AIBU to be upset because they didn’t like My Home?

[StarshipCaptain]

A former work colleague came to visit me at home a week ago. Now, I’m all for people being blunt and honest, but I really didn’t expect them to criticise everything in My Home from my plants to my furniture to my wall colours, to the location of my property to the Holly bush out the front… When they left I felt really deflated and upset. I don’t want to invite anybody into my home again.

I’m very happy with my home and the way it is, I don’t have expensive things but I like what I have and I’ve made the best of what I’ve got. It’s my sanctuary and calming place for me to relax. I know I shouldn’t care what others think, but I’m terribly upset that somebody would dislike it so much, and tell me.

That is rude and unpleasant behaviour. You don't need people who spread negative energy like this? I wouldn't bother to have anything to do with this person in any way OP.

I had a friend previously kept telling me I shouldn’t have blue things in the bathroom, this was years ago and I had a nautical theme and I liked it. And she mentioned it every single time she came over. I have to be honest I don’t like the beige in her bathroom, but I never once mentioned it.
I would. "Well, I don't like your beige bathroom, but I don't keep going on about it."

I'm sorry to report that I was too taken aback to think of a witty comeback. Bad taste guy is the husband of one of my oldest (now also sadly ex-) friends and over the years turned out to be a nasty piece of work underneath his nice guy persona. My poor friend was clearly embarrassed by his comment, so I just told him we'd certainly have no trouble selling as the neighbours with an identical layout and fewer period features had a ton of interest and got a great price.

They sound exceptionally rude.

She'd have hated my bathroom, the floor is blue!

This is a simple case - he’s a bully, have no further contact.

I only know one person who is rude enough to do this.

We don't invite her any more. Also avoid going to her house, because - funnily enough - it's a total shithole...

Nah, they are probably just a cunt.

I know two people rude enough to do this - my mother and my sister. They feel they have a duty to critique everything, everyone and the whole universe. They live together in a "shithole" that is honestly a health hazard, so much so the my adult daughter won't take her child to visit. It's had zero money spent on it in 56 years.

When we moved here my mother did her usual unasked for appraisal - "Not exactly cosy is it?", "Oh, you call it parkland? (area in front of our house with beautiful trees and lots of wildlife) I see it more as wasteland".

I just know they sit at home criticising everything we have, say or do. It's jealousy and low self esteem. Emotionally healthy people don't behave like that.

Whenever someone is unpleasant or rude to you, it’s almost always about them and their issues, and not you. Feel pity for them! I’m sorry you were treated this way, I’m sure your home is lovely 😊

He does, but this behaviour has made me want to push him as far away as possible… whatever he thought might happen between us will never happen now. If he thinks treat them mean, keep them keen is going to work then that’s backfired. If

Maybe this was his plan… I know he likes me like that, but this was not the right way to go about it. He’s just pushed me so far away. I don’t want anything to do with him now. I don’t need constant flattery but I don’t need criticism and insults either.

Definitely cut him out of your life. He fancies you and he's negging - he's just outed himself as a huge misogynist.

This person has deep problems and insecurities. Friendship is so awkward and anxiety provoking to them that it feels better to eff up any possibility of a friendship before it happens. I unfortunately am saying this from personal experience of being that type of person. Please don’t let this upsetting experience hurt you since they are the one w the problems. I’m sure your home is comfortable and wonderful.