Having a baby with not the greatest looking guy.

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My sister is my best friend, she is usually the nicest person in the world and I know this comment came out without her thinking. At the weekend I was talking with my sister and I said I was wondering what our baby (i’m pregnant with my first) will look like. She said without hesitation ‘hopefully the baby will look like you as you didn’t pick the best looking family to have a baby with’. Something along those lines with her trying to back peddle that she thinks my DH gets better looking every time she sees him as his personality shines through. There was also a comment on how all of his family are all a bit ‘unfortunate looking’.

It is true, I fell madly in love with DH’s personality and I wanted a future with him as his values/morals aligned with mine. I’m madly in love with him and couldn’t wait to have his babies.

However now I’m feeling like I’ve somewhat failed my future kids that they’re going to have an upward battle with being ‘unfortunate looking’. I’m not sure why I can’t shake it off as I know DH will be a brilliant and devoted father as he is as a husband, and I know that’s more important than my kids being 6ft tall or voted prom queen.

Your sister is a dick. I think I'm your DH in this story. My 3DC are objectively good looking. I see many gorgeous couples with unfortunate looking children.
My youngest is now 17 so as children and adults I now know they are beautiful. I would never in a million years be described as such.
When DC were younger I was asked if they were mine. They were also approached several times in places like airports and shopping centres and asked if they were signed with agencies.
One memory that sticks with me is staying overnight with DS1 on a hospital ward. There were other mothers who'd slept by their DC's beds. DH walked in and every nurse and mother did a double take at him as he came down the ward. I always knew looks wise I was punching above my weight but DH adores me. We've been married almost thirty years now and over that period I've been told several times how good looking he is.
I believe true love is blind, or at least it is in our case.

Nice looking parents don’t necessarily produce supermodels. Bruce Willis etc…

Weird thing to say to a pregnant woman.

Lots of attractive people have non attractive kids and vice versa. There's no guarantees. You should always pick someone you like! Looks are fleeting

God, your sister sounds awful, don’t listen to her. A child being raised by loving parents who model a healthy relationship is probably the best environment you could give a child.

Looks aren’t everything but on a side note, my dad isn’t a looker, and I look more like him but with my mums cheekbones and jaw structure…. I’ve always been described as an attractive person and I look a lot younger than I am (again, from my dads side).

When your baby is born they will be showered with love, they will have perfect skin, shining eyes and a heart melting smile as they grow older. They will have parents who love them and value them for the people they will grow into. This matters so much more than looks, and they could well be very good looking, genetics are not predictable.

Quite. Look at the Beckhams. We're both plain as a pikestaff and the kids are definitely above average. No guarantees.

What a stupid thing for her to comment on.

Value intelligence, empathy, kindness, determination etc not beauty.

Beautiful people do not have an easy life.

the most ‘beautiful woman’ I know struggles daily with being taken seriously as a surgeon, she was raped twice as a young woman, her husband openly admits he chose her for her looks, he fell in love with her picture. Went through an awful amount of manipulation to get her - I feel very sorry for her. Very sorry.

looks fade, personality doesn’t.

I've seen beauty in people who were called ugly and I've seen the devil in the
most angelic faces.

• Via(The Minds Journal)

= CONNY CERNIK

Yeah me and my husband are average looking and our kids have somehow ended up stunning (not just us says it, been approached to model) and to be fair no one in either of our families is good looking. Actually assuming they will both change to average or worse by the time they're adults too 😂. But anyway, she's an idiot for saying it but I also say stupid things that I should only think in my head sometimes so cut her some slack and ignore. You're happy that's all that matters

I don't get the Bruce Willis reference?

Katie price did last week 😂😂

I cant believe you're even thinking about this.
If your partners brother said this about you and he went on to think ahout and discuss it would you not be hurt?

Protect, love and stand up for your man fs. This is awful.

Blimey what a thing to say. Baby girls usually look like their dads until they got to about 18, (its natures way of deterring any sexual attraction in the tribe) and then they literally transformed into goddesses and look the absolute image of me the lucky beasts. My boy has always looks like me from about five onwards. Thank goodness.

Well with Bruce Willis and Demi Moore as parents you would expect some absolute crackers wouldn’t you?
They’re very normal looking girls not outstandingly beautiful but not ugly either

Its about genetics

He has 5 daughters with stunners Demi Moore and Emma Heming. Who are routinely subject to to negative comments about the way they look.

Are you ok?

The OP says herself her DH is not good-looking. It's not a crime is it? Hardly necessary to go all Tammy Wynette over something both true and irrelevant to his worth as a person.

“In the real world, very few women would choose to be unattractive.”

Perhaps not unattractive but I think some would settle for average.

I’m sorry but 😂 your sister sounds inadvertently hilarious.

And don’t be precious. Your child might look like Roz from Monsters Inc and you’ll never know. It’s a joy of nature.

Bruce Willis is a very average looking guy with a big jaw and his genes definitely came out on top of Demi Moore's. Their girls look just like him.

😂 “go all Tammy Wynette”.

Brava.

I think intelligence and good personality genes are more important ones to pass on.

Give me personality and values over looks any day of the week

I’d like all three.

What a horrible thing for your sister to say. I hope she's duly mortified.

Anyway, whatever your children look like, there's no reason they can't be successful, well-adjusted and happy, just like their dad.