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Husband and Chinese take away

345 replies

SeaSnakes1 · 27/06/2023 18:49

We all love a Chinese take away in our house - we have three teenagers. A couple of months ago my husband had to go gluten free. Chinese take away is limited in terms of gluten free options so he’s said he’d rather not bother- fair enough his choice.

He’s now said nobody else in the house can get one as it’s cruel. He adored the Cantonese chicken balls and chicken chow mien. I thought he was joking , but he’s not. He has seriously said that it’s totally unacceptable and unfair for anyone to get a Chinese take away.

AIBU?

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sweetdreamstenasee · 27/06/2023 19:36

dont know if he drinks but hoping he does to make this point..

Did he give up booze in your pregnancies?

Allmarbleslost · 27/06/2023 19:38

Tell him you've gone vegetarian for health reasons and he's no longer allowed to eat meat because it isn't fair.

Münchner · 27/06/2023 19:39

I once had a 'gluten free' housemate like this.

I bought the most expensive artisan sourdough loaf from the local market and ate the whole thing in front of her. She didn't see the funny side.

Thereoughttobeclowns · 27/06/2023 19:40

Wow. What a selfish twat.

MerryHen · 27/06/2023 19:41

YANBU.

I can't eat dairy or soy. It does suck having limited options, there are times I would love a take out pizza with actual cheese, or to choose any cake I want at a cafe, or to get an ice cream at the park. Unfortunately I can't, but I don't stop my family eating these things- I'd feel like a right dick not letting them enjoy the foods they like!

Instead we compromise, I'll get a different take out option, we'll sometimes go to places we know cater well for me even if they're not everyone else's favourite, we buy in treats I can have.

It's give and take isn't it, your DH has to learn to give a bit.

newtb · 27/06/2023 19:41

Generally, all sauces in chinese food are thickened with either cornflour or to have a translucent sauce, arrowroot. Thought they were both gf.
Buy him a cheap pasta machine from Aldi, and he can make his own GF spaghetti, and a second-hand copy of Kenneth Lo's Book of chinese cookery, and he can do the food for everyone.

CheeseFiend40 · 27/06/2023 19:41

Does he never go out? Just do it on an evening that he’s not there.

Atethehalloweenchocs · 27/06/2023 19:42

He needs to grow the fuck up - I bet if it was someone else in the family he would be singing a different tune.

Sunnydaysaredefhere · 27/06/2023 19:42

Ltb
Love Those (chicken) Balls

bussteward · 27/06/2023 19:43

Put the divorce petition inside a GF fortune cookie for him.

Seeingadistance · 27/06/2023 19:43

TimeToMoveIt · 27/06/2023 19:15

Now I really want Chinese 😩

So do I!

Think I’ll go for it as haven’t had Chinese for ages, and starting with Personal Trainer later in the week so this can be my last hurrah!

Maraudingmarauders · 27/06/2023 19:44

Our local Chinese has a whole GF menu, can you look for somewhere nearby that might do the same?

Archeron · 27/06/2023 19:44

Are you intending to put gluten on the plates and cutlery he eats off? Are you prepared to scrub them after you’ve eaten Chinese to remove any traces of gluten? Or keep separate plates and cutlery for your gluten food? This is not a joke - coeliac disease can be that sensitive.

OneTC · 27/06/2023 19:44

Instant divorce

Zarataralara · 27/06/2023 19:46

YANBU , he is. He can’t dictate what everyone else eats.

pictoosh · 27/06/2023 19:46

What a selfish twat.

Privatemedical246 · 27/06/2023 19:47

Where do you live? There is a nice gf Chinese down in Surbiton London. Maybe a family trip out could be a compromise but defo don't not get Chinese just because of him. That's not fair for the family. He needs to suck it up!

recoveringa · 27/06/2023 19:47

Myself and my partner sometimes get two different takeaways when we go for one! Nobody can fancy the same thing all the time, and if you're treating yourselves, you might as well enjoy it. He needs to suck it up!

Megifer · 27/06/2023 19:49

What a knobber. Get on Ubereats immediately and order your Chinese takeaway.

I'm so over pathetic men. Wanker.

Azandme · 27/06/2023 19:49

Archeron · 27/06/2023 19:44

Are you intending to put gluten on the plates and cutlery he eats off? Are you prepared to scrub them after you’ve eaten Chinese to remove any traces of gluten? Or keep separate plates and cutlery for your gluten food? This is not a joke - coeliac disease can be that sensitive.

At no point has the op said he has coeliac disease. I should imagine she would if it were that.

Coeliac disease isn't the only reason people go gluten free. Intolerance, IBS are just two.

Zanatdy · 27/06/2023 19:49

Are you sure you don’t have an extra teenager in your home as he’s sure acting like one. I could only eat porridge and yoghurt for 18 months at one point due to illness. In that time I cooked many delicious meals I couldn’t touch and paid for many fatty takeaways that would have caused me a lot of pain. Wouldn’t have dreamed of telling my kids they couldn’t enjoy their favourite dishes as I couldn’t. He needs to get a grip

TequilaNights · 27/06/2023 19:52

Every Chinese I asked for will accommodate gluten free, ask for menu of what they can do gluten free for him.

HAF1119 · 27/06/2023 19:53

For what it's worth I've done gluten free and certainly didn't say no one else could get a Chinese!

The place I used had Singapore noodles which were made with rice noodles instead of the wheat ones if that's remotely useful to you :)

But I would certainly say the rest of the family can get food from where they wish to - there are GF options, rice, meat dishes without noodles/batter etc

DarkDarkNight · 27/06/2023 19:56

That’s really out of order. Surely there is something he can have? A rice based dish maybe, or change takeaway to one that has GF options. If he is serious it is controlling and he has no right to demand it.

would he do this for you? If you were lactose free and couldn’t have your normal pizza would he agree to never get pizza again?

RiseYpres · 27/06/2023 19:56

He;s a dick. My DH went vegan AND teetotal in 2018 and he would never dream of dictating what any of us can eat or drink.

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