AIBU to not want to share a room with my boss?!

[NotASharer]

Hello!

I realise this may sounds rather trivial but I'm really hacked off about it, I'm winding myself up and need to vent.

I'm going about 5 hours across the country in a few weeks to do a training course and this morning accommodation was booked, only to realise that they have booked myself (F28) and my boss (F38) a twin room! I asked prior to sending the request that I have my own room, thinking that they wouldn't even dream of making us share.

When the booking team sent the twin room back, I said, in a nice way: 'No offence, but I'd really rather have my own room and my own space!' and she emailed them back requesting that. Booking team replied and said no, we have to share as there aren't any rooms left apart from twins and because of the cost!

I've checked the website and there are plenty of rooms left so we wouldn't have to share. I've shared my thoughts with my boss and said I thought it was a bit ridiculous, they have never expected our male team members to share a room so why do we have to?

She looks fairly put out and a bit offended by how P'd off I am about it, which I just find totally bizarre and now I'm not sure how much I can push for my own room. She keeps saying 'oh it'll be fine!' which yes, I realise it's not the worst thing in the world.

I really like her as a person but I would REALLY rather not share a room with my boss for 3 days and spend every waking moment with her, she is a sleep in, get up 15 minutes before she needs to leave, throw some clothes on kind of person. Whereas I'm a get up at 5:30/6am, go for a walk/run and have a coffee in peace kind of person.

Can't even fart in peace 😂

I do have the option of speaking to the director about it tomorrow and telling him I feel uncomfortable about it but the twin room is booked now so not sure if it would be a massive hassle and I should just grin and bear it.

I'm absolutely dreading it. I adore my own space. I don't even sleepover at friends houses 😂I was quite looking forward to star fishing in the middle of a big double bed without DH's snoring for a few nights!

AIBU?!

YABU - Get over it!!!
YANBU - I would rather sleep in my car than share a room with my boss 😂

This happened to me except the woman I was to ‘share ‘ with was a colleague I had never met ( different work patterns). I sent a message back to the male manager that if there was a war on I would gladly share and do my bit but until then they had to stump up for two rooms ( the company were making loads of money). Apparently this response caused much applause from the booking team and the manager backed down .😁

Yanbu. I would book.my own room if I really had to go.

Glad it’s sorted!

Room sharing is normal if you work in the non-profit sector. Sometimes we even shared a bed. We all knew each other and worked in the same team.

I have only read the title not the finer details but YANBU - I wouldn't want to share a room with a boss and at that you should ever be asked to.

yanbu I don’t even share a room with my bestie(as much as I love her) when we go on breaks/holidays. We both just like our own space.

Just tell them that you have night terrors and sleep walk. That'll make her less put out and eager to get u another room lol.

Excellent - and correct - result! I know exactly how you feel as I've been in a similar position. 🌹

Absolutely No !

my boss avoided booking her own room on a night out far away once, even after I told her consecutively to book her room otherwise there would be no rooms left. She didn’t.
she obviously expected to just share with me or be offered to stay over which I refused till last minute.
she ended up not drinking and having to drive back home late at night back home lol

i am proud of myself, mission accomplished for sticking to my guns.

these people need to get a grip and understand that everybody is different. Is not as if you are a teenager sharing rooms with your class mates is it ?

pay for your own or get sick on the day of the trip is my advise.

Gosh when I was last sent away with work I had to share a room with a girl I met in the room from another store!
My Mum has had to work away a lot too and often had to share rooms. I thought it was pretty normal. Not ideal but normal. I’m surprised by the comments

Great update

I would absolutely hate this but I know many people wouldn’t mind. I need privacy; I wouldn’t even share with a friend. It stresses me out.
My husband, kids, mum and sisters are the only people I can out up with.

I would pay for my own room rather than share.

I wouldn’t share with my boss but I have shared with close colleagues when I was younger and (as we were already very good friends) I didn’t have a problem with it. She’s still one of my best friends 25 years later. Earlier this year 4 of us (mixed male and female) shared an air B&B during a trade show but we all had our own bedroom and bathrooms so all was ok. I wouldn’t have shared bedrooms with them as I’m a lot older now and they aren’t close friends. I’d put my foot down if I were you.

Just read the update - glad it all got sorted out and you've got your own room. Always worth sticking up for yourself!