The original thing was about continual lack of wits - not the oil, that was just an example. I've explained I was angry and the cat litter thing was the last straw.
The speech and reading thing- I swear some people think he's going around spouting constant gibberish as if he's short circuiting - it really isnt like that and you wouldnt notice, It's very intermittent, very new, and he has only started complaining of the reading thing this week. He's really good at concealing problems, and in his snappy stressy moody state is often hard to assess.
His boss has merely commented that he's become forgetful and could use some time off, he works from home so she wouldn't know about much of it.
Similarly with his mood, absent mindedness and stress I really have been trying to make him see a doctor - but I'm also human and of course am starting to go slowly mad with daily lost items, ruined food, forgotten tasks, wrong items purchased, bills unpaid when he's said they are, repeated questions I've already answered several times and new limits on things he has always had no problem doing.
We don't have a lot of help around here with regards to family.
Lastly - he's been away a lot dealing with said issues, and we haven't seen each other that much recently thanks to my job taking up some evenings/weekends and his MA classes.
Hopefully that explains it, and once again sorry for dripfeeding.
And if you think I'm making a big deal about vegetable oil on lettuce, feel free to try it