To have been annoyed at this? Kids throwing themselves at the window

[britneyfears]

DH is on annual leave. I'm working from home.

We have an office at the end of our garden - a converted shed with a large window and door. I have said all day that I have a big meeting at 3pm where I am giving a presentation to many people outside of my company. I have told DH this many times that I really need to be left alone from 2.30 - 3.30 at least today.

Half way through presentation I see two naked children (they are 1 and 3) running up the garden chasing one another. They are laughing and shouting. I keep my concentration. They then fling themselves up against the window, knocking on the door, shouting 'mummy mummy mummy' so loudly. SO LOUD. Loud enough so people were starting to look confused.

I start stammering, looking at the door, losing my place entirely, words getting jumbled up - - I'm hoping DH is going to get them & I can style it out. After a few mins - I have to apologise and ask for 2 mins turn off my camera and microphone.

DH then appears. Slowly walking up the garden.

As he scoops them up - I mouth 'fuck off' at him. I can't actually remember mouthing that. I mouthed something and kind of flailed my arms around to get him to take the kids back to the house.

I go back to presentation. My boss looks pissed off. Everyone else looks sympathetic.

My DH is now not talking to me as he says I'm bang out of order and shouldn't mouth fuck off at him and it#s "not nice". I didn't even have a go at him, just in the heat of the moment, with around a hundred people waiting for me to continue my presentation - I was trying to express a sense of urgency!

AIBU to have mouthed fuck off. Or is that an fairly understandable reaction to the situation.

Totally understandably.
You’re asking for 1 hour to work.

You're a better woman than me.

The selfish, thoughtless git would be carrying his head in his hands if that were me

Does he not respect your work?

Hes not talking to you???, fucking hell I'd be bloody livid at him, idiot and really inconsiderate of him

Oh dear!!

Ofc you are not being unreasonable - it's extremely stressful and every spouse should recognise the difference between a malicious "FO" and a OMG THIS SITUATION IS SO STRESFFUL "FO"

DH wouldn’t have his balls if he did that to me. How dare he.

What a bellend (your DH)

I’d be fucking livid.

I'd be furious
He had one job.

It's 'not nice' of him to have let that happen in the first place.
Definitely not being unreasonable.

I would be livid. He had ONE job

I tried to explain to him exactly that I was stressed and that given the situation - mouthing FO isn't that bad. He said "there are two kids I'm trying to manage all day and they were outside your office for 2 or 3 mins max and i get told to fuck off - it's totally unacceptable".

OP
Let's cut to the chase. Consciously or not, he's undermining you.
Think about that.

he also said something like "i knew you had a thing at 3pm but i didn't know it was that fucking serious" - honestly, it;s like i'm talking to a brick wall sometimes.

That's very inconsiderate of him and I wonder if it was done deliberately to undermine you because he resented looking after the children?

Hopefully not.

Although, your post did make me look up this video -

Fuck off is the least I'd be mouthing at him.

He didn't even apologise? It almost seems like he was sabotaging you. It's not hard to keep the kids indoors for an hour. Why were they naked?

I'd be absolutely livid and I'D be the one not talking to him, not the other way round. It must have been mortifying.

that's the thing. how am i getting it in the neck? he is really upset with me. so my presentation gets ruined and i'm in the dog house.

So he knew you had "a thing" but still allowed naked infants to be visible to the "thing"? He's irresponsible and ignorant.

Let me guess, he's never wrong and never apologises. Sounds like a pig.

He let you down now he's angry that you weren't all nicey nice about it.

Tosser.

This is giving me flashbacks to wfh in Covid with my now ex undermining and sabotaging everything I did. It was one of many many straws on the camels back. SO HAPPY now that I am single. You have my solidarity OP.

i mention the naked thing only because the 3 year had some chance of actually opening the door which obviously would have been awful if DD had got in front of the camera somehow. or me wrestling two naked children in front of a hundred strangers while i'm meant to be professional.

they were naked as they'd been playing in the garden i presume at lunchtime.

I would be going mental at him! Tell him you’re getting a disciplinary because of it

This

The parent looking after the kids keeps them away from working parent especially during a meeting!

Thank you for the video @Jongleterre, it made me laugh at the time too. His wife looked mortified!
I'm a bit of a believer that if you wfh you do so on the understanding that you are in the family home - its a family home first and your workplace second. However, for many people wfh is a privilege they have managed to negotiate to make their lives more flexible, and you certainly don't want the boss pissed off by interruptions. If you were asking for silence for the whole day or even afternoon it would be unreasonable, but he should have managed to supervise his dc for long enough for your meeting. The fact that you are in the garden room should help to make home and work more of a separation. I suppose a fence and locked gate is ott?

He would have got a lot more than a mouthed fuck off from me. Does he generally not respect your career?