To ask what the rudest thing your child has said to you in a melt down?

[DrSeuss84]

Tonight my very hormonal, 12 year old, pre teen told me to “shove off” when I made a joke about her playing with Lego instead of tidying her room. Quickly followed up with “you ruin everything”. It took me back a bit to be honest. It was completely out of character. It got me wondering 2 things:

1. is this normal teenage behaviour? Or is my child suddenly going off the rails?

2. what’s the worst thing your child has said in a rage.

Yes but if for example a NT child had a tantrum over wanting a toy at a shop. That child would be In control of their emotions if they were then given it because they would be able to stop the tantrum. If my child has a meltdown over a sound then the sound could stop but their wouldn't be able to control their emotions still.

Tonight at bedtime

"I don't want to be your son anymore"
"I want a new mummy"
"I want you to go live on the moon"
"I never want to see you again"

Such a magical age (4.5)

Yes I would. I don't understand why more people don't.

Because we love our children?

So the love and responsibility you have for your kids is conditional then? Based on being perfectly behaved? Would you honestly put a 7 year old into care because they swore at you? I'm thankful that my kids are NT and the worst I've had is a 'I hate you' said in anger but for those with SEN kids parenting can be a completely different experience. You don't just give up on your own kids because they insulted you.

Fuck you

You're fat, ugly, stupid, shit mum, fucking cunt,
get a job,

give my brother to an orphanage (but he's not an orphan) well kill yourself first then

Fuck off and die
I hate you

I would rather gauge my eyes out than look at your ugly face
I wish you would die so I could get new parents

This dinner is horrible are you trying to poison me

You're voice makes me want to cut my ears off with a chainsaw

I hate this house so much I wish it would burn down with you and my sibling in it and you would die and just be ashes.

SEN kids take it to the next level don't they?

My 5 year old said "Well...well....you're not coming to my party!"

Which as I'd organised it and paid for it, I thought was pretty harsh.

Someone sprinkled some aggression on their weetabix this morning. You can absolutely ‘gatekeep’ words, because if they can mean anything then they mean nothing at all. No it’s not ‘just’ ASD children who have meltdowns, but there is certainly and evidently a difference between a meltdown and strop/tantrum/being overtired etc.

No you can't gatekeep words. You can try but that doesn't mean that anyone will follow your rules.

Also a cunt over here 👋

It isn't just gatekeeping- you are changing the meaning of a word and then gatekeeping.

What do you think a ‘meltdown’ is? Before accusing anyone else of changing the meaning.

I just wanted to say it's so nice seeing more parents with pda kids, and feels a bit less lonely in the world seeing comments like this

I think you mean a medical diagnosis.

A label is something you find in clothes etc

And a diagnosis opens a pathway to understanding the child's behaviour. AND it isnt easy to get a diagnosis and every parent to an ND child faces so many battles to even get them the right support, so no, it isnt a label

But if you want to stand by that, I'm sure you'd label a child naughty or rude if you didn't know any better and that is also a label but then that isn't acknowledged when a MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL GIVES A DIAGNOSIS, it's just called another label 🙃

No, they haven't. They've used tje correct medical DIAGNOSES. you are the one who said label. There's a difference.

Apart from nearly dying at some of these insults because they are entertaining, all I can say is that I know how I was as a pretee/teen when very hormonal. I was not a nice person and the one person I used to take all my frustration out on was my mum. And that continued for quite some time, our relationship got a ton better when I moved out.

I moved out when I was in my early 20's. But relationship with them on now sooo much better.

My 4 year old said "I don't think I want this family anymore " the meany!! Oh god I'm dreading the preteen years already 😂🙈

Well aren’t you lovely 😳

Except most people do. It is now widely recognised. Then there’s people like you…

You didnt actually just write that, did you?

I actually think thats the most vile.comment I've ever seen on here
And I've seen a few

It's a word that is commonly used, has always been commonly used and is still commonly used, to describe behaviour from any person, and it is far more widely recognised that way.

Don't try to turn this into a moral thing with the "then there's people like you" statement.

I am questioning the morals of the person that said “the world doesn’t revolve around autistic children” that comment was spiteful and completely unnecessary.