Everyone loves her-how do you become like this?

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One of the school mums/women in my area is so loved by everyone, super popular but in that nice way as in, people just adore her. She’s v confident and quite loud, but also great fun and a genuinely nice person.
I know lots of people with a great bunch of friends, but almost literally everyone loves her and she has friends in every set of people. I’ve not seen this to this extent before. They write things on her sm (birthday etc) about her being a truly beautiful person inside and out.
How do you become a person like this?

I agree @Tabitha2721 I know a couple of people who are like this, they have something about them, they're perfect and likeable, god! but they are usually very attractive.

I think I'm positive, warm, supportive, and loads more! click here! ha, but nobody notices because I'm very average.

I can switch on that charisma. I work in a job where people have to like me to trust me but I definitely do not feel the need to always have it on. It gets tiring and not everyone is deserving of the niceness in day to day life. Hence my earlier comment why would anyone want to be like this all the time...? It would be hard work.

I suppose it's not hard work if it's not something you "switch on", though.

I reckon for a significant proportion of people it is switched on as demonstrated by those who have commented on the thread about being like this. But as always happy to agree to disagree.

It can absolutely be switched on.

This is the difference between me and the charismatic/socially adept.

I’ve never been aware of having anything I can ‘switch on’. Influencing other people’s reactions to me - aside from not behaving like a dick, obviously - is a mystery I have never really grasped. I suppose I must lack the intuitive ability to tune into what other people want to talk about; I mean, I can understand others’ feelings, in hindsight, but I can’t respond to them quickly enough in the moment. It’s like walking with your face on backwards.