Or is this an unhinged thing to say?

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Been seeing ExDP for the past nine months.

He hates the thought of me being with anyone else.

Today he has asked me if I have slept with anyone else, because the last time we had sex I "felt different".

Is this even a thing? Wtf?!

So he didn't see anyone during your time apart?

Jesus Christ my Fanny would clamp shut if my partner spoke to me like that!

maybe he’s still a bit soft. Maybe his technique isn’t upto muster.

why would you be with someone who talks to you like this?

honest to god this is doomed and is going to be an ever devolving shit show based around his precious little insecurities. And if you stand up for yourself he’s going to do
the gaslighting routine about how you’re being over sensitive.

If a mate was telling you this stuff would you tell her what a catch the bloke sounds? Or to dump his ass.

It does. Now I know why I felt so grossed-out reading it. It's misogynistic incel tripe. Ugh.

“Nothing about me has changed. Maybe your penis has shrunk?”

What a horrible man. Why are you sleeping with him? He doesn't trust you or respect you.

And when he reacts badly to that, tell him
he’s being over sensitive.

I'm so tired of people weaponising 'anxiety' as if mentioning it gives them a get out of jail free card to act like a dick. If he feels anxious that's his issue to sort. What a cock.

I know why I felt so grossed-out reading it. It's misogynistic incel tripe. Ugh.

Ugh is about right.

Oh Christ OP, you deserve better than this. I hope you realise this soon.

Echoing what others are saying- stop wasting time with this man. What he is saying reflects very badly on him. You can't feel different or looser (unless you'd literally just had sex with someone else, and even then it's an unreliable notion). Have you asked him the same question? "Because it feels smaller"

Oaft. You must be desperate.

You're an idiot for getting back together with such a tosser. Remind yourself why you broke up and dump him. Take some responsibility for yourself, he's clearly and arsehole and for some reason You're putting up with his gaslighting. Good luck.

No need for that. Man saying enough misogynistic shit to her without women who don’t know her jumping in. Trying to give what may have been an important/serious relationship another go isn’t ‘desperate’.

Was insane jealousy and sexual violence the reason he became Ex?

Sadly this is the type of man that will no doubt have a string of children in his wake

Whose mothers all start mumsnet threads about him.

It is so frustrating to think of children involved in a mess like this - where the man is vile and the woman is vulnerable, naive and very very low standards.

It’s not your responsibility to reassure his “anxieties” (although I call BS he’s either deflecting or negging you to make you doubt yourself/control your behaviour).

How could you bear to sleep with him every again after that comment? What a vile excuse for a human.

What I don't understand is whether he has been stewing on this for 9 months tha or thinks you cheated on him last week? Either way, he clearly is a loser. And I see when you point out how ride he is he turns it on you. Stick with being broken up i say.

Tell him his cocks got smaller and see how he reacts.

Seriously though, he was your ex for a reason. If you weren't with him, if doesn't matter who or how many people you slept with because it's nothing to do with him.

Throw that one back honey, he’s not it

Say "no, have you? "
Then bin him again and do better for yourself

Ew. He clearly doesn’t understand how womens bodies work.

More women putting up with abusive misogynistic men.

Why you’d invite a man like this back after you’ve broken free is beyond me.

"No DP. This is not a thing. If it were a thing, that would mean that I've had sex with a man whose penis is much bigger than yours. Is that what you want to know? That your penis is much smaller than my hypothetical lover's? I think it's far more likely that your penis has shrunk to match your brain capacity."

@Shodan Absolutely this!

He is negging you OP
'I just like you so much I get anxious about you sleeping with others' = 'it isn't as good having sex with you anymore cos your vagina is so loose'

There are ways to say the first without being horrifically insulting. This is manipulative behaviour. He isn't a normal person being a bit anxious.

You KNOW this which is why you came on here to check.