Husband wants separate accomodation on holiday with my sisters family

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We’ve agreed to go on holiday with my sister, we’re just about to book the accommodation. We’ve chosen a big house for everyone to stay in. Now my husband says it’s too much to stay with them, too many kids. He wants us to get separate accommodation and just meet up with them whenever.

I understand his reasons, the kids are very wild when together and ours are calm when on their own. My sisters kids are very wild from first thing in the morning until they fall asleep (very late). Not sure how to bring this up to my sister. Husband says he won’t come if we’re staying with them.

AIBU to suggest to sister we get separate accommodations?

Don't suggest it, tell her.

I can see why she wants to holiday with you!
You do all the hard work on holiday and she gets to chill out and relax. Nah, I'm with your husband on this one.

I’m with you. Holidays are for the kids, mostly. Don’t get me wrong. I love a relaxing holiday. But all the holidays my late teens reminisce about? The ones with their cousins. Let them go nuts I say. Especially if they’re old enough not to kill themselves and you can chill with a glass of wine.

Would you enjoy a holiday with your sister and her kids? Fine, have one. Would your husband rather not come? Fine, why does he have to?

I'd hate to go on holiday with family. Tbh, I prefer being on my own, without my family. Let dh look after the kids for a change.

Agreed. I would not pay money to be in this situation. That’s not a holiday, it’s torture.

I’d have absolutely no problem suggesting separate properties and my sister would understand completely. Even easier if you’re the ones looking in to accommodation options. Sharing would causes many irritations and would spoil
the holiday; even if only a little which just isn’t worth it.