To love my DD more than my husband

[NadjaCravensworth1]

She's 16 months and I just love her so much. She fills my heart up to bursting. Once she's asleep I look at photos and videos of her like a lovesick teenager. Having her has totally redefined what I thought love was. I feel like it's completely unconditional for her but I can't say the same for my DH. Our relationship is good but the depth of feeling just doesn't compare. Has this happened to anyone else?

Oh god you're going to trigger a 100 posts proclaiming they would die/kill for their children ...

They’ll always be your child ,spouses can come and go

Honestly if I had to choose it would always be DS over DH, it is different , but you seem a bit preoccupied.

I think it's normal. I definitely love my kids waaaay more than any partner I've ever had. No contest.

My ds as a young child used to ask who I loved more, him or daddy. I told him I loved them the same but differently, and it’s true.

Well it's kind of the way nature has designed it...

Of course you do! It’s a completely unconditional and biological love. This is vital when they act like arses later in life (parent of 5 older dc here). I forgive them anything eventually.
I adore DH but not unconditionally. It’s so different. He’s my partner and the father to my children and sometimes we go out and all we do is talk about them!

Haha apologies in advance 🤦‍♀️

Yes, it’s completely natural. It’s unconditional love with a child.

I feel like it's completely unconditional for her but I can't say the same for my DH.

And that's a good thing. Unconditional love for a partner can lead to people putting up with all kinds of shite.

YES!
Absolutely when my children were young I loved them way more than my husband. Now they are men with children of their own they embrace that this is how their wives feel about their children.
I’m a nanny now and my feelings have shifted and my husband and children inhabit the same sphere of importance. There is a truly beautiful place for my grandchildren though. ☺️
Enjoy it all, love much and don’t worry. X

Thank you. That's beautiful x

If I had to choose between my 21 month old daughter dying and every other person I love in the world all dying I wouldn't even hesitate. I'd choose her over everyone combined, no contest. I had no idea it was possible to feel like this about another person until I had her.

I love my DD unconditionally

My H has said he loves me more than our DD.

One of the multifarious reasons why I don’t love him.

My toddler is the absolute love of my life. No contest.

@EuniceNewtonFoote , absolutely I would give my life for my children or grandchildren. They are my everything. You don’t feel this way?

This. I always knew I would love my baby but I guess you can never describe to a new parent exactly how this manifests and compares to other relationships

It's not healthy to compare love for a child to love for a partner.

They are completely different things. I love my partner and my kids in totally different ways. Not more or less, just different.

Same for me.

❤️

I think it's normal to a point!
It took me a few months to feel that I loved my first more than DH tho. Didn't kick in overnight.

she probably does but it becomes a thread of 'I'd run under a bus for my baby', 'I'd run under two lorries for my baby', 'I'd fight three lions for my baby'.

This.

It’s a vastly different thing. It’s incomparable.

I love toddler DS an insane amount; I’d do anything for him.

But I love DH too; just in a very different way.

I'm exactly the same. I absolutely adore my children more than I can put into words. I could watch them sleep for hours. When the baby sleeps, I know I should catch up on chores in the house, but who else is going to stare at her gorgeous chubby cheeks?

Nobody could ever come close to the love I feel for them.

Of course you do, it's totally normal!