Having a baby with not the greatest looking guy.

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My sister is my best friend, she is usually the nicest person in the world and I know this comment came out without her thinking. At the weekend I was talking with my sister and I said I was wondering what our baby (i’m pregnant with my first) will look like. She said without hesitation ‘hopefully the baby will look like you as you didn’t pick the best looking family to have a baby with’. Something along those lines with her trying to back peddle that she thinks my DH gets better looking every time she sees him as his personality shines through. There was also a comment on how all of his family are all a bit ‘unfortunate looking’.

It is true, I fell madly in love with DH’s personality and I wanted a future with him as his values/morals aligned with mine. I’m madly in love with him and couldn’t wait to have his babies.

However now I’m feeling like I’ve somewhat failed my future kids that they’re going to have an upward battle with being ‘unfortunate looking’. I’m not sure why I can’t shake it off as I know DH will be a brilliant and devoted father as he is as a husband, and I know that’s more important than my kids being 6ft tall or voted prom queen.

Cut her some slack if you say she's usually very nice. She made a silly throw away comment she regrets. We've all been there, don't stew on it and please don't tell DH. You don't want to create tension for no reason or make him feel insecure.

Also as far as ugly kids... just like adults, a child's personality shines through to make them cuter or uglier.

You can't expect your sister to also view your husband as attractive. You objectively know he's not, and you know that you see him through the lens of loving who he is. But she is not looking through that lens. So I think yabu, a little.
My was the opposite, a good looking arsehole. You are better off. You don't need other people to view him how you view him.

That is not a comment that comes out 'without thinking' – that's a horrendous thing to say. She decided to say it and she said it.

Your sister is being awful

your kids will be beautiful because all kids are, especially because they’re the amalgamation of you and the man you love

Me and my husband are both very average looking (uh a friend told me my husband is such a lovely chap but ‘shame about the face’…. We aren’t friends anymore….) but our kids are absolutely stunning :)

I remember my ex saying on a number of occasions about random strangers’How do two ugly buggers like that produce such a beautiful child?’
He didn’t say it so they could hear though.

My sister is much prettier than me. Her kids are lovely but not stunning.

DH and I are no oil paintings. I think our two boys are gorgeous, but i know I'm.biased! However, one of them is genuinely very good looking. In his teens he had a couple of offers of modelling (which he didn't take up). I think he takes after his aunt!

I’ve had a couple of similar comments because neither DH or I are good looking. The comments have always come from insecure people who I wouldn’t consider good looking themselves either. I also don’t count them as people who are ‘nice’.
However, the good news is our DC are beautiful. The same nasty people agree and have commented ‘how have you 2 managed to make beautiful kids?’

It was an insensitive comment that she’s probably cringing herself stupid over now. Try not to let it upset you at what should be a happy time 🙂

I look so like both my parents that, if you put their pictures into one of those face merging apps, I’d be the result. Yet if you only looked at my colouring, which comes from my maternal grandmother’s side, you’d never think I was my father’s daughter. Similarly, my sister and I are alike facially, but she’s much fairer skinned and haired than me. You never know what the split will be like.

Only on MN are everyone’s kids “stunning” - 6’ rugby playing boys and angelic flaxen haired girls.

In the real world most people and their children are fairly ordinary looking. Yours probably will be too OP, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

Same only DD did inherit them!

Both of my parents are exceptionally good-looking people and I'm not, there's no guarantees in life.

Yeh, my x was very good-looking v reg features and tbh our kids are still fairly average. Not unattractive at all but my x's very regular features look a little plainer on my kids than they did on him. I love my kids so so much more than i ever loved him before anybody leaps on me.

But it is what it is and we are all of us within normal ranges.

My first thought is, she is jealous. You are pregnant with your first child and will no doubt be receiving a lot of extra attention from people, especially family members so I wonder if she might be feeling a little put out and had to rain in your parade a little? I know you said she is your best friend and in every other way she is lovely, but this comment alone makes me think she has a nasty side.

See DH and I are distinctly average. Both DDs are stunning, everyone says so, genuinely turning heads on the street.
I think they were swapped in the hospital tbf.

I would love to see what your sister looks like I bet she's no Christy Turlington.. amd whatever she looks like on the outside she's one ugly critter on the inside.. she has an ugly soul. There's nothing more uglier than that! Poor her.
Your child will be beautiful.. your husband IS attractive. Fuck her and her awful opinions. Don't hang around her toxic energy you'll do much better when you find new people (ie, your child!!)

Are you King Charles?
I always though prince philip and the queen were very attractive but it just shows, it's a pinch of this, a dash of that. It's not mixing paint.

With absolute sympathy for Rumer et al, who ended up having unnecessary surgery as a result of inheriting Dad's chin (but more down to societal expectations/Hollywood standards), Demi Moore and Bruce Willis are living proof that you don't know how your genes will align.

My other half would tell you he is not conventionally attractive. I scrub up well.
We make beautiful babies.

Not read the whole thread but I read the OP.
I accept that there are some people who might be seen objectively as "good looking" or "not good looking" in some kind of universal way (regular features, symmetrical, outward signs of good health and wellbeing etc) but surely being good looking to someone is a subjective thing. Your sister is saying she does not find your husband physically attractive. Well thank f**k for that! The rest is irelevant as well as the fact that 99 out of 100 people walking down the street might not agree with your sister because beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

That works the other way as well. Some rather unattractive looking people can produce gorgeous looking babies 😁but as other pps have pointed out, attractiveness has little to do with looks and very much to do with a generous and caring personality, and that is the one to choose as a potential parent!!

Don't be so dramatic, the sister is not ugly on the inside she only said what even the op knows is objectively true.

Being good-looking isn't that subjective, it's mostly well agreed upon who is physically attractive and who isn't no matter what people post here.

Your DH is surely living proof that looks are no obstacle to finding success, love and happiness? You admire and treasure him so why wouldn't your children have the same, if you raise them to be people with good morals and values and character.

Even us unattractive people can find friendship and love, be happy and successful you know.

Your sister is horrible but you’re not much better. How hurtful to write such things online about your life partner. It’s your family who has the ugly personalities that’s for sure. Get a grip and tell your sister to do one. Rude bitch

Didn't Princess Anne say something about Mike Tindall and Zara's baby not having his (rugby player) nose?

This tbh.