To think that the majority of women would leave their DH/DP

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…. If they could have the same standard of living and home without them.

I’m interested to see what proportion of MNetters are actually happy with their lives with their partners rather than just trapped by practicalities of life and finances.

That’s lovely

No, I love my DH. We're joined at the hip and have been for nearly 35 years.

Not at all. We’ve been together since we were 14 so I’m definitely not staying for what financial security he brings. I’m the kind of person who would be happy living in a camper van, it’s my husband who wants the big house etc so definitely not staying around just for that.

I'm not saying if I would or wouldn't, but I agree with you OP, I can't seem to vote on my phone though.

So many high earning, financially independent woman, blissfully married to their best friend. Who knew. 😆

I'm a single parent and happy but what I read on here and hear makes me grateful. There are some rare decent men but even those I know, their wives don't know the half or it.

Same! I've never felt trapped. Maybe by children and pregnancy but only temporarily!

Well
Since I'm the income earner I can afford my life without him. Would I want to? Absolutely not. He enriches my life in a million ways big and small. I utterly adore him.

I'm lucky to have him, he's lucky to have me. We're great together.

@RestingMurderousFace I’m not high earning or financially independent but doesn’t mean I’m not happily married 🤷‍♀️

I would be better off financially without my husband. It'd be a bloody miserable life without him though - he's my oppo.

I think it's a sad premise of the OP that most women are dependent on a man's salary.

So going by this thinking women are only able to a decent standard of living because of men? Are we back in the 1950's?

I have the best of both worlds. A partner who I love to pieces who doesn't live with me. Can recommend.

I would! Seems I'm bucking the trend a bit! I love him, but like a best mate. Don't find him attractive anymore. He doesn't look after himself just sits there in a pair of jogging bottoms and a can of strongbow!

God I sound like a bitch!

Oh and I earn slightly more than him, but only slightly. In the SE that means absolutely nothing.

Nope my husband is my bestie. Just going to bed now later than I should because i spent the last hour sitting and chatting with him about shite.

Women can be equal or higher earners but two salaries is still higher than one

My DH was my best friend in all the world. Financially I don't think I’m better or worse off since he died. But I’m infinitely poorer in all the ways that matter.

I am happy with him, and have no desire to not be.
The reason mn is skewed is because if all the happy people mention it, it sounds like we are insensitive/tone deaf to all the others struggling.
Same as why we don't mention being comfortable in pretty much any part of our lives!

Infinitely happier without either useless twat ex husbands. Why I bothered I don't know

I’m so sorry for your loss

Absolutely never! I adore my husband.

I would leave. In fact if I could have earned more money and bought my house on my own I’d never have married him in the first place.

I don't fancy doing life without my DH. He is the only person who makes me laugh every day, loves the DC (and the dogs) as much as I do, and seems to find me good company - he is physically hot also imo.

I’d feel as if I’d lost a limb without my bloke. After 25 years together we’ve become enmeshed.

Absolutely not, he’s my best friend. Days together are my favourite ones, even if not doing anything particularly special.