To ask what the rudest thing your child has said to you in a melt down?

[DrSeuss84]

Tonight my very hormonal, 12 year old, pre teen told me to “shove off” when I made a joke about her playing with Lego instead of tidying her room. Quickly followed up with “you ruin everything”. It took me back a bit to be honest. It was completely out of character. It got me wondering 2 things:

1. is this normal teenage behaviour? Or is my child suddenly going off the rails?

2. what’s the worst thing your child has said in a rage.

That sounds pretty mild to me @DrSeuss84 x

I was wondering that with the PP whose 5 yr old calls her a twat. At 5, my children were at the "poo-poo head is the ultimate insult" stage. One is ND, as it's now called, and did not know words like twat or shit at that age. I can't begin to imagine how a child would know words like that, unless they heard them at home.

@IncompleteSenten I'm so sorry. I hope you have people to talk to IRL who understand.

That they were going to "pray for another mummy".....!!!!

That they were going to "pray for another mummy".....!!!!

@Bethany7 Awww.

What a fucking vile comment! 😡
In full ASD meltdown ny DS was incapable of speech but was able to attempt to strangle me.
It’s useful to be able to have language that differentiates between that scenario and an NT child’s temper tantrum.

My 4 year old says to me “you’re not even that pretty anyway” 😂😂

I did think my very sweet 3 year old was calling me a fat cunt once... the horror!! But it was actually her talking about the Fat Controller... just the baby way she said it 😬

@SchoolShenanigans @cbacbacba no my son does not hear things like that at home. My son hears things other people say then copies which is quite common in ND children. Most of the time it's things like winner winner chicken dinner etc but on this occasion had heard this somewhere, school etc, I don't know. You may not have wanted to sound judgy but you definitely did.

Four year old: "You are all just parsnips!!"

I win.

I've remembered another one said v recently.
Looked at me and said it's good that daddy met you when you were younger as he wouldn't have married you now with all your spots and wrinkles!!!!!

It wasn't said in a melt down, just matter of factly🙄

And yes he does get consequences, there's no excuse to be mean to anyone at all. He will have a game etc taken from him for a day and I will talk through why the behavior is unacceptable when he is calmer but, again throwing punishment around while he is heightened has no effect at all and only increases the length and intensity of these incidents.

I screamed ‘go fuck yourself’ to her whilst I stormed up the stairs (in a mid-teenage rage, yes I was a horrible teenager).
My mum screamed back ‘well, you aren’t very bright are you as you know that would be a physical impossibility as I don’t have a penis’…

Reminds me of the father of a person I worked with who was in charge of a Pupil Referral Unit and screamed at by one of the boys 'You fucking wanker' and his response was 'Make your mind up, one or the other'!

Feeling for everyone on this thread with kids with special needs and some of the absolutely dim-witted responses from posters with no knowledge of ASD/ADHD etc, no empathy and no brains.

If your child has no additional needs you are fortunate and you should show a little grace.

Wasn't during a meltdown but today my 6 year old announced he was the second cleverest in the family... after daddy 🤣 like I'm insignificant and brainless. Granted my husband is clever but as he pointed out "mummy has a PhD and more letters than me!". Lol I'm just a brainless mother to him! I thought oh how rude 😆.

I don't know much about this. If this happened would that mean my child is not neurotypical? All of mine definitely have situations where they either cannot control their emotions or don't want to try to.
I can't say which it is because that requires a certain level of accurate self-analysis which they find it hard to do at a young age.

My son hears things other people say then copies which is quite common in ND children.

@ZiggZagg To be fair, all kids do that. That's why it's not seen as good for adults to swear in front of kids.

Yes it is, but when you hear the same phrase 90 million times and it's a new one the next day, you start to wonder 😫

I honestly never remember any of my 3 being rude to me, except the occasional slamming of doors when angry. We always told them that they could be as angry and objectionable as they wanted to, but they had to go to their rooms to do it. None of them are neuro divergent and I'm in awe of those of you having to deal with the challenges this must bring. However, when your children grow up and begin jobs, how are they going to deal with difficult and awkward bosses and colleagues? How do you train them out of their meltdowns and using bad language when they get frustrated? (I'm genuinely interested in this as I've never had to deal with this. Do you have support groups to help with this?)

My 3 year old told me I made him sad once. Got me right in the feels.

My 16 year old said that my 18 year old should be making all the decisions in the house as she's the only one that works in the house

I had to quit work due to a terminal illness and my husband had to quit work to become my full time carer.

It was a good few months ago she said it,but it still hurts like hell

Not my child, but the daughter of a close mate called her a "saggy titted drug addict whore" They are none of these things.

'You're not even big enough to tell me off' - I'm 5ft!