Things on MNs that are confusing?

[ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees]

Just curious if anyone else wonders about these things:

1. DP/DH with super outing hobby - what are these hobbies, naked trampoline tennis?

2. DP/DH with super stressful job - what is it? Is it a known stressful job or is DP/DP just describing it as that? Anyone ever consider DH is incompetent or has been over promoted?

3. The notion of a "posh wank" - it doesn't exist, it's a lie told by men caught cheating. Do people really believe it's a real thing?

That everyone's kids eats 12 veggies a day, steamed protein and brown rice, with only water and milk to drink and wie betide anyone who gave a 14 month old a niknak to try....

Yet in the "what did your toddler have for dinner today" it's filled with "Chicken nuggets and chips at McDonald's" or "Peppa Pig pasta shapes in toast"

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That will the tiny minority of MNers who have friends and don't have a PA to do their gift buying

very outing

Tired worn out mum - “Ffs the summer holidays are draining, my kids are driving me mad!!”

MN poster - “you obviously hate your children, you should never have had them. They will have psychological damage from your inner thoughts”

if you aren’t in a state of constant ‘my children are amazing, can do no wrong, I worship them’ then you’re considered a shit mum who doesn’t deserve children on MN.

I remember once posting from my sons hospital bedside just basically for a bit of solidarity and a hand hold. I mentioned it was very busy and the nurses were late with my sons medication. A MN poster decided to say I was a terrible mum and neglecting him by not demanding his medication immediately from the over worked nurses. Lots of posters backed her up. I’ve never posted about an issue with my children again.

Poor behaviour is always excused by the unfounded suggestion of autism, ADHD, mental health issues (which is actually pretty insulting to people with those issues).

Its never, ever just someone being a dick. Because those people just dont exist in life do they? 🙄

Seriously?

FWIW some people's office jobs overwhelmingly require solo work. Some people's jobs however require regular collaboration with colleagues, management of junior staff, reports to senior staff or communication with clients / brokers on new business proposals.

On top of these undeniably useful meetings a lot of companies have structures which impose a lot of regular formal meetings for compliance purposes - these may or may not be a productive use of time but were you really not aware that they are a thing?

That everyone's kids eats 12 veggies a day, steamed protein and brown rice, with only water and milk to drink and wie betide anyone who gave a 14 month old a niknak to try....

Oh yes the "cake is a annual treat", "I make everything from scratch to avoid UPFs", "I do a marathon before work", "I also manage to do 30000 steps before breakfast" "I do all the above, work f/t, dc do activities, & we have a great social life".

Ah ok, now I understand d why people NC! It's more to do with not wanting their other posts to be linked up. See, this thread is educational too.😂

The other thing I don't understand is the competitive 'should I go to A&E/ring 111' threads. 'My arm is hanging off and I've been in agony for days, do you think I should ring 111'.

YES! That's what it's there for!

And then inevitably someone will rock up and tell them they're wasting the NHS' time just by ringing 111 which is essentially there to tell you whether you need extra help or not. You don't win brownie/virtue signalling points by sitting at home really ill and refusing to pick up a phone.

Also, posters who ‘pad’ about their cosy house. Who the fuck pads? We aren’t cats.

When someone posts a question asking for advice or with genuine concern about how to manage an aspect of their DC’s behaviour or development (for example how do I get my child to eat more veg/how do I get them to spend less time playing video games).

Cue ten posters snapping: “Just do x. It’s called parenting.”

As if there were only one acceptable solution to this problem, no debate and no controversy whatsoever. It’s as if the poster was asking whether it’s OK not to feed their children.

I actually get quite annoyed by the constant accusation of double standards all the time. I'm not denying it happens (before I get deluged with examples..the hen do / stag do ones a few days ago being a case in point) but quite often a long and nuanced thread is derailed by this accusation when it's not warranted and isn't relevant. It just is an opening for MRAs to jump on and call us all man haters instead of acknowledging that there are some major issues.

Busy and overwhelmed? Outsource everything- get a cleaner, chef, dog walker, nanny etc.

Bit skint- retrain, get a better job, be a cleaner, dog walker etc.

Oh, and the spa day thing.

