To hate going to big weddings ?

[ForestGoblin]

So awkward. So expensive. So "quirky" yet identical. You can't talk to the bride and groom (who are possibly your only actual friends there). The food cost them a bomb but tastes meh. Ditto the booze. Chair covers for £25 a go??? CHAIR covers? So often impossible to get to. Impossible to leave. Just want to go to bed by 10 but that'd be rude. Hate pressure to dance. Hate the inevitable hangover from all the wine I anxiety drunk (going to try to get through one with zero wine apart from the toasting fizz).

But I think other people must love them otherwise why would they keep happening.

I've been to four exactly like this as an adult (because I've been to four weddings as an adult) only without the drinking so no hangover.

Now in the unlikely event I'm invited to a wedding I just say no, and everybody is much happier

Eh? This for real.. never ever been to any weddings like this.
Think you're making it up.

Same.

Seems like a you problem OP.

The best(worst) thing about this post is that the OP refuses to believe anyone who doesn’t share her experiences. Then insults people when they say they’ve eaten amazing food at weddings by saying they need to eat at better places. The OP sounds like a delight.

Wish I got invited to weddings. I only go to funerals now. If you hate the joy of it all so much don't go you're probably just making others miserable

I think they would prefer if you did decline to be honest then you wouldn’t be slagging off their wedding on Mumsnet

Given the OP’s past threads and posts, this is simply the case of a profoundly unsociable and unhappy OP, who rather than decline a wedding politely, instead prefers to bitch and whinge about it.

What a shitty way to live

I love going to a wedding. Big, small, good, bad, I enjoy them all.
To be fair, I love any social occasions where I can get glammed up, meet new people and have a laugh.

Me too

and even when they aren’t to my “taste” I still love the experience

Jayz, imagine if the people who forced you to go to their wedding heard you talking like this. They would be devastated.

there’s a point where anxiety is not an excuse for misandry, which is where you are. They invited you out of affection or duty and you tear them to shreds online. And you must be even more seething inside.

very very sad.

Weddings are marmite for everyone really. Some love them, some don't. There are lots of reasons people dislike weddings and they are valid reasons. No one has a monopoly in deciding what people should and shouldn't enjoy.

As for me, I really enjoy close family weddings, getting together all in one place, catching up, having a bloody good laugh (our family has a great sense of fun thankfully) and enjoying the food and mingling with everyone.

On the other hand I now decline all invitations to the weddings of friends. No exceptions. My reason for that is I am usually just a friend of the "friend" and one or two others, I can be seated at a table of ten with people I don't know and have nothing in common with, and I find trying to make conversation for hours with strangers is exhausting. So I decline graciously and give a generous present anyway.

I also make sure I decline within 24 hours of receiving the invitation, that means the B+G can invite others who may be on the "perhaps" list!

Each to their own, and no judgment is required I think.

That’s what I think. The OP’s friend would undoubtedly be so hurt to know that the Op has started a thread about feeling “weirded out”

who needs enemies when…

Although perhaps the firmed thinks it’s “sad” that the op gets engaged and then decides to wait 2/3 years until actually cementing with vows 🤷‍♀️