To think the other hens should pay?

[Issueatwork]

Friends hen party in 48 hours in a European city. It’s the first of our group of friends to be married and we’re all really happy and excited for her.

There are 20 attendees, and so the maid of honour found a hotel where she can book 5 rooms of 4, the cost per room for the weekend is £960, meaning £240pp.

The maid of honour chose who goes in which room and did a perfect job, everyone is with their friend/family group and worked out really well.

We have to pay by the end of the month and have been given time to save, however one person in my room has now dropped out due to money issues. The MOH has said the remaining three of us sharing this room now need to make up the £240 lost, so £80 each. This takes the cost from £240pp to £320pp for the three of us whilst the rest of the party pay the same.

If everybody in the party paid the difference it would only be an additional £12.63 each - WIBU to suggest this? I get it’s our hotel room, but could we not look at it as the cost of the accommodation per head has gone up as whole?

Never been to one of these weekends so unsure how these things work.

This! Asking to swap a room definitely highlights the unfairness of the situation.

Have you made the suggestion to the MoH yet @OP ?

How was it received?

Please come back and update @Issueatwork , if only to stop the mind-numbingly annoying "the drop-out should pay" posts

I meant 80 for 3 each, but I didn't write it properly. (My apologies)

So it's 240 for each person dropping out, if the other 2 on that room drop out, they are expecting 1 person to pay 960? While the others pay 240?

Go on @Issueatwork get 2 more to "drop out" and show how ridiculous thy are

@pineapplecrushed

I'm going to disagree with everyone here. You say that the rooms were divided by family group, so if it is your family member, you should pay for her.

It is not a family group. It's a large group hen of 20 people and the MOH has split everyone into rooms. They may be based on friendships but they are not five (or however many) separate holidays.

@a1poshpaws you've made my day. It's on my Christmas list. In the meantime, the hens have decided to pass the buck to their nemesis.

This happened to me when on a girls’ weekend to London. Friend who I was going to share with dropped out. Therefore we divided up the cost of the rooms between all of us and everyone paid just a few pounds more. Simple!

Splitting the cost between everyone should really be part of the informal contract in case anyone else backs out. All parties will feel responsible

Just tell her straight that doesn't work and is not fair, that you won't be owing an extra £80 per head and she needs to redistribute it across the hole group as that is how the costs have been split.

Person who dropped out pays!

I don't think the rooms were divided by family group. I think enough beds were booked for everyone and the MOH split them into rooms.

Another possible solution is to invite a new 20th person 🤷🏼‍♀️

She dropped out due to money worries. If she could afford it she would still be going!

ffs

It may be will but you can't do anything about it. The dropout should still pay. It is unfortunate that she now has money issues, but that's life. If she'd booked a holiday herself, a travel company wouldn't let her have a refund because her financial circumstances changed, so why should you? If she really won't pay, split it between the whole group as it's much less money for everyone and who is in what room is arbritory so if only her room paid that wouldn't be fair.

Update?
Is it sorted now? (Has MOH come to her senses and fairly readjusted the whole groups costs)

I think share the costs equally but have a ballot on arrival to allocate the rooms

Why the ballot - its just adding an extra layer of complication?

Another good reason to skip these sorts of things. I bet at least half of you are not even that bothered and some of you will be getting into debt for this. Perhaps I'm a skinflint but nice meal and a night out locally should be enough if you're with friends 😄

It's not a debate on how people spend their hen do.

I mean the poster who said she and her husband went out separately with friends then all met up for cocktails. Now that's weird!!!

The interesting point is, if you and the other two in your room now bail because its too expensive.
The rest of the group will be left to cover even more costs.
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Leading me to say, it's the person who dropped out that should pay ONLY IF they had agreed to actually come in the first place and to the actual price before it was booked.

If that person that dropped out dropped out because they got told oh by the way the hen party is here and it's £240, and they said sorry i cant afford it I can't come.
Then it's the organiser who should pay. Because its not right to commit someone to a cost without them having the chance to accept or refuse first.

Much like if you were invited to a family holiday and then someone turns round and says right it's going to cost £1000 to book a villa next summer each. It is only fair to tell someone how much something will be, BEFORE they have to pay for it.
Like putting your shopping through the till, without knowing how much it will cost.

Having a right to say yes or no is really important.
So if the person organising booked everything, and then just told people they had to pay money after they'd booked it and without others agreeing to how much or even knowing . That's unfair.

The organiser unfairly committed others funds.

In terms of because its the person in your room, that was not your choice.

Its unfair to charge £80 extra to you.
It was roulette on if anyone drops out.

If the person dropping out did commit, know the price then turn round and say no. Then they should pay.

Is there an option to switch to a smaller potentially cheaper room? You're going from a 3 bed to a two bed? Something similar happened us, person didn't drop out but they were flying from different country and their flight was cancelled, we were all in doubles and hotel let us switch room rate from a double to a single. Think it still worked out about €20 or €30 more for the person in the single room but they said they were happy to pay the extra for a room to themselves

Oh no, I got caught by the social media police for going slightly off topic 😂

I agree. A holiday abroad with a hotel is ridiculous in these financial times. If that's what a bride or MOH wants to do, then she should pay for it all.