Update- My boyfriends family member paid for everyone’s ice cream, AIBU for being upset that bf didn’t say anything

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Hi all, I recently made a post about an outing with my boyfriend, his sister and her boyfriend, where we all got ice creams and the sisters boyfriend paid for everyone except mine.

I bought it up with my boyfriend calmly. He told me that what happened was: I offered to pay for my boyfriend, and the sisters boyfriend offered a few seconds later as he hadn’t heard me. For some reason, my boyfriend thought I wouldn’t want him to pay for me so didn’t suggest paying for me, and instead accepted the sisters boyfriends suggestion of paying. My boyfriend then defended the sisters boyfriend, saying that he didn’t consider it rude towards me, the sisters boyfriend wanted to pay him back for things my boyfriend has done for him.

That’s quite confusing but hope it makes some sense!

So my boyfriend essentially thought the situation was not rude in any way. I can see his point of view, at the same time not feeling that he understands my point of view in any way doesn’t feel great.

Am I being unreasonable here?

Feckinn helll
It was an ice cream. You'd have to be tight as fuck to leave one person out of buying them. He is still unreasonable!

YANBU X

Why are you starting another thread about this? Does it really matter ... ?

Is this really worth starting a second thread about? It was just an ice-cream!

I’d just forget it now

It's an icecream a few £. Let it go!

Build a bridge

fgs he is still a kid - early 20s you said!

He doesn’t have to buy everyone an ice cream

Oh and if he offered to pay for your bf maybe because they knew he was skint?

I read your last thread. You need to decide if you're happy with his response and feel it was genuine. Or do you think he is just trying to swerve the issue? If you feel he's minimising the issue and you're not happy do you feel this will be a theme in future. Is so are you willing to put up with it?

It's just one Cornetto

OMG hun YANBU. Maybe you should dump him, start a new life and become a troll x

People obsess about nonsense on here.

Hi Op, you have a Boyfriend problem I would let this one go and find someone else who is thoughtful and kind to you.

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He's just making up shit, OP.

It's endemic.

I think you need to move on

Never seen so much stress over a Magnum.... hope it was at least one of the good ones.

YANBU! It's in the small things we see how big people are. I think you've just seen how big your significant other is. Unfortunately there's no viagra for the soul.

This riveting update could really have gone on the first equally riveting thread. All this drama over a cone 🙄

I think this isn't about ice cream anymore. I think the OP's realised they need to LTB but need somebody else to put it into words.

Oh goody, I was waiting with bated breath for an update on a $3 ice cream cone and the delicate intricacies of your relationship.

I’m not trying to be petty, I’m just upset that my boyfriend didn’t try to defend me in any way, and he doesn’t try to see it from my point of view after I calmly explain how I felt, it’s not really about the ice cream at this point

Still doesn't need a 2nd thread though

You still sound about 12.

I don't think you're being petty. This clearly isn't about the ice cream or the money, it's about the fact you were left out of the group and he doesn't think you being excluded was a bad thing. Nobody wants to be left out, whether it's an ice cream or a trip to the movies. There are a bunch of threads here about women whose other friends get together and leave them out. I think the principle's the same here. The fact he sees nothing wrong with it is down to you to decide: is he always socially unaware or is not in tune with you because the love isn't there and maybe this was the little tip that made you look and see the iceberg?