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to accept my DD’s relationship with her professor?

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hebees · 21/06/2023 15:39

DH says it’s disgusting. DD is 21 and capable of making her own decisions, her partner (55) seems a decent man. I think it’s completely acceptable in this country and she can make her own mistakes.

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IsThisReallyPC · 22/06/2023 20:39

Honeychickpea · 21/06/2023 19:57

The Land Act of 1923 allowed those who were formerly tenants to buy their land, so your grandparents and great grandparents were most likely land owners.

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They were allowed 1 acre of their own land back so they could grow food for themselves.
My grandparents on both sides all rented their land.
Very few owned their own
The idea that they could ‘buy their land’ is hilarious. They were bare foot and survived on cabbage and stirabout ( porridge).

LaMaG · 22/06/2023 20:49

Winecrispschocolatecats · 21/06/2023 16:35

She's an adult. It's a massive age gap and the power imbalance is a major red flag, but... she's an adult and free to make her own mistakes.

If you and your husband disapprove and make it known to her, she's more likely to dig her heels in. At most I'd be asking her to consider the power dynamic and think about whether he could have an impact on her degree, either directly or indirectly if they broke up.

At 21 it's a bit of a thrill to be with someone who's a lot more mature and more financially secure than the students around her. But in time it's more than likely that the age gap will cause issues and they'll break up, so I'd be tempted to let it all play out.

And be there to pick up the pieces.

Agree 100%. At 21 if my mother attempted to interfere in my relationships the only relationship ending would be the one with my Mum. I don't know what these other posters expect you to do with her - lock her up perhaps? What you or DH think of this man isn't going to make any difference. Maybe tell her your concerns but then it's time to let her make her own decisions.

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