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To think this is revolting?

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Namechange1000035 · 09/07/2023 22:48

Just had this conversation with my husband. For context, things are dire between us, he's been on the sofa for 6 months because 'it helps him sleep better', and he's onto his 3rd drink of the night. He came into the kitchen with just a towel on and because I was sat down, his belly button was right in my eyeline. It's quite big and round, not quite an inny or an outy.

Me: "I'm fighting the urge to draw an eye on your belly button."

Him: "I'm fighting the urge to grab you, bend you over the table and stab you repeatedly in your brown eye."

AIBU to think he's being revolting?

OP posts:
Housekeeperbatcocoa · 09/07/2023 22:55

It's not how my husband would have spoken to me. Ditto wandering around in just a towel!

froggie232 · 09/07/2023 22:59

It's a pretty bizarre exchange I'll give you that...

SallyWD · 09/07/2023 23:00

What's a brown eye? But yes, it sounds pretty horrible to me.

xyz111 · 09/07/2023 23:00

I think both is weird

xyz111 · 09/07/2023 23:00

SallyWD · 09/07/2023 23:00

What's a brown eye? But yes, it sounds pretty horrible to me.

Bent over..... think about it...

ZairWazAnOldLady · 09/07/2023 23:01

Neither of you sound very nice.

Namechanger1002 · 09/07/2023 23:01

Why are you together? And ffs don’t say because of kids.

MumYourBabyGrewUpToBeACowboy · 09/07/2023 23:02

“Stab you” isn’t the most romantic way to suggest it!!

Isyesterdaytomorrowtoday · 09/07/2023 23:02

Dreadful all round. Why are you still together?

AnneLovesGilbert · 09/07/2023 23:03

What a night.

Pixiesfan · 09/07/2023 23:04

Horrible. You need to split up.

RudsyFarmer · 09/07/2023 23:05

I thought ‘stab’ was meaning knife. Did he actually mean anally rape you?!

MajorDanger · 09/07/2023 23:06

The belly button thing is a joke.
The retort that he wants to grab you and shove his penis in your anus is a vile threat.

BluNomad · 09/07/2023 23:06

is it just banter, my Dh & I often say things as a joke which neither of us mean?

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 09/07/2023 23:09

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Pickitupdear · 09/07/2023 23:10

BluNomad · 09/07/2023 23:06

is it just banter, my Dh & I often say things as a joke which neither of us mean?

You often joke to your husband that you’re fighting the urge to anally rape him?

Seeleyboo · 09/07/2023 23:11

Sounds extremely violent. Many a true word said in jest OP. Leave asap.

BabyShaark · 09/07/2023 23:11

Your husband sounds unpleasant

arethereanyleftatall · 09/07/2023 23:12

BluNomad · 09/07/2023 23:06

is it just banter, my Dh & I often say things as a joke which neither of us mean?

Banter? Anal rape is banter?

readbooksdrinktea · 09/07/2023 23:13

I'm so, so glad I'm single. My god, there are some awful men out there.

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 09/07/2023 23:14

This won't go down well with middle class mumsnet, joke or not.

BruceAndNosh · 09/07/2023 23:14

And they say romance is dead...

BluNomad · 09/07/2023 23:16

arethereanyleftatall · 09/07/2023 23:12

Banter? Anal rape is banter?

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Absolutely not. Sorry retracting my comment

TappingTed · 09/07/2023 23:17

You started it. You belittled and insulted him, and there was no need. Clearly there is no functional relationship there any more with him on the sofa etc so why are you even “together”?

What he said was disgusting, yes… but I don’t think either of you are exactly covered in glory from this little exchange.

If you can’t say anything nice…

StellaF · 09/07/2023 23:17

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