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Is this tight ?!

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Whiteparasol · 22/07/2023 09:12

Morning

I have just come back from a 10 day holiday , full board lovely hotel.

My original travelling companion couldn't make it , hospital appointment , rather than cancel another friend came. Didn't ask the other friend who came to pay anything apart from a small fee for name change on flights. Not did she offer , fine.

We had a 2 bedroom suite. Only.one room had a balcony, the other had a window.

She made it obvious when we got there she wanted balcony room, at the end of the 10 day holiday we had a bar bill of 80 quid for drinks we had with meals at the hotel as they were not included

She went through it line by line to work out who owed what, I'm like wtf, you have had a free holiday and are quibbling over 40 quid each

If I was her I would have paid the lot as a thank you

Aibu to tell her how mean I thought this was

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YellowAndGreenToBeSeen · 22/07/2023 09:13

😮

TheInterceptor · 22/07/2023 09:13

Yes, she's tight (broke?) but you should have talked about money when you invited her.

LittleBearPad · 22/07/2023 09:15

Extraordinary! Tbh you may have been better to get her to chip in for the holiday. It would have revealed her tightness before you left.

Was she ok whist your were there?

PegasusReturns · 22/07/2023 09:15

She’s tight.
please tell me you didn’t give her the balcony room?!!

demida · 22/07/2023 09:17

Unbelievably tight. Yes, I think you might have to say something.

liveforsummer · 22/07/2023 09:17

Goodness I hope you didn't give her the balcony room? The bill could be explained by tight finances but the balcony is pure CF

Cheesusisgrate · 22/07/2023 09:17

Did she think the other friend already paid for her part?
You should have asked for her part straight away tbh

catsnhats11 · 22/07/2023 09:19

Playing devils advocate she could argue she did you a favour too (company on a holiday) but asking for the balcony is a cheek! And yes she should have just offered to pay the full bar bill! Even if she hasn't had a free holiday she still should have just split it, presumably you spent a similar amount anyway on drinks.

Original poster
Whiteparasol · 22/07/2023 09:20

No, didn't give her balcony room. She said at the time, o so you are having balcony room, she sounded a bit aggrieved and I thought FO actually

Not broke as she spent alot there on beauty treatments in the spa !

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Ginmonkeyagain · 22/07/2023 09:20

Good lord, if I was that friend I would be offering to treat you to a couple of very nice meals or at the very least pay the entire drinks bill as a thank you for the free holiday.

Aprilx · 22/07/2023 09:21

I don’t think she should have paid the bar bill to be honest. I think she should have paid the friend who couldn’t go her part of the trip.

Unless you were paying for the entire trip for either friend, then yes in that case she should have paid the bar bill at the very least!

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 22/07/2023 09:22

I wouldn't be inviting her anywhere after that.

Ginmonkeyagain · 22/07/2023 09:22

And anyway a bar bill of £80 for two people over 10 days is pretty small. That's just £4 each per day - a pretty cheap pint in the UK.

SamW98 · 22/07/2023 09:24

Tight as a camels arse. I’d have not only paid the bar bill but I would have treated you during the holiday.

But lesson learnt. You’ve seen her true colours and she won’t be getting any more cheap holidays

BodegaSushi · 22/07/2023 09:24

'When we originally booked the holiday I booked this suite with X we agreed that I was having the balcony room and X was having the other'.

Ginmonkeyagain · 22/07/2023 09:25

Are you light drinkers or was it a very cheap part of the world?

I am treating a friend to birthday cocktails later and have budgeted £60 for just an evening. (Admittedly this is a bar in London)

catsnhats11 · 22/07/2023 09:26

Aprilx · 22/07/2023 09:21

I don’t think she should have paid the bar bill to be honest. I think she should have paid the friend who couldn’t go her part of the trip.

Unless you were paying for the entire trip for either friend, then yes in that case she should have paid the bar bill at the very least!

Good point! I assumed Op paid for both, but if the previous friend paid and lost out then she should have given her a gesture payment or thank you gift not the OP.

Flisss · 22/07/2023 09:27

Your friend is one cheeky fucker!

catsnhats11 · 22/07/2023 09:28

Ginmonkeyagain · 22/07/2023 09:25

Are you light drinkers or was it a very cheap part of the world?

I am treating a friend to birthday cocktails later and have budgeted £60 for just an evening. (Admittedly this is a bar in London)

I'd say that right, 3 cocktails each at £10 a go. o
OP said it was all onc and depending on country hotel drinks could be cheap.

Original poster
Whiteparasol · 22/07/2023 09:29

Hi, cheap part of the world. Most expensive part of holiday was flights.

I am taking original friend away in 2 months as a treat as she lost out on original holiday , flights were not refundable but hotel was . So I covered full hotel and original friend lost flight cost

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ilovesooty · 22/07/2023 09:30

I went on a similar holiday a few years ago. I couldn't have afforded myself it at the time. I was happy to take the less attractive room, pay the bill for extras and bought my friend a present to say thank you for taking me.

Aprilx · 22/07/2023 09:34

Whiteparasol · 22/07/2023 09:29

Hi, cheap part of the world. Most expensive part of holiday was flights.

I am taking original friend away in 2 months as a treat as she lost out on original holiday , flights were not refundable but hotel was . So I covered full hotel and original friend lost flight cost

So you didn’t pay for this hotel? Maybe the second friend didn’t know about the later plans you have with the friend that couldn’t make it and assumed her free holiday was at her expense, not yours. She should have offered to reimburse the friend.

Ginmonkeyagain · 22/07/2023 09:34

Your friend is even cheekier then as it was such a cheap part of the world. She should pay the entire bar bill not just her part.

She got a free holiday and is quibbling over a very cheap bar bill? FML.

Lacucuracha · 22/07/2023 09:36

YANBU. I wouldn’t be giving her any free treats again.

Glad you took the balcony and didn’t pay for her drinks.

Houseplantmad · 22/07/2023 09:37

What a lovely friend you are. What an awful friend she has been. Is definitely tell her and step back.