People are announcing my baby’s birth

[Gotthekeeys]

Would this annoy you?

I had a difficult birth and we told our parents they baby was here safely. Before I was even compos mentis MIL had announced it on the wider family WhatsApp group that I am in and included it ended in a c section.

AIBU to be very pissed off?

I think you are being ott. What difference does it make, congratulations on your baby, enjoy your baby and don't sweat the small stuff..

You’re absolutely wrong. It you are told by an HCP you cannot drive you cannot drive. There’s no maybe about it.

That’s very different to legally not being allowed to drive for 6 weeks though isn’t it.

As I said, you don’t need to produce any proof to insurance, don’t need to contact DVLA, there isn’t a legal requirement. You’re just asked to follow your doctors advice - which is normally when you can do an emergency stop and turn in your seat, providing your healing ok of course.

Er yes there is. You are advised by a doctor after having a c section you must not drive for 6 weeks, it’s in the nice guidelines. It’s standard. And it means you are not legally permitted to drive.

I've had 2 emergency sections. At no point was I told that I couldn't drive by a doctor. They said it was between me and my insurers. My insurers didn't care.
A medical professional told me I couldn't hoover for six weeks though!

I wouldn't be happy. She shouldn't be divulging any medical information. Ask her how her vaginally delivery/c section went.

Unless your spouse is adopted obviously

This would really irritate me.

We've kept our induction date to just our parents. They've been warned not to share the date or our news with anyone until we are ready! 🤣

Isn’t this normal in all cultures though?

It certainly is for all my friends/family etc. WC east London/Essex background.

I couldn’t move for people popping in the first few days when mine were born. I even had loads of relatives at the hospital to see the babies straight away (pre covid)

I thought it’s just a MN thing where people get funny about relatives coming round and need 7-10 business days before their parents are allowed round.

You're going to be "that" dil

Honestly she don't do anything wrong. She was excited and informed her family saying you had a c section is perfectly OK to say

It's so normal to tell people that the birth ended with a c section. People would ask how you are anyway and it would be very strange not to tell them.
I hope you are not ashamed of your section. It happens to many of us!

I think it depends on her motivation. My parents and in-laws passed on the news when both my LO’s were born. It’s the norm in my family so the new parents don’t have to think about letting people know.

Obviously it’s different if you told her not let people know and she did it anyway.

It’s just bizarre to want to control people speaking about you having a baby.
If it’s close to your due date, it’s going to be a topic of conversation.
If someone was asking your MIL how you were, what do you expect her to say?

”Sorry. I’m not allowed to say”

It would not bother me. X

pfttttttttt !!

I honestly wouldn't give this a second thought, when I had my baby it was just assumed that Grandparents would pass on the news to wider family. What's the issue with saying you had a section? It's nothing to be ashamed of it was likely along the lines of '@Gotthekeeys had a section so likely won't be home for a couple of days'.

I feel these days inlaws are penalised for everything!

My MIL announced my pregnancy to family when I was 4 weeks along, I wasn't thrilled but there was no malice behind it, she was excited and wanted to share it with her sisters.

My husband phoned my mum to let her know that baby had arrived before the cord was delivered as she was sat by the phone on tenterhooks.
I think before he'd returned to me in the delivery room ( pre mobile days ) my mum had phoned just about everyone she could think of to share the news.....at turned 01.00 😂
It didn't bother me in the least. I was too busy to care.

My bloke told the grandparents and they told the wider family. It saved us a job so we could catch up on some sleep after a 3am birth.

So precious, really nobody else really cares besides a “that’s nice” I can understand an overexcited GM doing it though, especially her first. But anyone else getting those what’s apps aren’t really invested.

@Tourmalines was that a full sentence or just pure nonsense? Every new mum is entitled to share that news themselves. No one else unless asked.

@justanothermanicmonday1 to not even let family members mention when you are being induced is absolutely pathetic and controlling.

See, seems to me the MIL is "that" MIL...

It's her decision, whether some idiot on MN thinks it's "absolutely pathetic" is of zero consequence to her.

Wouldn’t have bothered us at all.

But it was on a whatsapp group so all the reactions are still there.

OP just take it as excitement. Not worth getting stressed over. Concentrate on the baby.

How far does this extend though?
If you bump into your neighbour getting into your car and they ask how dil is getting on you have to say “No comment” so that DIL can tell them herself?

It’s lunacy.