To think the other hens should pay?

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Friends hen party in 48 hours in a European city. It’s the first of our group of friends to be married and we’re all really happy and excited for her.

There are 20 attendees, and so the maid of honour found a hotel where she can book 5 rooms of 4, the cost per room for the weekend is £960, meaning £240pp.

The maid of honour chose who goes in which room and did a perfect job, everyone is with their friend/family group and worked out really well.

We have to pay by the end of the month and have been given time to save, however one person in my room has now dropped out due to money issues. The MOH has said the remaining three of us sharing this room now need to make up the £240 lost, so £80 each. This takes the cost from £240pp to £320pp for the three of us whilst the rest of the party pay the same.

If everybody in the party paid the difference it would only be an additional £12.63 each - WIBU to suggest this? I get it’s our hotel room, but could we not look at it as the cost of the accommodation per head has gone up as whole?

Never been to one of these weekends so unsure how these things work.

I bet many of them can't spare £80 for a hen night, let alone an extra £80 for another not going.

A good few years ago we had a group trip booked. I was coming for two nights, the rest three. We booked hotel rooms. Two of the women had to cancel for medical reasons. We split the entire cost among the remaining attendees. I think this is the only fair way.

why on earth is a holiday ridiculous? Millions of people are still going on holiday with their families this summer despite "these financial times" why should that be okay but a bunch of women going on holiday together not? Some of them might not have partners, most won't have kids (as OP says bride is the first one to be married), should they just never go on holiday at all then?

So many people on MN are fucking weird about hen parties. It's a voluntary holiday for the attendees, nobody is being press ganged into it...lots of people (shock horror) ACTUALLY ENJOY spending time with their friends...

I think it's ridiculous, as the original poster said it's the first of a group of friends to marry and they're all pleased for her. Sounds selfish to expect the friends to be so pleased they will pay for a holiday abroad..
After all, a hen night is supposed to be where a bride to be goes out with her friends before the wedding. It should be where all the friends take part without it being a financial burden, and not only those who can afford it take part .

I can't wait to go away on a hen do for my friend. Some of the group do struggle for money but they too can't wait to get away!! Some people sound so boring 😅

not a chance i would be paying an extra £80. i’d just refuse.

No one forces anyone to go. It’s a shock but some people don’t mind spending money on hen dos and don’t see it as a financial burden.

People are so bloody miserable.

People always drop out of these things and the MOH should have explained the T & C’s and the Hens should have asked.

Could your friendship group of 8 split the extra cost?

This would lower the amount for you a bit further and your friends may be more open to covering the unexpected additional cost (compared with the wider group) as you know the her, her circumstances, etc.

The MOH and drop-out should not have put you in this position but looks like you’ve been left with little choice and are now responsible for the solution.

What a strange post - why should those closest to the drop-out pick up her costs?

The MOH and drop-out should not have put you in this position but looks like you’ve been left with little choice and are now responsible for the solution.

Really?? I don't think anyone else on this thread has suggested the OP is responsible.

To be clear - there’s absolutely no ‘should’ about it.

People may or may not want to help bear these extra costs, neither would be wrong.

How on earth does a 4% think you're being unreasonable 🙄

I love travelling and I love my friends but a trip with 19 other women?

I know I'm opening an old thread but I wonder what happened here?

OP can you give an update?

Think this is unreasonable to expect 3 of uou to cover for one it should be full cost divided by number going.

Why have you resurrected a Zombie Thread dinky?
Do you work for MNHQ and it's a slow MN day?

… and more than one zombie hen thread,

Why did you spend your time nagging a person for commenting on an old post? If posts are open, then anybody should still be able to comment without a bossy person bullying them.

It isn't bullying to question why someone is giving advice/an opinion on an event that has already taken place on an EIGHT month old thread. It wastes posters' time and it's a second reanimation - given it was unsuccessfully resurrected five months ago. take your name change and stick it where the sun don't shine