AIBU not to cancel DD's party despite the house next door being in mourning?

[Padstow58]

It's my DD's birthday today. 13 and very excited. For weeks she's been planning a party at our house and for 8 girls to sleep over in the tent in our garden. She's decorated our garden and it's all ready.

Next door are a retired couple and a few weeks ago, he was taken into hospital. We've been keeping in touch with the lady neighbour so have been aware that he's not been doing too well.

This morning she let me know he died in the night.

DH now says they are a house of mourning and it would be disrespectful to hold a party next door.

But I think, as sad as it is, that it's not fair to cancel DD's party that she's been planning and looking forward to for so long.

We are detached and I'll make sure they are quiet out there after 10pm so hopefully they won't be disturbed too much by it all.

Does that sound reasonable?

@LilyTuesday I’m glad you acknowledge you were wrong. You should ask for your posts to be deleted imo. They’ve derailed the thread and caused issues between posters. Others have ended up being deleted for commenting on it, when even you acknowledge it was wrong, doesn’t work and are apologising for it.

I had a right go at you. But yes I suppose really I was annoyed at your neighbours.

Peace and love ❤️

I completely agree, having read the full thread. Lily, as a mother that has also suffered the trauma of a stillbirth (ten years ago for me, but still very painful) I completely empathise with you and I agree that sometimes your own coping mechanisms you find can be different to what anyone else would expect, and that’s ok. However, it’s not ok to then bring that to an online anonymous forum and deliberately deceive and antagonise people for hours on end. If you want to speak about your trauma, I’m sure if you posted about it then you would receive a lot of support. I would suggest for all of your posts to be removed.