This. See my previous post about why people ask for factual information, that they could reliably find on the appropriate website (eg the luggage allowances for Ryanair or what date Easter is next year) yet instead it is somehow preferable to ask on here and get 200 answers, half of which are wrong.

@WhenIWasAFieldMyself

The people who don't open their doors because they WFH and are "in meetings" all day.
I thought the idea of WFH was meant to make the job more productive, not for people to sit pushing envelopes and thinking in a blue sky way round a virtual table.
Or does WFH/being in a meeting = ringing me up to offer me a new broadband package?

Er, WFH doesn’t automatically mean you don’t have meetings. If anything lots of people actually have more. You’re under more pressure not to waste time at home, not less.

I actually experience the reverse of this. I have a friend who works on a very freelance basis (has never really had to work to anyone’s schedule). She will say: “Ooh you are WFH Monday aren’t you? We can have a good long conversation.

No. That’s not how it works.

Poster: I don't have a driving license and I need to take a trip from Portsmouth to Newcastle to visit my second cousin's sick budgie. I've asked my sister/friend/colleague for a lift to the station but they have said no, because they gave me a lift to Sainsbury's five months ago? Are they being unreasonable?

Mn: No they aren't, you are for not being unreasonable for not spending ££££ that you can't afford on driving lessons and even more on a car & petrol. People who keep asking for lifts are the worst. Get in the bin.

Anyone over the age of 50 and does something unusual/odd definitely has dementia

Yeh and then they start a thread asking how to hide back fat in a bra 🤣

On MN there doesn't seem to be a concept of reciprocal favours between friends. Eg I sometimes used to ask a friend to pick up my DC from school if my train was delayed. She sometimes used to ask me to have her DC in the mornings before school if she was taking another of her kids somewhere.
But in MN no one should be friends with school mums and anyone asking any favour ever, even if happy to repay it, is a CF.

Always amazes me how quick people are to suggest adoption to those suffering infertility, yet when a post about adoption goes up it’s full of very insightful comments about the reality of adoption these days. Where are these people when the term adoption is being chucked about so insensitively! The informative posts are always so helpful to read!

'Take in some ironing' in response to someone being skint. As fucking if.

Men who have to announce it 'Man here and I think xyz'. They're worse than vegans.

Or even worse, when someone says 'I've just showed this thread to DH and he thinks xyz' who gives a fuck?

Early onset dementia in response to someone acting like a twat.

Everyone's kids are 6ft, sporty and stunningly beautiful and could pass for 18 at the age of 12.

The outing hobbies ffs. It's always cycling or golf.

The 'what am I spending my money on when we have over £100k coming in and I'm skint'

I don't see what's hard to understand about that? Surely it's perfectly reasonable for people who have cash but no time to hire casual workers and people who have time but no cash to pick up a couple of shifts as casual labour. Good solid Keynesian thinking.

Lots of people can't afford thirty quid plus a week for a cleaner, lots of people can. Lots of people don't have two or more hours a week spare to clean someone else's house, lots of people do. If a poster hasn't indicated they're broke/short of time then buying/selling cleaning work is a reasonable suggestion.

When you post on the legal thread and every Tom, Dick and Harry who have no qualifications except watching Judge Judy come along and give advice when you've posted on there for advice from people who have legal knowledge. Otherwise you'd just post in chat.

Posters who tell abused women who's children are being abused by their dad that she should remain positive about him otherwise it's her fault that the children are damaged.

My DS (young adult) is 6ft4 and my DD is tall too - I’m not!!

But the suggestion to outsource only works if the poster has enough money , and quite frankly if they can't work out that getting a cleaner might help then there is no hope.
And if someone really is skint ,cleaning or ironing a few hours a week won't solve the issues. They need a job that pays well and consistently.

The one I always notice is when posters say their DH earns in 6 figures but they themselves have low earning potential and could only earn minimum wage.

I know quite a lot of high earners (I earn well too) and I don't know any who have spouses with really low earning potential. Mostly birds of a feather flock together so both halves of the couple earn similar amounts. Obviously usually one person earns more than the other but I have never come across the kind of disparity IRL that a lot of posters here have.

Oh god yes. The people who take a wild stab at what they think the law should be and then confidently state it as fact on a thread asking for legal advice absolutely baffle me. What do they think they're doing?