Thank you🙏
Both of my Grandmother's were incredible women and became nurses during WW1.
Strong capable women whom both chose very well in their husbands, and had great marriages.
I was in my 20's when they died and can very clearly recall great wisdom from them both.
I distinctly remember being told by Granny, when I found my first teenage job, that most important money any woman should have, would be her "buzz off money"......money put aside and kept to tell any employer or man, to buzz off, if needs be!
She always said among the most important qualities in a man are kindness, respect and loyalty, as everything else flows from these things.
Young women often don't think about these things unless someone mentions them and brings them to their attention, and lodges them in their mind.
They both did this for me.
Certainly the whole saying No to test someone is so obvious, when you think about it.
Of course someone likes you when you always say yes, in both female and male relationships.
How often have we read about women being close friends with someone and always saying yes, and yet they are ghosted at the first No?
@PimpMyFridge I remember when me and hubby were at our very loved up stage and my buddy got dumped and was a bit lost.
I felt so bad knowing she was going to be home on a Saturday night.
So we got into the habit of going for an early bite and would swing by to pick her up and would go to bars/clubs where we would meet lots of people she/we would know.
I really liked that he understood and got it without any big explanation.
All these small markers build a very detailed picture of who someone really is.
The older you are the quicker and clearer those pictures are.
Just like the dots of a good man can be spotted quickly, so too can those of a man who will likely give you a dogs life, be joined together.
The skill is recognising what the good and bad dots are.