To ask what the rudest thing your child has said to you in a melt down?

[DrSeuss84]

Tonight my very hormonal, 12 year old, pre teen told me to “shove off” when I made a joke about her playing with Lego instead of tidying her room. Quickly followed up with “you ruin everything”. It took me back a bit to be honest. It was completely out of character. It got me wondering 2 things:

1. is this normal teenage behaviour? Or is my child suddenly going off the rails?

2. what’s the worst thing your child has said in a rage.

@kannnet96

I did laugh-she was cross!

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Thanks, the 'even your parents don't like you' just made me laugh as the way he said it was so serious!

I think the one that was most hurtful was probably DD, who is adopted, telling me I was the worst mum ever on a day I was feeling particularly fragile. 'No DD, given that you were removed from your birth mum for your own safety, I don't think I am the worst mum ever' very nearly came out of my mouth that day!

I hope you die of cancer.

My five year old loves to call me a "nube" when he's cross. That's minecraft speak for someone who doesn't know what they are doing. He thinks it's the worst insult ever

My then 18 year old has ADHD /ASD. His alcoholic father attacked him and on the advice of police had to move him out . I had to find accommodation at very short notice and it cost a fortune. I sneaked son from our house with his belongings but I had to stay for a few days due to work/pets . I told him he could have a friend at the house but no parties. I arrived to see 4 lads leaving. I didn’t march in but called him to say I was on my way . He called me every insult he could find and told me he was never going to live with me and to just fuck off. After an incredibly stressful few days I was broken. We got over it and still live together but it was awful.

You are clearly too old to drive her around them, and as you are so old, you need to save your money for your retirement so no treats for her.

That one is brilliant!

Surprised, or perhaps not, by how many children on this thread have labels.

That must be incredibly painful for you, but you know that they will live to regret that move. 💐

I too was uninvited to DDs third birthday party. She relented unfortunately. And I had to go back to making all the food, organising the games and making the cake.

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Oh God 💔

That's really awful - I hope you were able to talk to him afterwards & explain why that could never be said again (I also left an abusive marriage so I understand those tears)

You mean a diagnosis.

To add to the meltdown debate, I watched the new feature length edition of There She Goes On BBC and I think this demonstrates what a meltdown is like for a neuro-diverse person.

It's really not a tantrum or a teenage strop.

The episode deals with the neuro-diverse daughter as she deals with puberty and ends with the family finally get their long awaited diagnosis.

Really worth watching.

‘Labels’? Do you see all children with disabilities like items of clothing, or is it just the ones with neurological conditions? Are you equally as ableist about those who have physical disabilities?

I’ve not labelled anyone, but everyone else has.

Who has? I’ve not seen anyone ‘label’ their children anything, some have spoken about how their children’s meltdowns are extreme due to neurodivergence?

I regularly get told I'm hated and I'm the worst mummy ever by my 5 year old.. I'm like this now...

I remember one time my DD5 told me "I hope you get kidnapped mummy" all because I wouldn't give her an Easter egg on a random Tuesday.

Surprised, or perhaps not, by how many children on this thread have labels.

It's because the thread title has meltdown in it so it will attract parents of autistic children. I'm autistic myself and it's why I clicked on the thread. I assumed it was about an autistic child.

No, some people have referred to their children’s diagnoses

Do you also concern yourself with people who label themselves as diabetic, having cancer, or a broken leg? Or is it just neurodiverse people that you would prefer we didn’t diagnose?

Impossible to tell without knowing the child and witnessing the interaction.

My DD9 got upset one day last week when she found a charity shop bag and I gently suggested she has a look to see if there were any old items she wanted to donate and said I was "forcing her to throw things away" (she is a hoarder like her father!)
I also get told I am hurting her when I try and brush knots out of her hair even when I do it gently.

Tbf “labelling” is a term used a lot in literature around SEND so if people have come at it from that background it’s probably not meant to be belittling.

Fat cunt.

It killed me