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Is this tight ?!

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Whiteparasol · 22/07/2023 09:12

Morning

I have just come back from a 10 day holiday , full board lovely hotel.

My original travelling companion couldn't make it , hospital appointment , rather than cancel another friend came. Didn't ask the other friend who came to pay anything apart from a small fee for name change on flights. Not did she offer , fine.

We had a 2 bedroom suite. Only.one room had a balcony, the other had a window.

She made it obvious when we got there she wanted balcony room, at the end of the 10 day holiday we had a bar bill of 80 quid for drinks we had with meals at the hotel as they were not included

She went through it line by line to work out who owed what, I'm like wtf, you have had a free holiday and are quibbling over 40 quid each

If I was her I would have paid the lot as a thank you

Aibu to tell her how mean I thought this was

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/07/2023 19:19

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You might want to start your own thread, @YogaMama66.

Applescruffle · 23/07/2023 19:22

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/07/2023 19:19

You might want to start your own thread, @YogaMama66.

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I assumed this was a bot!

tillytoodles1 · 23/07/2023 19:28

I don't mind treating people who are a bit skint, but I hate tight people who have money but don't want to spend it.

diddl · 23/07/2023 19:30

I think she must have thought that she was doing a favour by going on the holiday.

weirdoboelady · 23/07/2023 19:34

My gut is screaming 'what a total CF!' at me. But my brain is telling me to be kind and just explore one avenue that no-one has mentioned yet.

OP, you said that CF spent hundreds on spa treatments. Did you? I am just wondering if CF felt obliged to have the spa treatments because you were having them, and is panicking about money now.

Probably NOT, but I just thought I'd ask!

Misspiggy1012 · 23/07/2023 19:34

Is there anyone else on this that lives in Edinburgh Scotland?

DoubleTime · 23/07/2023 19:36

Not Edinburgh, but a few miles away

scoobysnaxx · 23/07/2023 19:40

Cheeky bitch!!

Well done OP for mentioning it to her as I know that might've felt a bit uncomfortable.

If she doesn't transfer it tonight, I would text in the morning a really honest text about how disappointment you are in being taken advantage of from her. And I would lay out how everything was paid for and all the extras and how your surprised at her response/lack of willingness to pay!!

scoobysnaxx · 23/07/2023 19:40

Also what is a CF?

🙃😂

Seaweed42 · 23/07/2023 19:40

Perhaps with the entirely free holiday you gave off the signal that you are very wealthy, generous and usually pay for everything, no?
Would you have gone on holiday alone?
I guess if it was me, I might think 'oh OP is paying for the flights, the accommodation, the transfers and everything. She really wants to treat me on this holiday so I don't need to put my hand in my pocket, she obviously wants to pay for absolutely everything'.
Unless she is as wealthy as you are. If you are on a very much higher salary then maybe she thought you were buying everything and taking care of the drinks bill as well, seeing as you had insisted on paying for the flights and hotels.
My point being, how was she to know what was 'included' in the bit you were treating her to.

MsRosley · 23/07/2023 19:44

I'd absolutely insist she pay you for that airport meal then never bother with the CFer again. She's treating you like a mug, not a friend.

Berthatydfil · 23/07/2023 20:27

scoobysnaxx · 23/07/2023 19:40

Also what is a CF?

🙃😂

Cheeky fucker

DrySherry · 23/07/2023 20:30

Playing devils advocate - she spent 10 days of her time accompanying you so that you didn't have to go on holiday as "Billy no Mates". You really should have covered the drinks bill, and given her the better room.

Ilovecleaning · 23/07/2023 20:31

There are some right twats on here who are taking the CFs side. They are unbelievable. Do they live in the real world, with real people?? 🤪🤪🤪

LuckySantangelo35 · 23/07/2023 20:32

DrySherry · 23/07/2023 20:30

Playing devils advocate - she spent 10 days of her time accompanying you so that you didn't have to go on holiday as "Billy no Mates". You really should have covered the drinks bill, and given her the better room.

@DrySherry

do you really believe that?

LuckySantangelo35 · 23/07/2023 20:33

Seaweed42 · 23/07/2023 19:40

Perhaps with the entirely free holiday you gave off the signal that you are very wealthy, generous and usually pay for everything, no?
Would you have gone on holiday alone?
I guess if it was me, I might think 'oh OP is paying for the flights, the accommodation, the transfers and everything. She really wants to treat me on this holiday so I don't need to put my hand in my pocket, she obviously wants to pay for absolutely everything'.
Unless she is as wealthy as you are. If you are on a very much higher salary then maybe she thought you were buying everything and taking care of the drinks bill as well, seeing as you had insisted on paying for the flights and hotels.
My point being, how was she to know what was 'included' in the bit you were treating her to.

@Seaweed42

would you not think you’d been treated enough ?!

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Whiteparasol · 23/07/2023 20:33

weirdoboelady · 23/07/2023 19:34

My gut is screaming 'what a total CF!' at me. But my brain is telling me to be kind and just explore one avenue that no-one has mentioned yet.

OP, you said that CF spent hundreds on spa treatments. Did you? I am just wondering if CF felt obliged to have the spa treatments because you were having them, and is panicking about money now.

Probably NOT, but I just thought I'd ask!

No, I would never spend that much in a hotel spa!!

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DrySherry · 23/07/2023 20:34

LuckySantangelo35 · 23/07/2023 20:32

@DrySherry

do you really believe that?

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I have no idea on the friends motivation for going - but it is entirely possible she did it because she felt sorry for the op isn't it ?

LuckySantangelo35 · 23/07/2023 20:36

DrySherry · 23/07/2023 20:34

I have no idea on the friends motivation for going - but it is entirely possible she did it because she felt sorry for the op isn't it ?

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@DrySherry

doesn’t matter
she should have still payed the bar bill and for her meal

weirdoboelady · 23/07/2023 20:37

Whiteparasol · 23/07/2023 20:33

No, I would never spend that much in a hotel spa!!

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Thank you for answering!

CFCFCFCFCFCFCFCFCF...........

SamW98 · 23/07/2023 20:39

DrySherry · 23/07/2023 20:34

I have no idea on the friends motivation for going - but it is entirely possible she did it because she felt sorry for the op isn't it ?

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Have you not seen the updates about her dashing to the loo on the airport leaving the OP to pay for her food and telling the OP she’ll ‘try’ to transfer money but she’s so busy?

She’s a pisstaker

RachelGreeneGreep · 23/07/2023 20:39

Consider it the price paid to lose the tight arse out of your life. I wouldn't bother messaging her tbh.

newfriend05 · 23/07/2023 21:03

Let's us know OP if she pays you for the meal .. if not text her again .. she's a very CF and this is why she an pay of her house ..

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 23/07/2023 21:12

Whiteparasol · 23/07/2023 09:52

Have also this morning asked her to transfer the cost of her airport meal that she missed paying because she was in the ladies

She replied she is very busy but will try and do it tomorrow , we shall see

This is behind cheeky! Basically she went to the toilet on purpose so she didn’t have to pay for her airport meal!

I would be annoyed but it does look like you’re enabling her CF behaviour. I’m

Original poster
Whiteparasol · 23/07/2023 21:13

DrySherry · 23/07/2023 20:30

Playing devils advocate - she spent 10 days of her time accompanying you so that you didn't have to go on holiday as "Billy no Mates". You really should have covered the drinks bill, and given her the better room.

Hi Patricia , is that you ?

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