Things on MNs that are confusing?

[ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees]

Just curious if anyone else wonders about these things:

1. DP/DH with super outing hobby - what are these hobbies, naked trampoline tennis?

2. DP/DH with super stressful job - what is it? Is it a known stressful job or is DP/DP just describing it as that? Anyone ever consider DH is incompetent or has been over promoted?

3. The notion of a "posh wank" - it doesn't exist, it's a lie told by men caught cheating. Do people really believe it's a real thing?

Posts where the topic is a child's name, and the OP doesn't give the name because that would be outing (fine) but then inevitably gives into the pressure and says the name later on. Just annoying.

No one has a fat child. They are merely "solid", "muscular", "sturdy" or "due a growth spurt". They only eat healthy food "cooked from scratch" and only snack on carrot or cucumber sticks.

thanks - something learned :)

If you aren't in a relationship with someone who was born on the exact same date/month/year as you you're obviously some kind of sexual deviant. Age gaps are gross and make everyone feel sick.

There's absolutely no way for you to know if neighbours or random elderly relatives from the stiff upper lip generation had mental illness or not. Even with parents, it's the kind of thing that is often not shared with offspring.

Is it? Not that I've noticed when I've visited it.

A friend didn't come in for a few months when I was at school in the 90s. Not a rough school or anything. Someone from the council had to go to the house I think.

And as far as mumsnet is concerned ASD/ADHD are the only types of special need. Whereas in real life they are not even the only types of neurodiversity!

This is complete bollocks, and if you actually do work in a place that supports people with mental health problems you should not be talking about it to win a silly agenda-pushing Internet argument.

It's shocking that someone who works in mental health care doesn't believe in mental illness and thinks it's all just spoiled kids with no resilience.

All those 50s housewives on Valium though. We've always had mental health problems.

I think a few of you need to make your own thread rather than taking over this one...

Thank you this post has actually made me laugh out loud 🤣

@Devilsmommy

So true 😂, apparently my DH is an abusive arsehole cuz hes a jokey bloke who's sarcastic and makes me laugh even joking about me having a fat arse. Apparently I should get out now 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Yeah but you're not going to LTB because he's a "jokey bloke" for laughing at your "fat arse" (and it's your funeral).

People are wilfully naive about LTB and I find it highly irritating.
No-one LsTB because some bright spark has suggested it on Mumsnet. They leave (if they ever leave at all and most don't) after years of abuse and having their self-esteem hammered away at.

The point about LTB is that women default towards not LingTB. Very few women actually LTB because the pressure (from family/society) is always on them to stay and "work on the marriage" (which is code for "put up with his shit"). So if one LTB empowers one woman to leave a shit man that's worth a thousand overzealous LTBs which will be ignored and brushed off in my book.

Oh, yes. Someone posts a Rightmove link to what looks like a perfectly normal, nice, house. Decent condition, liveable etc, the sort of place you could move into and probably decorate to your own taste over a few years but no need to 'do work' straight away.

Endless posts about how horribly dated it is and how they would have to do X, Y and Z before they could possibly even move in.

Except in the "what did your kids have for tea?" When the OP Just happens to ask in the day 80% of the kids had a "one off" freezer meal/maccys/pasta shapes on toast with garlic bread and chips/a Magnum dipped in syrup

If someone posts even the tiniest issue light-hearted issue about theot partner 'you can't put up with it you have to leave it is a red flag' I guarantee every single person who says this has had atleast one tiny thing their partner did to them but didn't leave themselves

But surely that’s the point?

A lot of us have learned from bitter experience not to ignore shit behaviour and when other (often younger and less experienced) women post about it we can see it coming!

When someone starts a light hearted thread, like, oh I don't know, let's say Things on MN that are confusing, and posters start taking it too seriously and ripping every post apart..

The lack of acceptance and understanding of diversity. This thread is a prime example.

The love for Uniqlo on the S&B board. Difference is I know that's a "me" thing... its just something "I" don't understand.

I disagree @Threenow . IME those who freak out at seemingly small things are often those of us who are already dealing with a load of difficult situations or have been. Just ask those of us with complex trauma! So many people are carrying complex trauma from abuse of some other hardship of some kind, it's hardly a rare situation.

Plus there is COL to deal with. Never underestimate the stress and strain of relative poverty or debt. All this in a society which puts high emphasis on keeping up with the Jones

People who say they are "confused by" when they actually mean "critical of". It's so passive aggressive.

Oh God yes. “But I genuinely don’t know what it means, explain it to me, I want to understand.” I’m absolutely definitely not here for a bun fight, good heavens no!

100000000% this! (Confused by my Maths? Jog on!)

No I mean confused by. If I mean critical, I would have said it critical.

I was hoping that people who have a DH who had an "outing hobby" would explain well yes, my former used to play "blind folded judo" under a NC or something. I wanted to know what the hobbies are, or the super stressful job is.

I'm more confused that critical.

''I have children aged 8,6,4 and one and am 30 weeks pregnant. I'm sick of my DH who I suspect has had several affairs over the last 10 years, has inappropriately texted my sister, has never ever done a days work in his life and never lifts a finger round the house. and hides his phone What can i do ?''
Stop having his children?