To not like my DH physique anymore

[ShallowAsF]

It hasn't changed since we met so the issue is all mine. He has unusual body shape proportions, which I won't describe here in case it's outing, but I think they are very noticeable.
My issue is I have become obsessed..... I wonder what was I thinking when we got together, why I suppressed my true feelings about his body shape (telling myself at the time it was shallow, and to focus on other more important elements- like personality)... I compare his body shape constantly to others (unfavourably). I wonder if other people notice what I do and judge him and if I'm honest, me. I can see that my children have possibly inherited the same body shape from him, and I'm constantly scanning their peers for evidence that my children have this unusual body shape too, that they are different from peers. I worry that they will be judged somehow, that they will find teen years difficult if others notice and point it out.

This is not normal is it. I'm definitely being unreasonable. No one has ever commented on DH body shape to me. My DH does not have a problem with how he looks whatsoever . It's not a health issue - purely bone structure and proportions. The issue is all me. I've turned judgy and shallow and am probably projecting my feelings onto others.

I don't know what I'm expecting from Mumsnet. Maybe just somewhere to vent as I'm not going to talk about this in real life. It's exhausting, shallow and I'm a bitch.

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The bells! The bells!

It’s his height surely?

Hunchback ??

Nobbly knees??

Moobs???

I honestly don’t think anyone is going to be in Tescos next week and think ‘OMG that’s that woman’s husband off MN!!’

Is it an extra nipple?

This isnt being shallow- the fact you are now obsessed with it and worrying about your kids indicates chronic anxiety to me. Are you an anxious person generally? are you going through menopause? do you think you have any issues with OCD? I think it would be useful to look at this as there are many really good treatments for anxiety.

Yeah, its really stupid. Ted Bundy was attractive and charming- thats how he fooled his victims and he was a bloody serial killer

Gosh, your poor DH. He hasn't changed, yet how he looks is now somehow a problem?

Did you ever fancy him?

Looks like OP has used this username once.
If you can't make yourself fancy the guy then you aren't supposed to stay together.

I am picturing all sorts of weird things.

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Here for the diagram

Is it his nose? I’m reminded of the Frasier episode where Roz gets pregnant off a ONS with a huge nose and she’s terrified the baby is going to inherit it.

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If he's a star-shaped man with star-shaped children they would. That's quite a unique bodyshape and definitely outing.

Wouldn't matter if he's a five-point star or seven-point (if we're honest with ourselves any number point) we'd all clock them. Bet some MNs would judge too

Are you married to Rob Beckett? I never noticed his odd body shape until he pointed it out.

I'm going to weirdly short arms so he's a little bit T-rex 🦖

This is an excellent point.

I love this ❤️

A nubbin ? She can book him in for a nubbinectomy !

Sounds like you've got the ick

Moobs are a massive passion killer. I don't really like softness on a man's body though.

I'm always mystified by women who end up with men they don't fancy. Mind you, I admit I've struggled over the years as dh has got older and fatter. But that's mainly because he's got no reason, other than greed.

My bet is pectus excavatum. I have it, my Dad and brother have it, and I’m waiting to see if my kids have it (it tends to show up at puberty once they start growing rapidly).

I hate it. It makes me really insecure about my body. But I am incredibly lucky that I have a wonderful DH who is really positive about my body and gives me confidence. If I thought he was secretly hating it and writing on a forum about it I would be beyond devastated. Your poor DH.