To ask what the rudest thing your child has said to you in a melt down?

[DrSeuss84]

Tonight my very hormonal, 12 year old, pre teen told me to “shove off” when I made a joke about her playing with Lego instead of tidying her room. Quickly followed up with “you ruin everything”. It took me back a bit to be honest. It was completely out of character. It got me wondering 2 things:

1. is this normal teenage behaviour? Or is my child suddenly going off the rails?

2. what’s the worst thing your child has said in a rage.

Love it!😅😅😅

Apart from being hit a few times today, I got told I'm horrible, mean and a poohead by my 4 year old today... all I did was make him flush to toilet and wash his hands after refusing.

He was spoke to and had sanctions for his behaviour.

He's been pretty horrid with me all day, I'm clearly some kind of trigger (dh told me to stay in bed for a bit longer this morning as I was up most of the night with the dog. I heard them laughing and having a great time.) because when I came downstairs and he turned into a horrible little person, shouting at me, pushing me... wouldn't listen to me, melt down when he helped me make daddy his coffee, not expressing what he wants, just waving his arms and expecting me to know what he wants. Thankfully dh has been a fantastic back up and as soon as he's heard ds start and me telling him to calm down dh has come straight through and said "don't talk to mummy like that, what is wrong" and he's been able to get through to ds... not been the nicest Sunday here.

I did think we'd gotten to the bottom of it a few weeks ago, as he had been acting out and tried to jump on my stomach, I told him he can't do that because the baby is in there and might get hurt. He told me that he hated the baby, didn't want the baby and hoped he hurt it. So we had a really long cuddle and chat about things (lots changing in his life, moved house, starts school in September, new baby coming, it's a lot for a 4 year old) and he has seemed happier, but then today he's been like this again... maybe it's a preschool thing.

My five year old: "If you say no sweetie, I'll tell Daddy and he might try to make you die."

My autistic DS has called me fucking demonic. I was grudgingly impressed as he’s only 6.

When in a meltdown (used correctly - not tantrum) he just loses the power of speech and does violence instead. That’s another difference btw.

Not the worst but the funniest: my youngest child was having a bit of an argument with his brother who is eight years older. He didn't really have any insults but was SO MAD. He shouted "You. Are. A. Toy!!" at him, like Woody says to Buzz in Toy Story. He didn't understand that Buzz was actually a toy, just thought it was something you shouted in anger. We all burst out laughing and he was so upset he cried!

My dd has SEN and I’ve been told some things that hurt ..
I want a new mummy, I hate you , a rainbow of swear words
today it was “you are poor , you’re not rich you are poor” because I wouldn’t buy her something
I think “I hate you mummy” cuts the deepest

😂That is precious

Perhaps a "very hormonal 12 year old" is more likely to be a teen, rather than a pre-teen...
I'm still playing with Lego in my thirties, what was the joke you made? I wouldn't have taken it kindly at that age either. Perfect normal behaviour.

“Shove off” is quite tame! I wouldn’t be super bothered.

my husband has been called a “fucker” by more than one of our kids 😕 I’ve been told I’m the worst mum ever.

So it goes.

I get fucking bitch etc, but the one that hurts me is 'you should have taken the pills' referring to aborting his sister. He probably has ASD and can be awful when cross.

Yes same. When my autistic DS was having melt downs (before we successfully started using zero demand parenting method) he would say the exact same thing to me …..not to be naughty but because he was frustrated with not having his needs met and not understanding how to explain that.

“Please don’t walk next to me when we’re out shopping”

Gosh there are so many to choose from..

I hate you
i wish you’d die
you are the worst mummy ever
shut up

i think those are the top four.
lovely, lovely words. They bring a lump to my throat every time 🤣

My eldest told me she wished I'd go away and live somewhere else....that hurt badly. But I think it's karma - I highly suspect I have ASD that wasn't diagnosed and I was a vile child... I am really embarrassed to admit it but I used to regularly scream at my mum to just let die/why hadn't she miscarried me/I was a mistake and she should have aborted me while scratching/headbutting the wall/kicking doors....I once kicked a door of a wardrobe when I was about 7 while screaming about how much she hated me 😳 I really was awful

It must be a 6 years old thing. Mine says it to me all the time 🙄

When my very little one fixed me with his big baby blues and said ;what was it like in the olden days mummy, when you were young?''

Out of the mouths of babes.

To be fair, that is genuinely the worst thing he ever said to me. He was such an incredibly good child. I feel so blessed to have had him, but do worry somewhat that he was mixed up in the hospital.

I don't understand how he's mine, he doesn't get his placid nature from me. When I lose my temper, I have no control whatsoever, and have a strong urge to violence. I consider it an a miracle I've never been locked up. My parents used to have sit on me to restrain me as a small child, which did not help as I don't like being touched. I was very much known for my uncontrollable tantrums. Fortunately when I'm incandescent I can't find any words so at least they were spared any verbals although there was a LOT of screaming!

Some really sad tales on this thread. Huge respect to parents of neuro diverse kids. Can't imagine how difficult it must be to cope with.

My 5 year old DD often tells me “I’m going to put you in the bin!” when I don’t do what she wants 🤣

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Fifteen year old DD once rang me up while I was working away and in an important meeting over dinner. I thought she must be missing me because I was missing them. But she only phoned to say "You are scum.".

At twelve my eldest called me a cow then burst into tears and apologised profusely. I think she shocked herself.

I'd say if that's the worst you've had by teenage years you're doing amazingly.

My four year old tells me he hates me every time I ask him to do something he doesn't like at the moment. Yesterday he told me I was the worst mummy ever.

It really bothered me the first time, now I just send them my husband's way if they so clearly don't want me 😂

Kids are proper geniuses when it comes to knowing what buttons to press.

Ds told me he was going to find his dad and live with him i told him fine go ahead I've no clue where he lives but im sure you can manage he frequently tells me i don't care about him i said fine I shall empty the house of all the things a caring mother would buy he then told me he hates me all I ever do is work and I'm money hungry (his dad's words) I finally lost my temper went to work with the Internet hub in the car cleaning toilets to pay for him to be fucking ungrateful is not a place I like to be

He apologised via WhatsApp after I got home and plugged the hub in

My daughter, who has ASD, and super strong sense of smell told me this morning that I smelled really bad and needed to have a shower. She sat there wretching. Saying you smell so bad. To be fair, I had just got out of bed, but I'm a pretty clean person 🤣. Because I wouldn't shower immediately she sulked off.

This is hilarious