Having a baby with not the greatest looking guy.

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My sister is my best friend, she is usually the nicest person in the world and I know this comment came out without her thinking. At the weekend I was talking with my sister and I said I was wondering what our baby (i’m pregnant with my first) will look like. She said without hesitation ‘hopefully the baby will look like you as you didn’t pick the best looking family to have a baby with’. Something along those lines with her trying to back peddle that she thinks my DH gets better looking every time she sees him as his personality shines through. There was also a comment on how all of his family are all a bit ‘unfortunate looking’.

It is true, I fell madly in love with DH’s personality and I wanted a future with him as his values/morals aligned with mine. I’m madly in love with him and couldn’t wait to have his babies.

However now I’m feeling like I’ve somewhat failed my future kids that they’re going to have an upward battle with being ‘unfortunate looking’. I’m not sure why I can’t shake it off as I know DH will be a brilliant and devoted father as he is as a husband, and I know that’s more important than my kids being 6ft tall or voted prom queen.

HONESTLY

THERE IS ONLY ONE BEAUTIFUL BABY IN THE WHOLE WORLD AND EVERY MOTHER HAS THAT CHILD ☘️🙏🏽

Ok so shallow u only want a good looking healthy perfect child my word heard it all how cruel to your poor partner and ur poor child what in earth are you going to do if the child gets a cold run a mile

@TSPAOIFA no we’re not friends. But know each other from school. Fb friends. He is 100% Sloth from the Goonies even down to the wonky eye. But they’ve produced a very handsome child. Just sayin…

Yes my son has a friend (they are both 15 or so) who is undeniably classically handsome and rugged and everyone says it.

I was surprised to meet his parents at a school event at the end of the year. Definitely NOT who you'd expect.

@Hereforaglance oh behave. Who doesn't want a beautiful baby, yeah it's a lottery but still.

I absolutely did not want a ginger baby. Shoot me.

His nose probably comes from playing rugby though, rather than being born with it.

Grew up living next door to the High school hot girl. Very pretty girl.

You would not have predicted it looking at her parents.

I come from a family with good looking females, I'm the weakest link but my 14 year old will be prettier than I ever was. Thankfully she's also a nice kid.

ur sister is a jealous bitch

Good looking people don't necessarily produce good looking kids anyway. And looks can be a poisoned chalice. You'll be fine!

What an absolute bitch.

Think of it this way. It takes a lot to stand out in the world today and having distinctive features can be the a huge blessing. Your DH is blessed with all the best personality features and with your own beauty added your DC will more chance than some of being beautiful inside and out.

Your sister needs to look at how ugly she is inside before she comments on your DH

They might have been more attractive when younger.

I have a male friend who when I met him in his early 20s was very handsome. Now at 44 he’s balding, has quite the paunch and is probably below average in the look department. I feel my DH who isn’t classically handsome has matured well and is probably better looking now in his 40s than he was in his 20s. You just never know how things will pan out.

When I was a teen I had a huge crush on one of my cousin’s cousins (from the other side of his family). He was gorgeous. I met him again at a family party a few years back and couldn’t believe the paunchy red faced middle aged man he’d turned into.

The funny thing is that when you fall in love, you don't see the overbite or big ears as something to worry about, because they are part of your loved one. Your baby will also be part of your loved one, and you will be thankful that s/he looks like your OH. Don't worry about it. Your sis won't see your OH in the same way as you do. And also, it's a fact that all children and teens are beautiful, even the ugly ones!

I have a kind, curious, intelligent child with a facial deformity and can only hope that she's lucky enough to find someone who can see her for all she is (and ignore mean-spirited comments from others about their potential offspring).

OP, it sounds like you have a great partnership and the potential to have a very happy family. Don't let a silly remark from your sister spoil that.

Wish I'd gone for character, integrity and personality.

Lol DD got her ASD, her good looks, and her intelligence from my side of the family - I boast about all of this all the time.

She's an idiot.

My parents each were very good looking, with well-proportioned bodies. They looked like suncream models in the 60s and 70s.

My sister and I, their offspring, are not pretty. She has a large pear-shaped heavy-limbed body and I am short and apple shaped. Neither of us got their lovely eyes or hair.

Some family friends are homely as could be. Their son and daughter, now in their 30s, are tall and athletic with beautiful features, gorgeous hair & skin and energetic, friendly personalities.

There's just no predicting.

Yes. People often compliment young kids, ‘stop their parents on the street’ etc because it’s something to say and young kids are cute. The teen years aren’t kind to everyone and most kids end up as average-looking adults. And that’s ok!

@bladebladebla1

Did she? Another bit of trash I've obviously missed 😂

I actually think the most attractive children come from those parents with the greatest differences in features and gene pool. In my eyes that is why mixes race children are often very beautiful.

It makes me so sad when boys I liked are red faced and balding and beer bellied . It's hardly fair either because the years have not left me unchanged!

I’ll be honest, I don’t think she is. 😬

I'm what some here would call "interesting looking". Now in my 40s, and hearing so many horror stories of men treating women badly, I've come to think of it as a blessing - a way to filter out the shallow people and be ignored by misogynists!

Um there was a man in Germany a long time ago who used to make nasty comments about people with big noses and beards and wiry hair and prefer people with blond hair and blue eyes.Oh yes, Hitler was his name.Yes we live in a lookist society but this is wrong on so many levelsPoster has a lovely husband and it is so so disgusting that her sister said this.I have a friend who was told by her mother back in the 60s that she was no oil painting but would be useful.This has blighted her life.No shades of grey here. No ambivalence.What your sister said was wrong.

Your sister sounds immature and mean.

Pray for a healthy child.