Is there something wrong with how I look?

[GEC44]

Straight to the point - I've discovered a group of colleagues are talking about me behind my back and sending each other cartoon drawings of me, saying that I look like a man, look like a drag queen, and that my nickname is Funny Face.

I've been told by a beautician that I have strong features, and an 'image consultant' that I am 'striking'. Whatever that means.

Any thoughts?

Straight to management and HR. That's bullying, completely unacceptable. I bet that there's nothing wrong with you at all. Just they're choosing to be a vicious set of bitches who are taking pride in tearing someone down. Chin up, you're better than that.

Really put the cow in coworkers

This says a lot about your work colleagues not you, I am so shocked that people actually get on like this, as others have said I would report this to higher management as it is not ok.
I'm sure you look normal and fine and unfortunately these type of horrible people find each other and group together to make their behaviour seem acceptable which it is not. Keep your head up, you're obviously a nice kind person which they have seen as an easy target. Don't let this continue on for your own sake

Your colleagues sound awful. Way easier said than done but try not to let it get to you. They aren't worth it.

This is bullying, regardless of what you look like. I am pretty sure you look totally fine. Please report your colleagues to HR.

I bet they are all f** gorgeous?

They picked on you because they are idiots. Report as bullying and ignore.

Your colleagues are bullying little pricks. Report them.

Nothing wrong with wrong features - my DD (who takes after her great-grandmother) has strong features. That great-grandmother (my grannie) was often described as a "handsome woman".

Her features were slightly masculine, I suppose, (as my daughter's are) but it was obvious she was a woman, and a strong, good-looking on at that. She looked, for want of a better word, powerful. and determined, and she was.

Katherine Hepburn was handsome; Sigourney Weaver is. Barbra Streisand; Staff Graf.

I think myself that there is a strength to "handsomeness" that isn't present in mere beauty. "Striking" means that you are noticeable - and in a GOOD way.

Your colleagues are bullies. If you had been conventionally pretty, they would have found some way to rubbish that. If you had been stunningly beautiful, they'd probably have been saying that you thought a lot of yourself because of your good looks. They are just nasty.

Try to ignore them. If you can get hold of the cartoons/ proof go to HR. This is horrible behaviour and needs to be stopped.

It doesn't matter one grain what you look like. Those colleagues are bullies and would find anything to pick on. They are the ones with something wrong with them, fuck those cunts.

*Steffi Graf

FFS autocarrot - mind your own effing business!

No one is physically ugly, no one has anything wrong with how they look. It's something put upon people by others.

I love this comment from a poster above. It's so true.

Nasty childish pathetic bullies.

how do you feel about how you look? There is nothing in this world that could make me want plastic surgery or procedures as it’s my face and I like how I look.

Strong features and being striking doesn’t mean anything other than than the literal words. Angelica Houston, Erin O’Conor, Cate Blanchet, Alec Wek, Tilda Swinton, Kristian Mcanamy, Bella Hadid. All striking women and all beautiful.

I love a strong face. And it’s not possible for there to be anything wrong with how you look, you’re you and perfect in your own right.

Your colleagues are bullying arseholes and should be dealt with accordingly.

Absolutely report them, out and out bullying.
They wouldn't get away with that at school now.
It's them, not you!

Most peoples perception of beauty boils down to how symmetrical your face is & how close in size/shape your features are to the average model of the current time.

Some women have very strong features that would be classed as not attractive on an asymmetric face, but are classed as beautiful/striking if they have a fairly symmetrical one, so you may have strong features but be fairly symmetrical.

It doesn't matter if you are the dictionary definition of ugly though, they are dreadful people.
I'd be taking the matter to HR because it's bullying plain & simple.

There is nothing wrong with your features at all, we're all part of life's rich tapestry no matter how we look or present. I'm so sorry that people have been cruel about you and even sorrier about how you found out.

There used to be this mad concept about people 'growing into their features' but the fact of the matter is that every day we have the face we're given and there is precious all we can do about it. Plus faces naturally change as we age and put on or lose weight.

Essentially that group of people aren't worth your time. If you feel you want to take it further then feel free to do so, but if you'd rather not then just avoiding them is also fine. I'm not sure that HR would do much about it - I know there are lots of people who seem think they would be the white knights, but in all truth there would be knuckles rapped and that's it. If you love your job don't jack it in due to the ignorance of others. The most important thing is that you are happy in your skin, if you're not then it's a different conversation, but don't let that conversation be driven by morons with nothing better to do.

Case in point - I think my face is fairly decent... my belly not so much. If someone called me chubby then they're not blind but it's up to me to decide if I am offended or not. As it stands I need to drop 15kg, I'm not fooling myself.

Don't many models have strong, rather masculine features? Even if it's true that you have some masculine features, there will be things about you that are feminine. You likely have a memorable face and stand out from the crowd rather than looking like everyone else. Try to embrace what makes you different. (And either report the colleagues or ignore them for the inconsequential no-nothings that they are.)

Vile, hurtful and juvenile behaviour, drawing pictures ffs! I'm appalled and angry on your behalf. They need reporting if that is something you would consider. I bet you look fine, they are just childish and pathetic, but that doesn't; mean it doesn't;t hurt.

What a bunch of nasty cunts you work with @GEC44. It winds me up so much I want to come to your place of work and do a bit of bullying myself. I hope you can get this shut down because they deserve to be shamed and whoever is in charge needs to send a very, VERY clear message that this kind of workplace bullying has no place and won’t be tolerated.

These are the kind of people that will find anything to use against the person they decide will be their pathetic entertainment. If it was me in that workplace they’d be singling me out for the massive scar I’ve got on my face. Someone else, it would be their age, accent, nose, clothing, hobbies, hair colour, speech impediment, height, weight etc etc. It’s got nothing to do with how you look and everything to do with them being nasty fuckers.

*know-nothings... Can't even blame autocorrect on that one, it was all me.

Even if you are the most ugliest person ever, the colleagues talking about you, and worse still the cartoon drawings is bullying, so please report to manager.

Your colleagues sound awful. Please report their unkind behaviour.

With regard to the term "striking" the dictionary has it as: adjective. Someone who is striking is very attractive, in a noticeable way.

I've always considered a colleague of mine to be striking in that she is remarkably attractive and you can't help but notice when she enters a room. Funnily enough a mutual friend once described her as "striking".

On another note - your colleagues are awful. Report them.

Absolutely go to your HR dept or seek HR advice from a reputable company.

I can categorically tell you now, there is nothing wrong with the way you look. How dare they bully you!!?

‘Striking’ and ‘strong features’ are huge compliments OP. Own it.

Barbra Streisand was called ugly! Barbra Streisand was stunning and beautiful (before cosmetic surgery) but her features were mocked and ridiculed. It is not okay for people to mock anyone’s looks. I’m a great believer in inner beauty and ugly personalities. Personally I like strong features they give a face character. You don’t have to put up with this crap, report your colleagues, they are despicable.