Things on MNs that are confusing?

[ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees]

Just curious if anyone else wonders about these things:

1. DP/DH with super outing hobby - what are these hobbies, naked trampoline tennis?

2. DP/DH with super stressful job - what is it? Is it a known stressful job or is DP/DP just describing it as that? Anyone ever consider DH is incompetent or has been over promoted?

3. The notion of a "posh wank" - it doesn't exist, it's a lie told by men caught cheating. Do people really believe it's a real thing?

The only threads I ever wonder about are the food ones but it could be I’m jealous their children eat curries, hummus, carrot sticks etc (although I’m not a fan of any of those myself)

Everyone eats a maximum of 1200 calories a day, weighs 8 stone nothing and is fulfilled eating only organic steamed fish and carrots

I am always confused by the ‘How are other people affording luxuries’. The answer is always going to be that they earn more, have less outgoings or getting in debt. Or a mix of 2 or more of these things.
yup it’s like irl when people say ‘I’d love to be able to do x but we can’t afford it’ in an accusing way and you think ‘ well we can’t either, we have a loan out!’ Not the way a lot of people operate but if you’re going to act like others have it easier …

Anyone over about 55 who gets annoyed about something probably has dementia

Thank you, I feel very lucky that I chose well in life.

The pearl clutching really gets to me.

I was going to say this.

Every post I read lately has a protagonist (could be OP themselves) with ASD, ADHD or some other vague neurodiverse condition.

I do think the average user is older than expected (i thought it was 30-40) or perhaps they are more prolific. To me it explains why a lot of the advice is a bit outdated eg taking in ironing, it was easy for me to return to work after a 15 yr gap, my mortgage is £200, obsession with class etc.

See also shopping in John Lewis and 'just buy a detached' for anyone complaining about issues with neighbours.

Then there's the pathological aversion to owning a credit card, usually brought up on threads where the OP has been tripped up by a problem that would never have arisen if they had one (to be clear, usually a consumer matter, something like needing to guarantee a hotel or car hire booking or where the OP has no access to money because her only bank account has been hacked or is suffering service problems, nothing at all to do with debt or spending money they don't have).

People who refer to their DD or DS as "they" throughout the post to avoid being outed.

Damn..I shouldn't be here. I've just failed on all 3 accounts there.

Also why is everyone so terrified of being "outed"? I couldn't care less if somebody I know thinks they recognise me on here. Then again I don't have any friends and lead a boring life!

Age gap relationships are invariably frowned upon and people are told they'll be looking after their aged partner. No one seems to mention that dementia can happen to anyone of any age, that a 40 year old could have a stroke or heart attack. And that most people will be looking after their partner regardless of whether their 15 years young or 5 months younger.

I always assume these are posters fishing for people to scam. I got a PM asking for financial help after I posted something that made me sound like I could be rich. It was quite a random topic as well, so the ‘how much do you earn’ threads must make life quite easy for them.

The number of people with misophonia/emetophobia.

I loathe the sound of people eating, but then I think most people do. You don't have misophonia, you just know people who were never taught manners.

I don't quiver with breathless anticipation if I think someone in my vicinity is about to vomit. I think "yuk". This is perfectly normal. Vomiting is not pleasant, but I don't have emetophobia.

Any random bug is always Norovirus. How are people getting this confirmed? It could be any number of things. Are you sending off samples to a lab every time someone has a bit of a dodgy tummy?

Oh, and these GP surgeries where you can just pop in anytime and demand a range of blood tests for - insert obscure condition- which is highly unlikely in the first place and was suggested by a random on MN.

Re packed lunches - and they can't contain sandwiches! Think of the carbs you're inflicting on the poor children!

3 is a real thing - when I was v young had a bf who did it, I physically saw it, caught in the act - but it definitely doesn't happen with old married men. It's a lie when it's some 50 year old bloke who hasn't taken responsibility for contraception in his relationship for decades.

When Sony is moaning about their children’s grandparents and MN assumes that the Grandparents are in their 90’s (cos dementia obvs) when in reality they’re likely to only be in their 50’s or 60’s.

The people who don't open their doors because they WFH and are "in meetings" all day.
I thought the idea of WFH was meant to make the job more productive, not for people to sit pushing envelopes and thinking in a blue sky way round a virtual table.
Or does WFH/being in a meeting = ringing me up to offer me a new broadband package?

Hear hear. And at least they'll have more energy for it when they're younger.

I just worry about the sheer quantity of fucking flapjacks being consumed by other people's children in some parallel universe.
I've been a teacher for almost 30 years and hardly even see brown bread let alone a birdseed biscuit.

Who are also so thin that getting trousers to fit thrm us impossible amd ate akways " quirky" if they' re a boy.

Love this thread!

When someone complains about DH not taking the bins out and is counselled to get a divorce immediately.

Everyone's children are either gorgeous, 6"0 and highly intelligent (but their bf/gf is a bag of shite) or they are complete degenerates because they did some coke once at a party in uni.

And the classic "AIBU unreasonable for not letting my MIL see my baby/child because she makes no effort with me because I don't like talking to her or spending time with her and I tell her frequently how much she annoys me and I disagree with her entire way of living and hate her face?"

Hi. I'm a man. If you are doing this you are weird and deranged. Stop. It's pointless and ridiculous and you look like a dope. Happy to help. Thanks.

So many women on MN have ex partners who don't pay child maintenance.

Yet no-one on MN admits to having a current partner who doesn't.

I've seen a few posts where women have just met a dad who they discover doesn't pay for his kids and they're raising it as a red flag - and then others give them the very sensible, obvious advice to bin him.

Well you could have made it a lot shorter by cutting out the disclaimers and apologies.

I absolutely hate that irl too. I think I must be unusual in that I don't actually mind long, detailed posts/speeches at all where it's relevant, but I get furious with people giving classes/talks etc. who waste so much time in telling you (in detail) all of the things that they would have told you, if only they had more time!

People who refer to their DD or DS as "they" throughout the post to avoid being outed.

Yes, that one is so weird - like having a daughter or son is some kind of a rarity. If you're that bothered about being outed, just swap their sex for the purposes of the thread (it very rarely makes a difference) - but do keep using he or she, one way or the other.

I personally find it so irritating when a single known person is referred to as they - when there aren't even any claims of trans/NB identity. I've mentioned it before and it seems that a lot of (younger) people actually do it, but I can't for the life of me fathom how it comes naturally to folk to say "I'm meeting my sister in town for a coffee today - I'll message them to see when they expect to get there" (sister isn't bringing her DH, kids or anybody else with her).