m just getting it all out. I think anyone would be very extatic if this is how their life had gone.
I had hope when I was younger / was happier, years / decades roled by and it wore me down.
That’s it.

@GymShirk

I couldn't give a shit what comments people make about my body. They wouldn't be any worse than when I was fat. If I was vain I wouldn't have posted a photo of myself in a field wearing my scrubs and with my hair looking shit. It's not even that flattering a photo as my arms look chubbier than they are due to the position.

I know I'm in better shape than the majority of UK women (despite what Ilyama the hidden supermodel says lol) and tbh I actually started lifting weights for health reasons and as stress relief, not to look good. Most of my training focuses on performance and with a 145kg deadlift I'm classed in the 'elite' category for women although I don't compete.

The responses say far more about the people leaving them than about me. The accusations that I'm happy to 'settle' for a guy that thinks I'm ugly but wants my body. The insinuation that I'm only after a quick shag and don't value an intellectual match etc.

The truth is that I'm happily engaged, have a good job, and have a very positive outlook on life. I posted a photo without really thinking and that's pretty much the sum of it. I'm not going to lose any sleep over it and I'm surprised that other posters are given that they're all in much better shape than me and so happy with their lot. You'd think they'd go easy on me out of pity lol.

Anyway, I hope the OP finds happiness. I'm off to the gym.

What a nasty rude arrogant post. Especially the bit I have put in italics.

Also... I thought you were going to the gym (at 16.56.) Yet you're still here over an hour later.

You're not going to the gym at all.

And 'elite' my backside! 😆

Agree

I wasn't just talking about men tbf. But thinking about it I agree that it's probs different for each gender.

I'd imagine that women probs switch off to the repeated propositioning whilst more than a few men will be happy to sleep with 250 women.

Whatevs babe. 😘

It is true though @FadeAwayAndRadiate

Still not at the gym then @GymShirk ??? 😂

No, I'm procrastinating and tidying up instead. Will I need to post another photo to prove it when I'm finally there? 😂

And what do you mean by 'elite my arse'? Are you saying you know better than the ExRx Strength Standards?

😂

@GymShirk can you please start your own thread. Noone is interested in you proving anything here.

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Just for you two.

I guess you'll accuse me of hacking a female powerlifter's account next.

Elite my arse as you say. 😂 It kind of is tbh. It's pretty juicy.

@GymShirk great for you! I’m sure op is feeling much better now. 👍🏼

Well, you continued it tbf. I'd moved on.

Ok, I'm stopping with this petty stuff. Now let's see if you can do the same.

You do come across as very arrogant. The most unattractive trait of all. And extremely unsympathetic to op, who started this thread. But you can’t see that, you are so full of your own journey and greatness.

What an awful thing to say of your ’friend’. It’s so sad that this is what your brain decided to remember.

I posted with genuine intent to help. Maybe a bit goofy by posting a pic. It's you lot that had to start the sniping and insinuate I looked shit/only want sex/don't care about intellectual stuff, etc.

Could've just posted a lol or raised eyebrow emoji and carried on. It's the intent that matters. My intent was to help, your intent was to criticise and undermine.

This in spades ^. @GymShirk just stop FFS. Your pics; the first AND the second one prove nothing. I could post a photo of myself with a stethoscope, wearing a white jacket. Doesn't mean I'm a doctor!

The trap many unhappy people fall into is becoming resentful and wanting to knock down others rather than lifting themselves up. That's the vibe I'm getting from you two tbh.

Seriously? That’s what you took from that post? Have my very first, ‘Are you Gareth?’

Oh my god OP, I'm joining this late but are you actually me? I am the exact same! So much it's actually spooky. The only difference being I can't have a pet because I'm renting. I can't offer advice because I need it myself, but I hope it's some consultation that you're not alone and someone else knows how it feels.

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No, it is not the only thing @Usedtolikefood . Feel free to write something more meaningful yourself.

I do think it’s sad that our brains often remember mean things that were said to us 20-30-70 years ago. Many people on this and other threads mention this. About what a parent said, and it stuck and had so much impact on your life. If you read again you can see how much the person I commented actually wrote about that friend whose words stuck with her.

I have a friend who is very short. All he can remember from our 3 years at a school we went to, is that he was told to stand up next to his desk to answer a question. The teacher kept interrupting him and said he couldn’t hear him, and then said to him ’You need to stand up.’ My friend said ’I am..’ and teacher’s reply was ’Could have fooled me. You’re so short we can’t see you.’

I mean it’s not the worst thing, but yeah, I do think it’s terrible what you sometimes remember and it has such an impact.