To think this has moved into bullying territory?

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On Tuesday I was accused of ruining a colleague’s pregnancy announcement. I of course apologised at the time but they wouldn’t let it go and started bringing up various times that I’ve apparently ruined other people’s “news”. I have spoken to my manager who has suggested I just get on with my work and let it all settle down but the atmosphere is now awful. Yesterday everyone was being really off with me all day and today I really can’t face going in. I’ve apologised, it wasn’t done on purpose or with malicious intent so AIbU to think if they continue with this it is actually verging on bullying now? I really don’t want to go in today :-(

This! Could you not control your reaction at all? You seem quite immature.

Hang on hang on, is this a reverse 😂

Oh dear. You sound like my mum.

It's ok to admit that deep down you don't give a shit about other people's news by the way.

Nothing worse than forced work bollocks that has nothing to do with work.

But you might want to start playing along for your own benefit (keep the job)

OP, where do you work? It all sounds very infantile and immature.

Wow op, it looks like you really don't like other people getting attention.

I think blinksy might be on to something.

This isn’t bullying. People are just sick of the way you behave.

You all sound like hard work.

Actually, do you manage to get any work done in your workplace, what with all the announcements, the shouting and the screaming and the moaning about everything?

Seems you have form and are an attention seeker, reap what you sow.

Yep those examples are all annoying and show that you're not very interested in other people's lives. I work with a woman like this. She's not a bad person and can be very kind but responds to almost any information with a statement about herself. Fine not to be interested in colleagues deep down but its rude just to speak over their news with something about yourself. You should have also controlled yourself about the wasp instead of flapping around. If you don't show manners and observe social cues at work then it will be noticed.

I work with someone like this. It's really annoying!

If your going somewhere, she's been there and it was awful.

If your trying something new, she's tried it and didn't like it.

If you have big news, she's got bigger news.

OP, I don't think you have an awareness of how your behaviour affects others. This is not bullying by others at work. They have tolerated your odd social behaviour for a while and now something has been said to you as that tolerance is waning. Your perception that your colleagues are "off" with you probably arises from their frustration at your obliviousness.

Have you or any family members ever been investigated or diagnosed with any kind of neurodiverse condition?

No it is not bullying, it is pulling you up on your atrocious behaviour. You need to work on yourself, it sounds like you are jealous of anybody having a small moment in the centre.

Unfortunately I understand exactly why they feel this way as while I do believe that consciously you may not have meant to do it, do you understand that both checking your phone during someone making a special is extremely rude, and blurting out unrelated things is especially rude.

Surely you can also see that to your colleagues, especially if you have form for similar behaviour, it might seem a bit too convenient that your good news happened to come at the exact same time as this pregnancy announcement.

If you are aware that these are social cues that are considered unpleasant then please don't worry I'm sure you can get help addressing the root cause of why you do this. Could it be due to low self esteem, is counselling an option? I do think that if this is an ongoing issue you will want to address it for your own sake as it could limit your professional relationships.

Someone did that to me recently. Told friends I was excited to go somewhere and one piped up about a bad news story they’d heard about the place. Everyone gave her side eyes. It’s really rude to do that.

I can see why they're annoyed.

Also while you are saying they are all exaggerating have you considered that you may be louder than you perceive yourself to be?

No it's not bullying.

It sounds as if everyone thought you behaved badly while your colleague announced her pregnancy - everyone. What does that tell you?

And instead of apologising, keeping your head down and vowing to try a bit harder in future, you complain to your manager, talk about being unable to face work and then post here about being bullied. That does look very much as if you are still being rather dramatic and egocentric.

OP it sounds to me like you are perhaps a bit nervous or uncomfortable in certain social situations and don't quite react in the "standard" way. The examples you've given come across a little childish or naive, I don't mean this in a harsh way but to gently point out that there's a certain set of social expectations esp at work and you're not quite conforming.
Maybe check in with your friends or family and ask them if you do similar stuff ... they may say oh yeah that's totally what you'd do. If so you can just say to your colleagues, look I'm a bit socially awkward and I sometimes do things that seem out of kilter but I'm not being malicious or horrible. It's unintended. Much like if someone is on the autism spectrum.
If it's not a typical thing for you then you need to explore what's going on at work to make you react in these ways, maybe colleagues very judgy so you tend to blurt out stuff, I don't know. And maybe you could try in the interim to speak to your manager and explain no harm was intended and keep your head down and ask them to intervene if you are feeling bullied (although this doesn't sound like bullying but more like they are just annoyed with you)

I was trying to be helpful regarding the holiday. I did tell her about the good parts of our holiday too, just wanted to make her aware of potential scams etc

regarding the wasp, I have a genuine phobia since childhood, I can’t help my reaction to them.

regarding the pregnancy, admittedly I wasn’t really listening to the conversation so didn’t realise I was interrupting something important

For the wasp alone, YABU.

How unlucky to be forced to draw attention to yourself by random events every time someone else has news.

Did you also visit the Sistine Chapel, OP?

Interesting how you think every single person who has a problem with your behaviour is exaggerating it for some sort of dramatic effect. All of them.

In the words of my great granny "If one person calls you an arsehole, they're probably an arsehole too. If a room full of people call you an arsehole, the arsehole is you."

Story toppers are the worst OP, and you sound like one.

Your manager has responded to your complaint about this by telling you to get on with your work - it sounds like you really, really ought to heed that advice!

I’m sure you have your good points, OP, just about everyone does, but if you regularly make conversations All About You then colleagues may well start to avoid you socially. That’s not bullying.